I am TOTALLY kidding.... :laugh:

23 year old Fair and handsome doctor settled in the 'states' seeks a beautiful Brahmin girl from a good family who should be:

1. a doctor
2. Fair and Beautiful
3. able to cook/clean
4. Fair and Beautiful
5. Love domesticity
6. Fair and Beautiful
7. Knit
8 Fair and Beautiful

Should be willing to have children right away.
Please send 'biodata' and 'photos' to listed address

Dont these personal's piss you off? I cant believe so many people still do this $hi!

23 year old Fair and handsome doctor settled in the 'states' seeks a beautiful Brahmin girl from a good family who should be:

1. a doctor
2. Fair and Beautiful
3. able to cook/clean
4. Fair and Beautiful
5. Love domesticity
6. Fair and Beautiful
7. Knit
8 Fair and Beautiful

Should be willing to have children right away.
Please send 'biodata' and 'photos' to listed address

Dont these personal's piss you off? I cant believe so many people still do this $hi!

LOL :laugh:

LOL :laugh:

I'm visiting from the loungey.but yeah.theyre annoying.stupid personals.but i guess they really work for some people?

how can a person be knit? i don't get it.

unless we're talking about being able to knit, which by the way, all jokes aside, is pretty hard. i keep dropping knots.

Oh yeah, I meant should be able to knit.

Yes you will be surprised at the number of people who still do this. The funny thing is that people who are unable to find spouses here in the USA have more ridiculous demands than the people back home.

By the way, for some of the people here who were born and raised in India, what is this fascination with "fair and lovely"? I see it in almost every personal ad out there... and the people I know who post these things usually look like toads themselves... please explain.

old indian mentality
white = good, washed with milk = fair
rich people used to take baths in milk or something, maybe it was royalty, and so there's some subconscious association with fair = rich = good person.

at least, that's my analysis.

And american like tanned looks when they themselves are doodh se dhule........ :D

old indian mentality
white = good, washed with milk = fair
rich people used to take baths in milk or something, maybe it was royalty, and so there's some subconscious association with fair = rich = good person.

at least, that's my analysis.


That is so ironic because some of the most beautiful indian women I have seen out there have been dark.... I guess the conservative desi's dont know what they are missing.

I cant wait till the day where getting the all might "green card" aint an issue... because then the brahmin toad looking guys who demand "fair and lovely brides" can be ensured life long virginity :laugh:

Maybe it's just the systemic racism built into most cultures. I think it's pretty ironic that Indians hold the Brits in such low regard and yet desire a washed down version of their skin.

Naw, I'm not a militant hippie, but one does wonder what goes through the heads of these people.

And might I add... knitting is a pretty cool skill! God knows I can't do it (not that I've tried).

hey i thought of another reason for the whole why fair is good thing.
maybe it's not as blatant as i originally thought -- maybe it's all a desire to join/form an alliance with a family that can afford to/has the 'sense' to keep their daughters inside away from the sun. maybe that means money, maintainence of virture, and avoidance of skin cancer (there, we brought medicine back into this thing :) yay!).

(maybe someone should go to india and ask what's up)

The reason that most cultures ranging from Southern Europe, North Africa, West/South Asia (Middle East to India) and Asia/East Asia prefer lighter skin tones is due to economics.

It is a perception that the darker you are the more time you spend outdoors as a laborer etc thus you are not as well off as a lighter person.
Sound silly? Yes, but that is the warped mentality held by many however there is a teeny tiny grain of truth to it.

In Greece the women working the vineyards and olive plantations will wrap themselves from head to foot in clothing to hide an exposed area of skin from the sun.This is done in an effort to avoid any darkening of the skin from excessive UV and IR exposure.

Similar things are seen in other parts of the world.
In most cultures fairness is a presumed 'good' quality to have, even in Western lore........'mirror mirror on the wall......who is the fairest of them all?...'

Anyways skin color is only skin deep as testified to by the various gene studies done recently, it appears all humanity shares 99.7% or so of their genome.

However such things will never dissuade a majority of people as we after all are visual beings. If we were blind everything and everyone would be black!

I will speak for myself, being considered 'fair' by Indian standards, I am constantly asked if I am a Greek, an Italian or a Spaniard and it gets rather annoying.
I feel 'safer' in the summers when I can get a little color on me.

I remember one time I was actually in a Religious Studies course that focused on Hinduism. I was rather 'annoying' to the professor :laugh: and in that class I was sitting with a group of Indians (by ethnicity) of various shades of color.

They thought I was some white guy or a mix of some sort.
I was like man people really do base your identity on color (even gradations of color, I am not white/pink but white/olive toned).

So yeah it seems that being of a certain ethnic origin people tend to focus in on skin tone more keenly than others.

I also have to mention that I heard a Chinese friend's mother say that the daughter should avoid the sun or she will be mistaken for a Vietnamese.

I was shocked.
I focussed on some Chinese girls at uni for a bit and was amazed at how a significant number of them would shield their faces from sunlight with binders or anything in hand.
Amazing stuff.
I mean let's face it, an individual will always have his or her preferences so is it right to really knock someone for that? It is like saying to someone, you are a bad person for choosing a red car over a blue one. However I do feel it is NOT right to be judging someone based on their color as a group or an individual. Heck I have seen very attractive black women around, and very nasty white ones. Heck I have seen very nasty black women and very attractive white women. I have also met very attractive women that were down-right ugly in terms of their personality and color didnt matter.

The reason that most cultures ranging from Southern Europe, North Africa, West/South Asia (Middle East to India) and Asia/East Asia prefer lighter skin tones is due to economics.

It is a perception that the darker you are the more time you spend outdoors as a laborer etc thus you are not as well off as a lighter person.
Sound silly? Yes, but that is the warped mentality held by many however there is a teeny tiny grain of truth to it.

In Greece the women working the vineyards and olive plantations will wrap themselves from head to foot in clothing to hide an exposed area of skin from the sun.This is done in an effort to avoid any darkening of the skin from excessive UV and IR exposure.

Similar things are seen in other parts of the world.
In most cultures fairness is a presumed 'good' quality to have, even in Western lore........'mirror mirror on the wall......who is the fairest of them all?...'

Anyways skin color is only skin deep as testified to by the various gene studies done recently, it appears all humanity shares 99.7% or so of their genome.

However such things will never dissuade a majority of people as we after all are visual beings. If we were blind everything and everyone would be black!

I will speak for myself, being considered 'fair' by Indian standards, I am constantly asked if I am a Greek, an Italian or a Spaniard and it gets rather annoying.
I feel 'safer' in the summers when I can get a little color on me.

I remember one time I was actually in a Religious Studies course that focused on Hinduism. I was rather 'annoying' to the professor :laugh: and in that class I was sitting with a group of Indians (by ethnicity) of various shades of color.

They thought I was some white guy or a mix of some sort.
I was like man people really do base your identity on color (even gradations of color, I am not white/pink but white/olive toned).

So yeah it seems that being of a certain ethnic origin people tend to focus in on skin tone more keenly than others.

I also have to mention that I heard a Chinese friend's mother say that the daughter should avoid the sun or she will be mistaken for a Vietnamese.

I was shocked.
I focussed on some Chinese girls at uni for a bit and was amazed at how a significant number of them would shield their faces from sunlight with binders or anything in hand.
Amazing stuff.
I mean let's face it, an individual will always have his or her preferences so is it right to really knock someone for that? It is like saying to someone, you are a bad person for choosing a red car over a blue one. However I do feel it is NOT right to be judging someone based on their color as a group or an individual. Heck I have seen very attractive black women around, and very nasty white ones. Heck I have seen very nasty black women and very attractive white women. I have also met very attractive women that were down-right ugly in terms of their personality and color didnt matter.

Here here. I think the mechanism is relatively well understood. The issue is whether it's right to discriminate against another for his/her skin colour. When someone makes a sweeping statement like "must be fair skinned", there is an implied prejudice. Having a lighter skin colour, I'll admit that I rarely give colour a second thought. I can't say the same for someone with a darker complexion who is rejected because of it.

Since our personal preferences are very much affected by our upbringings, I'd say we're all a little prejudiced.

wait, before we say prejudice.. does anybody actually follow those checklists? I mean, do people want people to match all of them, or some, or what? 'cause I was just thinking, i can't think of any dad who doesn't think his daughter is fair and lovely and wonderful :-p. I would think people get all sorts of responses, and once they actually meet the people personality and such would play a bigger part then casual readers of the personnel section might think? maybe? hopefully?

wait, before we say prejudice.. does anybody actually follow those checklists? I mean, do people want people to match all of them, or some, or what? 'cause I was just thinking, i can't think of any dad who doesn't think his daughter is fair and lovely and wonderful :-p. I would think people get all sorts of responses, and once they actually meet the people personality and such would play a bigger part then casual readers of the personnel section might think? maybe? hopefully?

First of all I want to point out that there are a number of fathers out there who don't think their daughters are fair, lovely and wonderful.

Secondly, let's pray the husband and wife-to-be are given enough time to get to know one another. But I assume that unless a family is in a state of desperation, it will preclude the undesirable choices based on "biodata". Only the filtered pool is ultimately allowed to demonstrate its personality.

First of all I want to point out that there are a number of fathers out there who don't think their daughters are fair, lovely and wonderful.

Secondly, let's pray the husband and wife-to-be are given enough time to get to know one another. But I assume that unless a family is in a state of desperation, it will preclude the undesirable choices based on "biodata". Only the filtered pool is ultimately allowed to demonstrate its personality.

I haven't really seen any pairing of people based entirely on 'biodata' so I cannot provide an informed opinion on the matter. I have however seen people in a newer version of an 'arranged' marriage.

Families of similar economic/educational backgrounds prefer to have their children married to one anothers and of course other commonalities are considered such as 'caste/jati'.

I have to disagree with the above admonishment of -let's pray the people have enough time to get to know one another-I feel that this doesnt happen as much as it used to, ie., the kids these days have ample time to meet with one another and it is just called an 'arranged' marriage for the sake of posterity whereas in reality it is an 'introduced' marriage.

I think that this mode of marrying fits in well with the ecclectic views of todays 'Indian' youth, be they from America, UK or India. In fact it is known that NRI communities are in fact more 'traditional' than their 'native' counterparts. In some circles the 'native' Indians deem themselves morally and culturally superior to NRIs to the point where they think they are more attuned to fashion, etiquette and technology. Now of course I am referring to a certain socio-economic faction of 'native' Indians (the burgeoning middle class and upper class).

The classified ad matrimonials are more atypical of 'native' Indians than they are of NRIs, since most posts are from NRIs. Funny how this paradigm shift occurred in less than a generation (~30 yrs).

Question to you all: Would any of you consider a 'traditional' arranged marriage, an 'introduced' marriage, a 'love' marriage and would you also consider marrying out of your ethnicity, cultural or religious group?
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The comment that 'must be fairskinned' is a form of prejudice is not entirely true. It may just be a preference. As I said previously it can be like a choice of car colors.

When does it become prejudice?

No one can say for sure, unless there is an overt act or sentiment that causes or has the intent to cause any form of injury, be it physical, emotional or psychological.

Otherwise it is just predilection or discrimination, in that the person is exercising his or her free will to make a choice/discernment based on his or her desires, wants and/or needs.

There is a danger in using terms like 'prejudice' and 'discrimination' due to the colloquial nature the terms have assumed in that the 'knee-jerk' response is one of racism/hatred, etc. I hope people recognize the form in which I am utilizing the terms.

Question to you all: Would any of you consider a 'traditional' arranged marriage, an 'introduced' marriage, a 'love' marriage and would you also consider marrying out of your ethnicity, cultural or religious group?



First of all..."biodata" is the funniest term to me.... I crack up every time I hear my parents say it!! "oh his biodata is looking very good!!" :laugh: :laugh:

Anyway, I am an american born indian and find this hilarious. I agree with the previous post that arranged marriages are more introduced nowadays. most of my friends and cousins who have done this had months and months after they met whoever to decide if they wanted to get married. and they meet so many different people in this journey to marriage to see which one they like best. and on top of that, most have long engagements. it's much different than in our parents time. my parent knew each other for 2 weeks before they got married!!! I could NEVER do that...

Back to the question posed above from JattMed.... I am a married woman...and it was a "love" marriage. :love: I have nothing against an arranged/introduced marriage. I was completely mentally prepared for that until I met my husband. My parents were just happy he was indian!! :D I don't have anything against interracial/intercultural marriage as well. If you're happy...go for it. There is nothing better in this world than to be in love! I personally would not have done it because even though I am very american...I treasure my indianness too much. I think it's just too different sometimes and I wouldn't know how to raise my kids. But, I've known many people who are doing it and they make it work. So, whatever floats your boat I guess.

First of all..."biodata" is the funniest term to me.... I crack up every time I hear my parents say it!! "oh his biodata is looking very good!!" :laugh: :laugh:

Anyway, I am an american born indian and find this hilarious. I agree with the previous post that arranged marriages are more introduced nowadays. most of my friends and cousins who have done this had months and months after they met whoever to decide if they wanted to get married. and they meet so many different people in this journey to marriage to see which one they like best. and on top of that, most have long engagements. it's much different than in our parents time. my parent knew each other for 2 weeks before they got married!!! I could NEVER do that...

Back to the question posed above from JattMed.... I am a married woman...and it was a "love" marriage. :love: I have nothing against an arranged/introduced marriage. I was completely mentally prepared for that until I met my husband. My parents were just happy he was indian!! :D I don't have anything against interracial/intercultural marriage as well. If you're happy...go for it. There is nothing better in this world than to be in love! I personally would not have done it because even though I am very american...I treasure my indianness too much. I think it's just too different sometimes and I wouldn't know how to raise my kids. But, I've known many people who are doing it and they make it work. So, whatever floats your boat I guess.

It's not so cool when the boat sinks because your community has ostracized you on account of your interracial marriage.

(Not speaking to my own personal experience here!)

I wouldn't ever have labelled the knee-jerk reaction as a prejudiced mechanism. :laugh: Funny though.

I agree that it's difficult to determine when racism is at work unless we have some quantifiably measurable variable. At the same time, we mustn't euphemize the 'discrimination' by calling it mere personal preference. Perhaps it is apt to call it 'bias'.

I agree that it's difficult to determine when racism is at work unless we have some quantifiably measurable variable. At the same time, we mustn't euphemize the 'discrimination' by calling it mere personal preference. Perhaps it is apt to call it 'bias'.

Or like I said, predilection.....................
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Or like I said, predilection.....................
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They're not the same thing.

This whole argument is academic anyways. No hard feelings. I pwomise. :meanie: :meanie: :meanie: :meanie: :meanie: :meanie: :laugh:

Nothing in the universe is an absolute, it is all relative.
Predilection implies 'bias'.
No hard feelings
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Predilection implies 'bias'.

In a very narrow sense.

But let's drop it. :thumbup:

I am an Indian who was born and raised outside India and migrated to the US at the age of 14. As a person who has come to the conclusion that I am never going to find an Indian girl, I am all for interracial marriages.

Although a lot of arranged marriages these days are more of a screened dating leading to marriage scenarios, I have to shamefully point out that there are a plethora of families who still do it the "old fashioned way"... skin color, cast, horoscope based with little or no "courtship" period.

Personally, I really don’t know why we are still so stuck to the cast $hi!, As far as I am concerned, this is a dark thread that is woven really deeply into the fabric of our society... even the educated and so called "liberal" indians who have had the opportunity to travel the world, follow it. Bottom line... as opposed to the western/ Anglo-Saxon cultures, ours is fundamentally a hierarchal and 'face value' based one. I really dont know when this will change, all I can control is the environment around me... none of my relatives are allowed to talk about jaat/dharm negatively in my presence!

btw, maybe we should really dedicate a thread to discuss some of the issues of dating/ relationships on this forum... what do you guys think?

btw, maybe we should really dedicate a thread to discuss some of the issues of dating/ relationships on this forum... what do you guys think?

Not a bad idea as long as it doesn't degenerate into a dating service. Go for it - start the thread; let's see who writes!

I am an Indian who was born and raised outside India and migrated to the US at the age of 14. As a person who has come to the conclusion that I am never going to find an Indian girl, I am all for interracial marriages.

Although a lot of arranged marriages these days are more of a screened dating leading to marriage scenarios, I have to shamefully point out that there are a plethora of families who still do it the "old fashioned way"... skin color, cast, horoscope based with little or no "courtship" period.

Personally, I really don?t know why we are still so stuck to the cast $hi!, As far as I am concerned, this is a dark thread that is woven really deeply into the fabric of our society... even the educated and so called "liberal" indians who have had the opportunity to travel the world, follow it. Bottom line... as opposed to the western/ Anglo-Saxon cultures, ours is fundamentally a hierarchal and 'face value' based one. I really dont know when this will change, all I can control is the environment around me... none of my relatives are allowed to talk about jaat/dharm negatively in my presence!

btw, maybe we should really dedicate a thread to discuss some of the issues of dating/ relationships on this forum... what do you guys think?

One of the main reasons organized religion exists is to instill social order. The "caste" system was made to bring order to people who were all of one religion. In other parts of the world, there were many branches of the same religion or many religions all together that were in constant conflict. the people of these conflicting religions viewed themselves as superior to the other religions that surrounded them. Sometimes to the point that if you did not agree with their superiority in the form of conversion you would not be provided with something necessary for survival (food or water) or worse, you were killed, or your people waged war against. In such times, the caste system does not seem to be a poor alternative.

Now I can't speak for the people that you know, but no individual I have met takes the caste system literally. Everyone I have spoken to understands that it was a tool necessary back in the day but now has been replaced with more effective powertools (one could argue that the corruption in indian government isn't a step forward, but at least it's organized and not through religion). The differences in caste for many are lifestyle differences (vegetarian vs. non-veg, etc). Today, the parents I know who look to assist their children in marriage are much more worried if you will marry out of religion (in which case, according to their argument you would have very few similarities when raising children, etc) than marrying out of caste. The caste systems is not as deeply woven as you may think. It just takes time for people to stop using their old tools and get used to new ones...

One of the main reasons organized religion exists is to instill social order. The "caste" system was made to bring order to people who were all of one religion. In other parts of the world, there were many branches of the same religion or many religions all together that were in constant conflict. the people of these conflicting religions viewed themselves as superior to the other religions that surrounded them. Sometimes to the point that if you did not agree with their superiority in the form of conversion you would not be provided with something necessary for survival (food or water) or worse, you were killed, or your people waged war against. In such times, the caste system does not seem to be a poor alternative.

Now I can't speak for the people that you know, but no individual I have met takes the caste system literally. Everyone I have spoken to understands that it was a tool necessary back in the day but now has been replaced with more effective powertools (one could argue that the corruption in indian government isn't a step forward, but at least it's organized and not through religion). The differences in caste for many are lifestyle differences (vegetarian vs. non-veg, etc). Today, the parents I know who look to assist their children in marriage are much more worried if you will marry out of religion (in which case, according to their argument you would have very few similarities when raising children, etc) than marrying out of caste. The caste systems is not as deeply woven as you may think. It just takes time for people to stop using their old tools and get used to new ones...

Yes, the origins of the cast system lie in good intentions by the Aryans to organize their society, but cast designation was done after the thread ceremony and 'gurukul' education process was over (depending upon your performance) and hence cast could change from one generation to the next.... this sytem obviously did not last for long as the Brahmins wanted to reserve their cast strictly for their own children.

True, that the cast system is not followed to the tee in terms of shudras not casting shadows upon their fellow brahmin citizens and yes, the politicians have used the cast system to implement the mandal comission etc, to increase their vote bank.... but again, I ask you to look carefuly into the arranged marriage scenarios of today, cast is still a pretty important issue. It may be disguised in the last name or the particular town you live in, but the distinction still exists and for a lot of people who are cognizant of it, want to try their best in filtering their associations, particularly when marriage is involved.... and that does upset me.

Not a bad idea as long as it doesn't degenerate into a dating service. Go for it - start the thread; let's see who writes!

Like i said it would be an open forum to discuss the issues surrounding this topic. If posters feel like they want to take it further its their business... but first I want to see what some of the female posters have to say. Since this thread has already reached its second page, a lot of people may not be reading it... nonetheless, if anyone has opinons, please post.

Like i said it would be an open forum to discuss the issues surrounding this topic. If posters feel like they want to take it further its their business... but first I want to see what some of the female posters have to say. Since this thread has already reached its second page, a lot of people may not be reading it... nonetheless, if anyone has opinons, please post.

Start the thread.

Hi, as a non-Indian, I am just curious about the Indian men (that were brought up in India at least during childhood-teenage years) that find themselves a girl they like (whether she be Indian or non -Indian), and it is not an arranged situation.

Do the men usually still think of this situation in terms of marriage, meaning if they like a girl within the first few meetings, do they continue "being friends" or "dating" her with the intention of marrying her? Do they make this clear to the girl within the first few "dates"? Why I am asking this is that in Western societies, men seem to be more commitment phobic, and for that reason, do not bring up the topic of marriage with a girl. Most women, on the other hand, are thinking of commitment and marriage and how this potential guy would be as a husband. Eventually, if the man does not mention anything about the future in terms of marriage, the woman will usually bring up this topic. So, for Indian men who have been brought up with the tradition of arranged marriages, how do you look upon the dating situation?

Also, if a man (of any race-nationality) meets a woman through means of telephone or internet and they continue talking for weeks-months and then eventually meet in person, etc., would you consider this a form of arranged marriage since they have not physically seen each other and formed a relationship before that time? What is your opinion of this?

looking forward to hearing your opinions!!thanks!

Hi, as a non-Indian, I am just curious about the Indian men (that were brought up in India at least during childhood-teenage years) that find themselves a girl they like (whether she be Indian or non -Indian), and it is not an arranged situation.

Do the men usually still think of this situation in terms of marriage, meaning if they like a girl within the first few meetings, do they continue "being friends" or "dating" her with the intention of marrying her? Do they make this clear to the girl within the first few "dates"? Why I am asking this is that in Western societies, men seem to be more commitment phobic, and for that reason, do not bring up the topic of marriage with a girl. Most women, on the other hand, are thinking of commitment and marriage and how this potential guy would be as a husband. Eventually, if the man does not mention anything about the future in terms of marriage, the woman will usually bring up this topic. So, for Indian men who have been brought up with the tradition of arranged marriages, how do you look upon the dating situation?

Also, if a man (of any race-nationality) meets a woman through means of telephone or internet and they continue talking for weeks-months and then eventually meet in person, etc., would you consider this a form of arranged marriage since they have not physically seen each other and formed a relationship before that time? What is your opinion of this?

looking forward to hearing your opinions!!thanks!

I'll discuss the first part when I have time. As for the telephone / internet contact leading to marriage being considered arranged, I think the answer hinges on the narrowness of your definition of an arranged marriage.

I have a friend whose family knew of a girl in India. They were introduced over the Net and continued to chat / talk on the phone for months. She came to visit him here and they dated, albeit briefly. Now they're married. Personally, I'd consider this a very very very loose form of arranged marriage.

Bear in mind that an arranged marriage is a label used to describe anything from a simple introduction (with dating to follow) to a binding contract, so the label is quite fluid.

Also, if a man (of any race-nationality) meets a woman through means of telephone or internet and they continue talking for weeks-months and then eventually meet in person, etc., would you consider this a form of arranged marriage since they have not physically seen each other and formed a relationship before that time? What is your opinion of this?

looking forward to hearing your opinions!!thanks!

I have heard that in Islam people get married over the phone (with a mullah or someone else of religious authority present in the same room as the groom)

I have also heard that in Islam you can get a divorce by just merely saying the word 'Tilaaq' 3 times aloud so others (witnesses) hear you--saying this in reference to the one you want to divorce yourself from.
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I'll discuss the first part when I have time. As for the telephone / internet contact leading to marriage being considered arranged, I think the answer hinges on the narrowness of your definition of an arranged marriage.

I have a friend whose family knew of a girl in India. They were introduced over the Net and continued to chat / talk on the phone for months. She came to visit him here and they dated, albeit briefly. Now they're married. Personally, I'd consider this a very very very loose form of arranged marriage.

Bear in mind that an arranged marriage is a label used to describe anything from a simple introduction (with dating to follow) to a binding contract, so the label is quite fluid.

I guess you are perfectly right... It is a very very very very loose form of arranged marriage .. nowadays arranged marriage is just "licensed" dating!!!!

This thread would be perfect for Harps-the "my parents will arrange my marriage" thing..yup.

Since I am an American born Indian, I guess I'm going to go ahead and throw in some of my own experiences.

Growing up with all white people, thats all I ever dated (I am 23). I recently broke up with a girl that I had been dating for 2.5 years. Though she was very open to my culture/my parents/etc, I think deep down it wouldnt have worked. We all know how Indian weddings are, and though nothing against her, she was a staunch Baptist. Culturally, I just think its going to be easier on me/her if we have the same background. When I get married, I want to be able to enjoy the ceremonial process (be it with an Indian girl or a white girl). Surprisingly, after this relationship, I find myself thinking that marrying an Indian girl might be easier in the long run after all. From the time I was little, my family (excluding my parents) have told me to marry within my race. I didn't think I would ever marry an Indian but it's weird how that sounds better and better with each relationship I have.

My brother just came back from India, hes 19. He told me that he was CONSTANTLY getting bombed with proposals/requests for his biodata etc. Thank God, I didnt go because I absolutely cannot handle that. No one is trying to "arrange" a marriage for me, per se, but if one day I said, "Please find my an Indian girl." My relatives would love nothing more....

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Since I am an American born Indian, I guess I'm going to go ahead and throw in some of my own experiences.

Growing up with all white people, thats all I ever dated (I am 23). I recently broke up with a girl that I had been dating for 2.5 years. Though she was very open to my culture/my parents/etc, I think deep down it wouldnt have worked. We all know how Indian weddings are, and though nothing against her, she was a staunch Baptist. Culturally, I just think its going to be easier on me/her if we have the same background. When I get married, I want to be able to enjoy the ceremonial process (be it with an Indian girl or a white girl). Surprisingly, after this relationship, I find myself thinking that marrying an Indian girl might be easier in the long run after all. From the time I was little, my family (excluding my parents) have told me to marry within my race. I didn't think I would ever marry an Indian but it's weird how that sounds better and better with each relationship I have.

My brother just came back from India, hes 19. He told me that he was CONSTANTLY getting bombed with proposals/requests for his biodata etc. Thank God, I didnt go because I absolutely cannot handle that. No one is trying to "arrange" a marriage for me, per se, but if one day I said, "Please find my an Indian girl." My relatives would love nothing more....

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Adrian


Nice...

I've always been interested in the perspective of an Indian person growing up in a community of non-Indians... I'm the opposite of you since I grew up around Indians my whole life and I have only dated Indian girls.

Where I don't differ from you is that I have grown to appreciate the potential marriage to an Indian girl more and more as I grow older. I have always recognized the cultural differences between Indians and mainstream society and those things mean a lot to me at the end of the day. I'm very proud of our traditions, our community, and what we have collectively accomplished here in the United States. I would love to be able to further this new "indo-american" culture that we've created with a like-minded woman.

I think the reason that people like us feel that its preferable to marry someone Indian is because we realize that marriage is sometimes not ONLY based on love the way it ideally should be. There are practicality issues such as religion, extended family, culture, and social background which play major roles in the whole process. All these things are undeniably strong predictors of future happiness in a marriage. Unfortunately it?s not as simple as it should be...

Anyway, I don't mean to revert back to the caste system topic, but I thought I would give another viewpoint.

I also agree that the caste system is archaic and socially backward for the society we live in today. However, I cannot help but notice how much the system has become a part of me since I have been raised with it. No, I do not want to necessarily marry another Brahmin etc... but I have noticed that I do look for some qualities in Indian girls that traditionally fit the model of the matrimonial ads someone was making fun of earlier. I cannot help but admit I like Indo girls who are fair and thin for example. At the same time, I do like "non-traditional" qualities such as independence and intelligence as well. I don't even really care if she can cook or not...

What I'm trying to say is that sometimes it?s hard for me to shake the caste system in my subconscious thought. Some of those qualities which have always been ingrained in my head as being good have transferred over into my personality as an adult. I think a lot of us fall victim to that.... we all have biases based on our upbringing. I think the key is to make a substantial effort to shatter those biases over the next couple of generations.

Nice...

I've always been interested in the perspective of an Indian person growing up in a community of non-Indians... I'm the opposite of you since I grew up around Indians my whole life and I have only dated Indian girls.

Where I don't differ from you is that I have grown to appreciate the potential marriage to an Indian girl more and more as I grow older. I have always recognized the cultural differences between Indians and mainstream society and those things mean a lot to me at the end of the day. I'm very proud of our traditions, our community, and what we have collectively accomplished here in the United States. I would love to be able to further this new "indo-american" culture that we've created with a like-minded woman.

I think the reason that people like us feel that its preferable to marry someone Indian is because we realize that marriage is sometimes not ONLY based on love the way it ideally should be. There are practicality issues such as religion, extended family, culture, and social background which play major roles in the whole process. All these things are undeniably strong predictors of future happiness in a marriage. Unfortunately it?s not as simple as it should be...

Anyway, I don't mean to revert back to the caste system topic, but I thought I would give another viewpoint.

I also agree that the caste system is archaic and socially backward for the society we live in today. However, I cannot help but notice how much the system has become a part of me since I have been raised with it. No, I do not want to necessarily marry another Brahmin etc... but I have noticed that I do look for some qualities in Indian girls that traditionally fit the model of the matrimonial ads someone was making fun of earlier. I cannot help but admit I like Indo girls who are fair and thin for example. At the same time, I do like "non-traditional" qualities such as independence and intelligence as well. I don't even really care if she can cook or not...

What I'm trying to say is that sometimes it?s hard for me to shake the caste system in my subconscious thought. Some of those qualities which have always been ingrained in my head as being good have transferred over into my personality as an adult. I think a lot of us fall victim to that.... we all have biases based on our upbringing. I think the key is to make a substantial effort to shatter those biases over the next couple of generations.


I am going to go ahead and have to agree with many of the comments you have made regarding the caste system. While I dont intentionally refer to this system, it is subconsciously ingrained in who I am. When it comes to an Indian girl, my family is obviously going to want to know the history of the family...obviously, this is a circuitous way of determining a familiy's ranking on the caste system scale.


I'd also have to agree that I prefer the fair girls. Funny thing about Indian girls seems to be happening these days. All of my guy friends (white guys) cannot stop drooling at the sight of a good looking Indian girl. Its rather interesting actually. I am also starting to see an increasingly higher number of good looking Indian girls with white guys...not to sure how I feel about that although I guess I cant complain since I have never dated an Indian girl :(

I cant complain since I have never dated an Indian girl :(

you're missing out ;)

you're missing out ;)

so am I :(

not many Indian chicks here. the ones that are here hardly think highly of guys from india like me.

just like everyone else it's a guy's life. iam thankful to my fraternity for all the drinking and silly behavior. keeps me relaxed :laugh:

ps i don't even look at them anymore i am a selfmade snob (pretty frustrating :scared: )

so am I :(

not many Indian chicks here. the ones that are here hardly think highly of guys from india like me.

just like everyone else it's a guy's life. iam thankful to my fraternity for all the drinking and silly behavior. keeps me relaxed :laugh:

ps i don't even look at them anymore i am a selfmade snob (pretty frustrating :scared: )
ohhh so you're one of those snobby indian guys ;)

ohhh so you're one of those snobby indian guys ;)
I have sort of turned into one.
What can you expect when people around you i.e. "Indian Americans" aren't too nice and you still have made progress socially and academically

Seems like Indian chicks born here don't want Indian dudes whether they are from India or here.

I guess they think all of us are dorks or something? I dont know.




Adrian

I have sort of turned into one.
What can you expect when people around you i.e. "Indian Americans" aren't too nice and you still have made progress socially and academically

That really sucks. Those Indian girls are giving us girls a bad name lol :p I guess living in Los Angeles where there are so many indians the US Born and India Born girls are everywhere so the culture is pretty mixed up. I have seen my share of snobby indian american girls but I know some really nice down to earth indian americans too.... same goes for Indian born girls also.

I guess the snobby girls can stay snobby .... its their loss ;)

Seems like Indian chicks born here don't want Indian dudes whether they are from India or here.

I guess they think all of us are dorks or something? I dont know.




Adrian

I think there are two categories of indian american girls ... one who are so sick of the indian drama that they don't want to have indian friends or boyfriends. But then there are others who are very much in the "indian scene" and they will go out with only Indian guys.

I think there are two categories of indian american girls ... one who are so sick of the indian drama that they don't want to have indian friends or boyfriends. But then there are others who are very much in the "indian scene" and they will go out with only Indian guys.


I belong to the latter category ;) maybe coz i wasnt born here..Even if I was born here I 'd have prayed that my preferences remained the same.
although a slight modification, I don't go out with only indian GUYS , but I ll go out with ONLY ONE indian GUY Without an S!!!!!!!
Maybe people think thats a loser attitude, but ahhh thats how I am, I'd prefer giving all my love to the only person rather than letting it get dissipated.

:D
pri

I really WANT the opportunity to date an Indian girl. As it is, I havent had that chance :confused:

I really WANT the opportunity to date an Indian girl. As it is, I havent had that chance :confused:

Don't fret my dear friend.
It is rough and people aren't nice.

To me patriotism helps. Keeps my mind calm - makes me feel that I have a job to do as an Indian American. Otherwise don't know what would have happened :scared:

BTW I think you become more patriotic living here cause you see the good sides of nationalism and other such ideals only in the US
topic for another forum though

I really WANT the opportunity to date an Indian girl. As it is, I havent had that chance :confused:

Even in circumstances where there are a lot of indo girls around, it still becomes difficult to meet one to date... especially if they are in the indo scene.

Anyway.. things like that are up for debate (so I don't want to hear any backlash) and I swear I could write books on this topic..... but it has been my experience that I can't seriously pursue a relationship with an Indo girl without being interrogated by her extended family and close friends first! (includes brothers, sisters, cousins, etc etc.) :laugh: Relationships between Indian people tend to be more on the serious side, which can set up the potential for drama in the future. Overall, the relationship dynamics are definitely different than the typical american dating scene.

Nevertheless, I've grown accustomed to the differences... whether good or bad, they are there... and at this point, I don't think I would want to have a serious relationship with a non-indo girl. Never totally keeping my mind closed on that one tho!

I really WANT the opportunity to date an Indian girl. As it is, I havent had that chance :confused:

yeah same here...iono, most of the ndn girls i meet these days seem like stuckup, daddy's girls who only give a f--k about how much money u got, the clothes u wear, and the car u drive (im well off, i wear nice clothes, and i have a nice car; yet they are still snobby). Ive met a few that are down to earth and nice...but unfortunetly, like someone said, the snobby ones are giving teh good ones a bad name. The hot ones act like they are better than everyone else..and some of the um, not so good looking girls act like that too. Hopefully they ain't like that back in india..when i leave for school next fall...priyanka, any advice on my last point...???

there are a variety of girls in india. but there are more options. 30% out of the 100% are snobby. you still got 70%. i think in US u have less option. Believe me I think the guys in US are stupid, first they dont like to identify themselves as indians, secondly they have several relationships with several girls..n wat not..neway i dont even like to talk about it , it sucks..i wish i was in india..The guys were better there...i actually miss my guy friends...i miss being teased...being the center of attraction...having a crush.... or being someones crush....i havent liked a single guy here coz huh more than indian i think they are all wannabees....they are good looking thats ok..but there were many more good looking ones in india...n i miss being admired for the cultural values i hold...coz no one values them here....but huh i m not gonna changei hate this place its so expensive...I dont know if i can even make it through the undergraduate process because of financial problems..neway thats a totally different matter. HUH WATEVER

did u graduated your 12th from india and then came here for undergrad.........I really miss all the things u said..,,,

there are a variety of girls in india. but there are more options. 30% out of the 100% are snobby. you still got 70%. i think in US u have less option. Believe me I think the guys in US are stupid, first they dont like to identify themselves as indians, secondly they have several relationships with several girls..n wat not..neway i dont even like to talk about it , it sucks..i wish i was in india..The guys were better there...i actually miss my guy friends...i miss being teased...being the center of attraction...having a crush.... or being someones crush....i havent liked a single guy here coz huh more than indian i think they are all wannabees....they are good looking thats ok..but there were many more good looking ones in india...n i miss being admired for the cultural values i hold...coz no one values them here....but huh i m not gonna changei hate this place its so expensive...I dont know if i can even make it through the undergraduate process because of financial problems..neway thats a totally different matter. HUH WATEVER

yeah..most of my friends don't like identifying themselves as ndn. Its funny though, i was like that in high school, but when i came to college, i got all into the ndn scene here. Priyanka, thats good to know about the girl situtation in india..lol, if u were back in india i'd tell u to stay away from my cousin cause he's a certifiable P.I.M.P; i have many stories, i'll save them for whoever asks.

did u graduated your 12th from india and then came here for undergrad.........I really miss all the things u said..,,,

yes i did my 12th in india. How about yourself?

yes i did my 12th in india. How about yourself?
yup..me too.

last time i was in india, my cousin told me that you can pick up indian girls easily if you speak good english. This was in Bangalore, any truth to this?

DAMN
I hope there are atleast some good indian guys on this earth who don't think about just PICKING UP girls.
What the hell, do guys know what "love" is ? :confused: If you wanna pick up girls why not in the US, you dont need to speak english to get just the "indian girls".
:scared:

Girls can be picked up anywhere, because they might be professionals at that. India doesn't lack those kind of professionals. Just remember, if you wanta marry a nice indian girl, she'd die before knowing that you did anything like that else just expect her to do the same even after marriage, because its very easy for girls to sway as well and then you can't complain anymore,even if you do that wouldn't make any sense. Why do you think the divorce rate in US is so high?!?!

calm down pri, i was jus asking if there is any merit to that statement, when' i'm india i spend all my time with family or traveling around. I thought it was a weird thing for my cousin to mention and the posts in this thread reminded me of that.

calm down pri, i was jus asking if there is any merit to that statement, when' i'm india i spend all my time with family or traveling around. I thought it was a weird thing for my cousin to mention and the posts in this thread reminded me of that.


Yay vikaskoth, sounds good. Good you told me I feel much better about my country studs :cool: . lol sorry I act like a kid sometimes.

Yay vikaskoth, sounds good. Good you told me I feel much better about my country studs :cool: . lol sorry I act like a kid sometimes.



Indian stud number 1 right here :D

Indian stud number 1 right here :D


uh hu , and whats that that qualifies you as a stud? :rolleyes:

:p

uh hu , and whats that that qualifies you as a stud? :rolleyes:

:p


I think, therefore I am. No need to qualify. :cool:

I think, therefore I am. No need to qualify. :cool:


lol i was kidding. More like expecting you to ermm describe how long do u strain your biceps or how many egg whites for breakfast...
kidding again...
I personally don think that studs are to be defined by the old definition of stud..like biceps n all...for me stud is ...

I wont write it!

I think, therefore I am. No need to qualify. :cool:

:laugh: :laugh: I believe it ;)

yup..me too.

beginning of 10th grade so I didn't have to take the boards !! I was so happy ... that thing is torture!! its like taking the MCATS over and over!!

yeah same here...iono, most of the ndn girls i meet these days seem like stuckup, daddy's girls who only give a f--k about how much money u got, the clothes u wear, and the car u drive (im well off, i wear nice clothes, and i have a nice car; yet they are still snobby). Ive met a few that are down to earth and nice...but unfortunetly, like someone said, the snobby ones are giving teh good ones a bad name. The hot ones act like they are better than everyone else..and some of the um, not so good looking girls act like that too. Hopefully they ain't like that back in india..when i leave for school next fall...priyanka, any advice on my last point...???


Have you had that experience after you talked to them and got to know them or because they just seem stuck up? My high school didn't have that many indian guys but when I got to college... they were everywhere... I am a very friendly person and smile at everyone.. for some reason when you smile at an Indian guy or look at him he thinks that you are interested in him and like him. This happened with me on three separate occasions and then rumors spread like rapid fire lol SO I stopped smiling at Indian guys... I know that sounds mean but I can't take anymore dramas. I mean if someone talks to me I talk to them too but I stopped smiling at random indian guys because they get this wierd sense that I am interested in them.
DO you guys really think that if a girl looks at you and smiles that she is interested in you??

DO you guys really think that if a girl looks at you and smiles that she is interested in you??

most of the indian guys i know are pretty socially capable.. on the flip side, i guess i wouldn't really hang with the type of person who would get all excited over a casual smile, indian or not..

lol i was kidding. More like expecting you to ermm describe how long do u strain your biceps or how many egg whites for breakfast...
kidding again...
I personally don think that studs are to be defined by the old definition of stud..like biceps n all...for me stud is ...

I wont write it!

Actually, by the classical muscular definition of stud, I am that. I work very hard in the gym. In fact, today, I deadlifted 435 lbs, a personal record.

I am like 8% bodyfat, but when my parents took my picture to India, all of my relatives thought I was fat....I guess they aren't used to seeing too many muscular Indians.

Have you had that experience after you talked to them and got to know them or because they just seem stuck up? My high school didn't have that many indian guys but when I got to college... they were everywhere... I am a very friendly person and smile at everyone.. for some reason when you smile at an Indian guy or look at him he thinks that you are interested in him and like him. This happened with me on three separate occasions and then rumors spread like rapid fire lol SO I stopped smiling at Indian guys... I know that sounds mean but I can't take anymore dramas. I mean if someone talks to me I talk to them too but I stopped smiling at random indian guys because they get this wierd sense that I am interested in them.
DO you guys really think that if a girl looks at you and smiles that she is interested in you??

actually..the experience is both ways...mostly the first one though. But i have a discerning eye for who's stuck up and who's not stuck up; just look at the body language. Im not one to believe in rumors or **** talkin either, about people (which happens A LOT with ndns); but in some cases, unfortunetly, those rumors have been proven true. And no, if a girl smiles at me, i don't immediately think that she's interested in me or vice versa. Its just a friendly thing to do :)..that concept is lost on some ndn girls though, and just people in general these days. Iono, somehow it seems there is a secret to ndn girls that i haven't figured out yet...someone help me out on that???

Originally Posted by priyanka
there are a variety of girls in india. but there are more options. 30% out of the 100% are snobby. you still got 70%. i think in US u have less option. Believe me I think the guys in US are stupid, first they dont like to identify themselves as indians, secondly they have several relationships with several girls..n wat not..neway i dont even like to talk about it , it sucks..i wish i was in india..The guys were better there...i actually miss my guy friends...i miss being teased...being the center of attraction...having a crush.... or being someones crush....i havent liked a single guy here coz huh more than indian i think they are all wannabees....they are good looking thats ok..but there were many more good looking ones in india...n i miss being admired for the cultural values i hold...coz no one values them here....but huh i m not gonna changei hate this place its so expensive...I dont know if i can even make it through the undergraduate process because of financial problems..neway thats a totally different matter. HUH WATEVER

That reminds me of my school and college life in India. I really miss those days filled with lots of fun. I havent experienced anything close to that here.
Talking about stuck up Indian gurls, Ive met my fair share. I noticed that the hot , cute Indian gurls are the ones that act like every Indian from India is a POS. There are some down to earth ones also, and most of the time they have an inferiority complex that they arnt hot or that they are overweight. I really would date an average looking Indian girl with some regard for cultural values and traditions (in India or here) anyday over some of these ultra hot lipstick babies. But thats just me :) .I have friends who think otherwise.

actually..the experience is both ways...mostly the first one though. But i have a discerning eye for who's stuck up and who's not stuck up; just look at the body language. Im not one to believe in rumors or **** talkin either, about people (which happens A LOT with ndns); but in some cases, unfortunetly, those rumors have been proven true. And no, if a girl smiles at me, i don't immediately think that she's interested in me or vice versa. Its just a friendly thing to do :)..that concept is lost on some ndn girls though, and just people in general these days. Iono, somehow it seems there is a secret to ndn girls that i haven't figured out yet...someone help me out on that???

lol I promise to tell u the secret if u tell me how to figure out guys. I think guys are just as complicated as girls maybe more ;) ok well here goes from my prespective... if you're looking for a down to earth girl you have to be down to earth first. I think those girls hate when guys show off or r cocky.... just be yourself don't try to act smart or be a smart alec... don't try to show off your money or car n all those kinds of things. just talk to her get to know her and it goes on from there. I guess every girl is different in what she wants in a guy so i am just focusing on what not to do to piss the nice ones off lol ... sorry gotta go to class now will continue later :)

That reminds me of my school and college life in India. I really miss those days filled with lots of fun. I havent experienced anything close to that here.
Talking about stuck up Indian gurls, Ive met my fair share. I noticed that the hot , cute Indian gurls are the ones that act like every Indian from India is a POS. There are some down to earth ones also, and most of the time they have an inferiority complex that they arnt hot or that they are overweight. I really would date an average looking Indian girl with some regard for cultural values and traditions (in India or here) anyday over some of these ultra hot lipstick babies. But thats just me :) .I have friends who think otherwise.


sandeep what the hell!!!
You should see me before making the statement of "down to earth" girls!
OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!! You just ruined the image of down to earth girls..
they are overwieight, not good looking and have inferiority complex!!! LOL
anyway this sounds very funny to me...I dont know maybe your enviorenment gave you just that experience...
But its a wrong statement...I m sure you'll realise that soon (I hope)

Its all good yo... well if ur definition of down to earth is really...LOOKING DOWN ON TO THE EARTH ALL THE TIME>.then maybe you are right...
My definition of down to earth is the actual definition of the same!


Oh by the way...I miss that college life to...bunkin lectures and sitting in the canteen having samosas n teasing couples, hanging out with guys.. cheking out the guys at the neighbouring graduate school...rejecting red roses, playing "truth and dare", not to mention competing on the exams...yet having all the fun in the world...
I never attended lectures...still I had a good balance between study n fun!
I m sure am gonna award myself with a longgggggggggg trip to india after I get something I want in the US!!! YAY!

Yeah Priyanka,
I was just telling you about my experiences, and the statement was made with regards to the majorities. I do know people like you too, but its just that they arnt in the numbers I would like them to be.
Talking of samosas, I remember those college days. I never bunked lots of classes, but we always had fun in the normal +1and +2 classes even though the lecturers were there. :) Im sure you miss all that attention you would get from the guys. A love letter or a confession everyday ..lol.. I had a friend in India, who was so sick of stuff like that, that she would be like...why does everyone want to love me .I wish I wasnt pretty...lol..Id be like...hey enjoy it while you can,this Life isnt gonna come back.. :laugh: Anyways, even though I miss all those days, I am pretty much occupied with studying , my love for sportbikes, and my friends.If it werent for them, i wouldnt even consider living here. I believe I am here on a mission..and Im here to stay till the end of it.. :) And yeah, I am planning on a 2 month vacation to Indddiiaaaa before I go to med school. :D .

[QUOTE=priyanka]sandeep what the hell!!!
You should see me before making the statement of "down to earth" girls!
OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!! You just ruined the image of down to earth girls..
they are overwieight, not good looking and have inferiority complex!!! LOL
anyway this sounds very funny to me...I dont know maybe your enviorenment gave you just that experience...
But its a wrong statement...I m sure you'll realise that soon (I hope)

Its all good yo... well if ur definition of down to earth is really...LOOKING DOWN ON TO THE EARTH ALL THE TIME>.then maybe you are right...
My definition of down to earth is the actual definition of the same!


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:laugh: :laugh: well said priyanka:thumbup:

Yeah Priyanka,
I was just telling you about my experiences, and the statement was made with regards to the majorities. I do know people like you too, but its just that they arnt in the numbers I would like them to be.
Talking of samosas, I remember those college days. I never bunked lots of classes, but we always had fun in the normal +1and +2 classes even though the lecturers were there. :) Im sure you miss all that attention you would get from the guys. A love letter or a confession everyday ..lol.. I had a friend in India, who was so sick of stuff like that, that she would be like...why does everyone want to love me .I wish I wasnt pretty...lol..Id be like...hey enjoy it while you can,this Life isnt gonna come back.. :laugh: Anyways, even though I miss all those days, I am pretty much occupied with studying , my love for sportbikes, and my friends.If it werent for them, i wouldnt even consider living here. I believe I am here on a mission..and Im here to stay till the end of it.. :) And yeah, I am planning on a 2 month vacation to Indddiiaaaa before I go to med school. :D .

Lol sandeep, on the love letters of confession i remember the paper rockets we would fly from one desk to another..it wasnt always about love though..anonymous people would write whatever..lol

I remember an embarrasing but incident in grade 11 when , I was kinda seated in the middle of the row , the lecturer lecturing .....
At the end of the class I got up of my bench because I had to talk to the lecturer. And suddenly the whole class bursts into laughter..I was so confused and lost...Anyway I walked to the professor who was grinning at me too....I was like professor I have a question, and the prof smiles harder...I just ignored it and went ahead with my question...when i was looking onto the question written onto my notepad, he pulls out something from my pony tail...I was like HUH...just to notice that it is a pen refill!!! Ofcourse the class was having a hard laff..I checked my pony tail and what came onto my hand were a bunch of pen refills stuck up all into my pony tail!!! It was so embarrasing coz everyone was laffing...i gave a pungent stare at the guys sitting on the bench right behind me and walked out of the class half laffing myself...half..embarrased..well two of these guys had a hard time to get me to talk to them again! I got a nice "chinese food" treat though from them :D :D
ohhh i have many many more fun incidents to talk about but jst this for now lol..its good to remember them you know..oh not to forget the Jam sessions..they were really really SOMETHING!!!

Can i detatch these fun days from my memories, the ans is NO...no wonder why i miss india so much.. i ve not had such a good time in US as i did in my 7-th to 12th grade!!

[QUOTE=priyanka]sandeep what the hell!!!
You should see me before making the statement of "down to earth" girls!
OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!! You just ruined the image of down to earth girls..
they are overwieight, not good looking and have inferiority complex!!! LOL
anyway this sounds very funny to me...I dont know maybe your enviorenment gave you just that experience...
But its a wrong statement...I m sure you'll realise that soon (I hope)

Its all good yo... well if ur definition of down to earth is really...LOOKING DOWN ON TO THE EARTH ALL THE TIME>.then maybe you are right...
My definition of down to earth is the actual definition of the same!


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:laugh: :laugh: well said priyanka:thumbup:



hey desikudi hows ya doing gurl ? are you a freshman in college rite now? :) ..

hey desikudi hows ya doing gurl ? are you a freshman in college rite now? :) ..
i am fine..how ru doing??didnt c u online since last few days..
nup..yr wise i am a sophomore..but officially i am a junior .will be applying next yr.How about u?R u applying this yr to med schools??

Can i detatch these fun days from my memories, the ans is NO...no wonder why i miss india so much.. i ve not had such a good time in US as i did in my 7-th to 12th grade!!

:laugh: , You should just have said " This is the new fashion yall..." lol ! jk...I have lots of stories too. Interesting ones...each and everyone of them..:). I just need some ears and some time for them.. :)

:laugh: , You should just have said " This is the new fashion yall..." lol ! jk...I have lots of stories too. Interesting ones...each and everyone of them..:). I just need some ears and some time for them.. :)
Hi sandeep...R u an undergrad here(US)??

Hi sandeep...R u an undergrad here(US)??

Yep :).

so is most dating among teenagers in india completely secretive or is it becoming more accepted? this question is in reference to what the previous posts were talking about

so is most dating among teenagers in india completely secretive or is it becoming more accepted? this question is in reference to what the previous posts were talking about


Its not secretive, all this goes on on campus, neither can you call it dating. Dating happens more on after 12th grade classes. The grades 11 and 12 are called college..Its more like it depends on your major..commerce and arts people do all the crazy stuff on earth..the science people are more into either just hanging out arnd and flirting in the most innocent manner or participating in events.. All science majors are supposed to have lectures and labs almost all day..You arent expected to return back home until 8-8:30 at nite..and then thers always the excuse of trains being late or overly crowded lol.... even after lectures, parents are told that we are gonna go study..ofcourse we did study..but fun was always apart and parcel of it..
Even the school level its all the first crush kinda thing going on.(** the best nights are when you have your overnight 1-2 days class picnics to lonavla - 3-4 buses driving down the valleys!**).. When you really get so crushed that you wanna tell that person how you feel about him, you refrain yourself and say...no this aint happening..i gotta concentrate on studyin for my boards for which my parents have spent so much money with coaching classes etc..and that my parents will kill me if by means of rumors(which spread very easily in india) they get to know about me even being thinking of love.. (parents in india expect you to think of nothing but studying huh)
So thats the best part of it is..both at school and college level, students are expecting the ever daunting board exams..That is where the line gets drawn...and your first crush flows away with the flow...while you are still doing the same...
doesnt that suck? killing your feelings...it sure does- when you pass again by the lane you know you crush used to live...your eyes dont stop hunting for that persons sight.. :o

:laugh: , You should just have said " This is the new fashion yall..." lol ! jk...I have lots of stories too. Interesting ones...each and everyone of them..:). I just need some ears and some time for them.. :)


lol :D

i am fine..how ru doing??didnt c u online since last few days..
nup..yr wise i am a sophomore..but officially i am a junior .will be applying next yr.How about u?R u applying this yr to med schools??

Hey desikudi,

I m a sophomore :) nah I wont be taking the MCAT next year.. the year after that ;) But you know I am not too good at the verbal section, so its in my best interest to practice some :idea: are you taking it next year? Good luck with the prep... :thumbup:
Dont take kaplan review...i ve heard over n over..that princeton is 10 times b etter to them...I think even examKrackers, but EK is offered only in certain locations..

Hey desikudi,

I m a sophomore :) nah I wont be taking the MCAT next year.. the year after that ;) But you know I am not too good at the verbal section, so its in my best interest to practice some :idea: are you taking it next year? Good luck with the prep... :thumbup:
Dont take kaplan review...i ve heard over n over..that princeton is 10 times b etter to them...I think even examKrackers, but EK is offered only in certain locations..
yeah.thanks...i am taking MCAT next yr :D and as far as VERBAL SECTION goes,i am horrible at it :( ..I remember the SAT. :eek: But I am trying my best to excell in it and as u said,,practice makes a man perfect. :thumbup:

so is most dating among teenagers in india completely secretive or is it becoming more accepted? this question is in reference to what the previous posts were talking about


Ive heard that the dating thing is more accepted now by parents now. Dating was never secretive among friends,cousins,neighbours and watchmen.:laugh: Two years ago before I came here, that wasnt the situation. Well not in Visakhapatnam (near Hyderabad) where I lived. I could relate a lot to Priyanka's post. Well..I did have a crush on this one classmate of mine since 6th grade untilll 10th grade.LOL...it was like a mutual understanding that we liked each other. We were best friends, but we never got around to hanging out together after class or such. I lived with my grandparents while my parents lived in South Africa, so they were really strict on my staying out late. I did get to talk for hrs on the phone though..lol..miss those days. To this day I wish me and that gurl went to the same college after that :( , unfortunately she moved to Bombay, and there it ended. Ive had many crushes over the years..but I somehow still have feelings for her.... :D ..I feel like I still havent found someone better than her..Help me someone.. :p

so is most dating among teenagers in india completely secretive or is it becoming more accepted? this question is in reference to what the previous posts were talking about

More accepted.
Sadly for me cause I am here!

More accepted.
Sadly for me cause I am here!
LOL :laugh: .....ohh poor guy :laugh: :laugh: ....jk

so is most dating among teenagers in india completely secretive or is it becoming more accepted? this question is in reference to what the previous posts were talking about


BTW Vikas,
congragulations on your acceptance to Tulane :thumbup:

Could you share with us, since both your parents were doctors, what in particular did you find attractive about the profession? Did they discourage you ever? from being a doctor?

Please donot change topic priyanka.
it's very IntRUSTing thread.
I am following every day. but, this is my first post.

I am going post more issues

Please donot change topic priyanka.
it's very IntRUSTing thread.
I am following every day. but, this is my first post.
:laugh:

BTW Vikas,
congragulations on your acceptance to Tulane :thumbup:

Could you share with us, since both your parents were doctors, what in particular did you find attractive about the profession? Did they discourage you ever? from being a doctor?

Thanks pri, ok lets see, i was attracted to medicine when i was younger because of the prestige, lifestyle, free stuff from pharmacy comps, As i started college and became more interested in the actual subject manner and its application in a clinical setting. I shadowed an orthopedic surgeon during a summer and it was really this experience that solidified my belief that i would enjoy working with patients everday in an office and hospital setting, and i was really attracted to the specialty of surgery and how cool of a working environment the operating room is. I never watched my parents at work much, mom is FP, dad is IM. I wouldnt say that they ever discouraged me from medicine but they definitely informed me of all the negative aspects directly or indirectly, They suggested engineering and comp sci as i was starting undergrad, but i never had great interest in those fields. But since i have been applying and all they tell me i should specialize, its more rewarding for the work you do. But also i think they say that because they want me to have more of a life outside medicine than they did. They never forced medicine on me, it was more pressure just do to well in school right now and see where that takes you. hope this helps

Please donot change topic priyanka.
it's very IntRUSTing thread.
I am following every day. but, this is my first post.

LOL !

Anyone else see the shaadi.com banner on the top of this page ? Keyword advertising eh.. :laugh:

Please donot change topic priyanka.
it's very IntRUSTing thread.
I am following every day. but, this is my first post.


As you apparently supported my viewpoint yourself by mentioning "inRUSTing" you and me both know, that this topic is RUSTING...so why apparently you wanta make yourself feel that its not? :D or do you think repairing the rust would be a good idea? You know how things rust very soon in bombay coz of the humidity? I ve never seen a thing rusting in US.

Thanks pri, ok lets see, i was attracted to medicine when i was younger because of the prestige, lifestyle, free stuff from pharmacy comps, As i started college and became more interested in the actual subject manner and its application in a clinical setting. I shadowed an orthopedic surgeon during a summer and it was really this experience that solidified my belief that i would enjoy working with patients everday in an office and hospital setting, and i was really attracted to the specialty of surgery and how cool of a working environment the operating room is. I never watched my parents at work much, mom is FP, dad is IM. I wouldnt say that they ever discouraged me from medicine but they definitely informed me of all the negative aspects directly or indirectly, They suggested engineering and comp sci as i was starting undergrad, but i never had great interest in those fields. But since i have been applying and all they tell me i should specialize, its more rewarding for the work you do. But also i think they say that because they want me to have more of a life outside medicine than they did. They never forced medicine on me, it was more pressure just do to well in school right now and see where that takes you. hope this helps

FPs and IMs have a lot of patient interaction as opposed to the surgeons, don't they? But the role of a surgeon is certainly more challenging..Depends on what gets you going..Personally I think surgery gets me going (from my shadowing different doctors' experience) but surgery is really unique as compared to optometry or dermetology ..its not a 9-5 thing, so some sacrifice in personal life ..although depends on how you manage it..what kinda surgeon you wanta be -orthopedic?

aNYWAY I think someone is gonna yell again for going off topic of this thread!!..so i ll not continue.

First off, this thread has no topic, its pretty random postings. If idlebrain can't follow a thread if there is some variability in the posts, thats his problem its not like he is making any posts
My parents have lots of patient interaction, i just never shadowed them or anything like that. The only surgery i've seen up close is orthopedic, but i wanna see other stuff too, i dont really have my heart set on anything. Oh and i believe you meant to say ophthalmology not optometry (not MD's)

First off, this thread has no topic, its pretty random postings. If idlebrain can't follow a thread if there is some variability in the posts, thats his problem its not like he is making any posts
My parents have lots of patient interaction, i just never shadowed them or anything like that. The only surgery i've seen up close is orthopedic, but i wanna see other stuff too, i dont really have my heart set on anything. Oh and i believe you meant to say ophthalmology not optometry (not MD's)


oh, Opthalmology, It is.

I m so glad my second round of midterms are over!phew!

Hi priyanka and all,
They way your talking in threads is sensible.

I have seen couple of girls in my life as good friends (No love, No lust) in India and here.
My thinking and mentality is
--------- Born------------grown up---------------My Status
1.Girls---India------------India --------------------OK
2.Girls---India------------India & USA-----------OK
3.NRI?s-- USA------------ USA --------------------NO
(No factor of Quality time)
No 1 is always in flying colors about USA. They do not how tuff life is here.
No 2 is in transformation stage (trying Americanize). The way they talk is very sensible. But, they comes into reality they are not up to mark. Why?
No 3 is most tuff one?s. Always compliances about mentality, individuality and thinking miss match. Why?
I was unable to understand No 3?s mind. Bothering me lot.

Hi priyanka and all,
They way your talking in threads is sensible.

I have seen couple of girls in my life as good friends (No love, No lust) in India and here.
My thinking and mentality is
--------- Born------------grown up---------------My Status
1.Girls---India------------India --------------------OK
2.Girls---India------------India & USA-----------OK
3.NRI?s-- USA------------ USA --------------------NO
(No factor of Quality time)
No 1 is always in flying colors about USA. They do not how tuff life is here.
No 2 is in transformation stage (trying Americanize). The way they talk is very sensible. But, they comes into reality they are not up to mark. Why?
No 3 is most tuff one?s. Always compliances about mentality, individuality and thinking miss match. Why?
I was unable to understand No 3?s mind. Bothering me lot.
u missed 1 more gp. :confused:
born-USA
grown up-India
I know many who fall in this category and now they r back in USA.

u missed 1 more gp. :confused:
born-USA
grown up-India
I know many who fall in this category and now they r back in USA.

I think according to the time they spent after they were born in the US, they can be classified into any one of the two categories. I know people who were born here, left for India immediately, and are back now. I dont really find any difference between them and someone who was born and raised up in India . I think most of the USA born and raised girls are good too. Its all about how you present yourself to them and how you accept them. My 1 ruppee :laugh:

I think according to the time they spent after they were born in the US, they can be classified into any one of the two categories. I know people who were born here, left for India immediately, and are back now. I dont really find any difference between them and someone who was born and raised up in India . I think most of the USA born and raised girls are good too. Its all about how you present yourself to them and how you accept them. My 1 ruppee :laugh:
regarding ones born and brought up in USA,i think all of them are good..only diffrence is that,most of them are more americanised.my best friend was born and brought up here and i think she is much more indian than I am.
By the way ..how do u present yourself to them... :laugh: jk

By the way ..how do u present yourself to them... :laugh: jk
:laugh: :laugh:

My 1 ruppee :laugh:
:laugh:

regarding ones born and brought up in USA,i think all of them are good..only diffrence is that,most of them are more americanised.my best friend was born and brought up here and i think she is much more indian than I am.
By the way ..how do u present yourself to them... :laugh: jk

Umm..wink whenever you see them. Make weird gestures, and start pulling your hair untill you get some response. All girls are curious.
:D . It was part of the flow..lol..Now I am perplexed tooo :laugh:

Umm..wink whenever you see them. Make weird gestures, and start pulling your hair untill you get some response. All girls are curious.
:D . It was part of the flow..lol..Now I am perplexed tooo :laugh:
;) WINK!!!!!! shame,shame :thumbdown :laugh: :laugh:

Umm..wink whenever you see them. Make weird gestures, and start pulling your hair untill you get some response. All girls are curious.
:D . It was part of the flow..lol..Now I am perplexed tooo :laugh:
:D Hey...ItS just your HALLUCINATION :laugh: :laugh: ,,but i dont think all girls get curious at u guys pulling hair and making gestures. :laugh:
poor u....jk :p

:D Hey...ItS just your HALLUCINATION :laugh: :laugh: ,,but i dont think all girls get curious at u guys pulling hair and making gestures. :laugh:
poor u....jk :p


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lol desikudi i couldnt agree more ;)

:D Hey...ItS just your HALLUCINATION :laugh: :laugh: ,,but i dont think all girls get curious at u guys pulling hair and making gestures. :laugh:
poor u....jk :p

:laugh: :laugh:

How about singing? I am a bad singer BTW

:laugh: :laugh:

How about singing? I am a bad singer BTW

:laugh: Dont worry Premedtomed ,singing isnt of any use either ,umm.. ...unless and until u can really sing in HINDI FILMI STYLE :p..
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

:laugh: Dont worry Premedtomed ,singing isnt of any use either ,umm.. ...unless and until u can really sing in HINDI FILMI STYLE :p..
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:


In the bushes and by the river :D
:laugh:

In the bushes and by the river :D
:laugh:
LOL ...Right :thumbup: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Where does one find as topics complexion and arranged marriages, in a medical forum? Where one finds Indians in the same forum of course!

Jokes aside, the obsession with a fair complexion, in my view, is at least partly basic human nature. This is especially true in the case of females. The irony of course, is that not everyone can agree on the most ideal type of fair complexion. The Western image of "fair" is actually "pale" - blond hair/blue eyes - while the Indian image of "fair" is Aishwarya Rai. What I think it comes to down is ppl desiring to have an idealized image of their own race; there need to be both masculine and feminine types, of course, so as to symbolize the idealized progeny. This is why the different races cannot agree on a single definition of fair; they wish to perpuate an image of themselves in some way.

Where does one find as topics complexion and arranged marriages, in a medical forum? Where one finds Indians in the same forum of course!

Jokes aside, the obsession with a fair complexion, in my view, is at least partly basic human nature. This is especially true in the case of females. The irony of course, is that not everyone can agree on the most ideal type of fair complexion. The Western image of "fair" is actually "pale" - blond hair/blue eyes - while the Indian image of "fair" is Aishwarya Rai. What I think it comes to down is ppl desiring to have an idealized image of their own race; there need to be both masculine and feminine types, of course, so as to symbolize the idealized progeny. This is why the different races cannot agree on a single definition of fair; they wish to perpuate an image of themselves in some way.

If you are obsessed with fair complexion, this is a good time of the year. In Illinois, Indians start losing their summer tan now. Many Indians look very fair now. I have difficulty sometimes telling if a girl is Indian or White or Mexican :D . I think facial characteristics give it away in the end.

lol I promise to tell u the secret if u tell me how to figure out guys. I think guys are just as complicated as girls maybe more ;) ok well here goes from my prespective... if you're looking for a down to earth girl you have to be down to earth first. I think those girls hate when guys show off or r cocky.... just be yourself don't try to act smart or be a smart alec... don't try to show off your money or car n all those kinds of things. just talk to her get to know her and it goes on from there. I guess every girl is different in what she wants in a guy so i am just focusing on what not to do to piss the nice ones off lol ... sorry gotta go to class now will continue later :)

hmmn..good advice...thing is that i barely show off..i only do it around my boyz and what not...im hella down to earth as well, lol. I know a LOT of cocky people, im not one of em. Im nice as they come...i get along with most everyone. Unfortunetly, the nice ndn girl around here is a rarity....

Where does one find as topics complexion and arranged marriages, in a medical forum? Where one finds Indians in the same forum of course!

Jokes aside, the obsession with a fair complexion, in my view, is at least partly basic human nature. This is especially true in the case of females. The irony of course, is that not everyone can agree on the most ideal type of fair complexion. The Western image of "fair" is actually "pale" - blond hair/blue eyes - while the Indian image of "fair" is Aishwarya Rai. What I think it comes to down is ppl desiring to have an idealized image of their own race; there need to be both masculine and feminine types, of course, so as to symbolize the idealized progeny. This is why the different races cannot agree on a single definition of fair; they wish to perpuate an image of themselves in some way.


I dont't think the obsession with fair skin is human nature it is more to do with how society has impacted our views. For the girls, from a very young age all the fairy tales and cartoons have had pretty princesses who have been fair skinned and the witches have had dark skin. The cartoons elaborate the same idea as well. There is so much more stress on being able to stay fair (all those beauty lotions in India) that ever since we are born society tells us that having fair skin is so important ... specially in India.... just my 2 cents

Unfortunetly, the nice ndn girl around here is a rarity....

:laugh: that's the same way I thought about guys .....that there are no down to earth nice indian guys but trust me there are and there are also many down to earth indian girls ......I am sure you'll have no trouble finding girls in India.... just be yourself and you'll rock !! :thumbup: lol good luck ! :luck:

I dont't think the obsession with fair skin is human nature it is more to do with how society has impacted our views. For the girls, from a very young age all the fairy tales and cartoons have had pretty princesses who have been fair skinned and the witches have had dark skin. The cartoons elaborate the same idea as well. There is so much more stress on being able to stay fair (all those beauty lotions in India) that ever since we are born society tells us that having fair skin is so important ... specially in India.... just my 2 cents
i second that...... and yes the concepts are changing now.......beauty is no longer in vogue...smart and savvy is the word........i appreciate an attempt to burst the ballon of those myths about all those beautiful princess and fairies by the directors of SHREK.....

i second that...... and yes the concepts are changing now.......beauty is no longer in vogue...smart and savvy is the word........i appreciate an attempt to burst the ballon of those myths about all those beautiful princess and fairies by the directors of SHREK.....

I Love Shrek ! :love: i love how they mock all fairytales and disney movies. It is kind of refreshing. I hope they make a shrek 3 :D

I Love Shrek ! :love: i love how they mock all fairytales and disney movies. It is kind of refreshing. I hope they make a shrek 3 :D


THEY HAVE ALREADY STARTED ON SHREK 3...I THINK ITS GONNA BE OUT IN 2006. EVEN SHREK 4 IS BEING PLANNED.. :)

OH THEY EVEN MAKING RUSH HOUR 3 AND THEY ARE INTERESTED IN AISH TO PLAY CHRIS TUCKERS LOVE INTEREST.

I did my med school in Hyderabad and this one time I asked a local guy why he wasn't married... you know, in the course of a general conversation...
He started saying it was "you guys' fault..."
I was like, what?
He goes, and I'm loosely translating/quoting...
Over the years all the Indian men who left for the US and UK came back here and married all the good looking girls... then their sons' came here and married some more good looking girls... and now you guys come here and take what little is left... all the girls' parents prefer the almighty "NRI" over guys like us... and now there's nothing left in the gene pool...

I thought it was pretty funny... and NO... I did not subtract from their gene pool...

THEY HAVE ALREADY STARTED ON SHREK 3...I THINK ITS GONNA BE OUT IN 2006. EVEN SHREK 4 IS BEING PLANNED.. :)

OH THEY EVEN MAKING RUSH HOUR 3 AND THEY ARE INTERESTED IN AISH TO PLAY CHRIS TUCKERS LOVE INTEREST.


thanks for the info ! :D aish is getting so popular now i heard she was invited to work in a bond movie too

I did my med school in Hyderabad and this one time I asked a local guy why he wasn't married... you know, in the course of a general conversation...
He started saying it was "you guys' fault..."
I was like, what?
He goes, and I'm loosely translating/quoting...
Over the years all the Indian men who left for the US and UK came back here and married all the good looking girls... then their sons' came here and married some more good looking girls... and now you guys come here and take what little is left... all the girls' parents prefer the almighty "NRI" over guys like us... and now there's nothing left in the gene pool...

I thought it was pretty funny... and NO... I did not subtract from their gene pool...

:laugh: :laugh: that is pretty funny. but i don't think its necessarily true. A lot of girls do not want to go out of India so I do not know how completely true his allegations are lol

:laugh: :laugh: that is pretty funny. but i don't think its necessarily true. A lot of girls do not want to go out of India so I do not know how completely true his allegations are lol


lols Dr malki,

very very very cuddly cuddly cuddly cutey aavatar! hehe :D

lols Dr malki,

very very very cuddly cuddly cuddly cutey aavatar! hehe :D

i have nothing to contribute here :) but i wanted to say i really like the music from that movie in your signature - swades. i have no idea what these folks are singing but the songs are gorgeous.

:D

i have nothing to contribute here :) but i wanted to say i really like the music from that movie in your signature - swades. i have no idea what these folks are singing but the songs are gorgeous.

:D

talking about songs...... I am in love with Veer-zaara songs... they kinda sound similiar but are still really great! Swades used to be my fav but after i listen to a song several times it kinda loses its touch ;)

lols Dr malki,

very very very cuddly cuddly cuddly cutey aavatar! hehe :D

thanksss :o I love puppies !! :love:

i have nothing to contribute here :) but i wanted to say i really like the music from that movie in your signature - swades. i have no idea what these folks are singing but the songs are gorgeous.

:D



yup AR rehman is the man- his music , his voice..this makes me realize that medicine is not the only profession that can make people happy and emotionally influenced.

I am so waiting for Swades to realease..I think am gonna cry..based on its theme..seems touching..so am taking a box of kleenex to the theater :D

yup AR rehman is the man- his music , his voice..this makes me realize that medicine is not the only profession that can make people happy and emotionally influenced.

I am so waiting for Swades to realease..I think am gonna cry..based on its theme..seems touching..so am taking a box of kleenex to the theater :D
ru an SRK fan??
BTW priyanka..how ru doing??how ru finals going??

ru an SRK fan??
BTW priyanka..how ru doing??how ru finals going??


Hey!!!!

Desikudi, AM doing alrite lol...and finals umm I can tell only after my results are out.. How about you?! nice to see you after longggggggggggg....
mm i used to be a SRK fan.well not anymore..then I was a hrithik fan..that craze subsided too... well now.. a days.. its vivek oberoi .. :love: and i hope that stays !! :rolleyes:

desikudi did you think Dr malki is a guy too? damn!! I was a bit distant coz i thot she was a guy...that was so funny..I shud have asked before assuming..I knew u were a girl coz of the "kudi" thing.. YAY now Girls rule on india forum!!beware guys :p kidding! :)

Hey!!!!

Desikudi, AM doing alrite lol...and finals umm I can tell only after my results are out.. How about you?! nice to see you after longggggggggggg....
mm i used to be a SRK fan.well not anymore..then I was a hrithik fan..that craze subsided too... well now.. a days.. its vivek oberoi .. :love: and i hope that stays !! :rolleyes:

desikudi did you think Dr malki is a guy too? damn!! I was a bit distant coz i thot she was a guy...that was so funny..I shud have asked before assuming..I knew u were a girl coz of the "kudi" thing.. YAY now Girls rule on india forum!!beware guys :p kidding! :)
ur kidding me..vivek oberoi???? :laugh: :laugh: jk
i knew Dr malki is a girl :) --from her posts
Way to go gurls.. :thumbup: :laugh: :laugh:

Aare yaar,
While all you crazy girls like good lookin stars of bollywood, nothing tops Johnny Lever and Govinda! Haha, jk. But they are some of the best actors out there. If I had to choose one on the spot right now, I'd say the trophy goes to Salman Khan. Apparently he's a pretty humble guy when the camera is off, and that's why I chose him.

Hottest actress? Kajol or Amrita Rao.

Man, I've been watchin too many indian movies if I can name the actors...I better start doing my school work now.

Later,
Pagal



"Dummy, doctors only save lives, you showed them how to live."
~Munnabhai, M.B.B.S.

Aare yaar,
While all you crazy girls like good lookin stars of bollywood, nothing tops Johnny Lever and Govinda! Haha, jk. But they are some of the best actors out there. If I had to choose one on the spot right now, I'd say the trophy goes to Salman Khan. Apparently he's a pretty humble guy when the camera is off, and that's why I chose him.

Hottest actress? Kajol or Amrita Rao.

Man, I've been watchin too many indian movies if I can name the actors...I better start doing my school work now.

Later,
Pagal





"Dummy, doctors only save lives, you showed them how to live."
~Munnabhai, M.B.B.S.
:laugh: :laugh: grt..i am a salman fan too.. ;)

ur kidding me..vivek oberoi???? :laugh: :laugh: jk
i knew Dr malki is a girl :) --from her posts
Way to go gurls.. :thumbup: :laugh: :laugh:

thanks desi kuri... just curious.. why did you think I was a guy priyanka ?

I love vivek oberoi :love: there is just something about him that is very sexy... I heard salman is a real jerk in real life and I am not a huge salman fan

Aare yaar,
While all you crazy girls like good lookin stars of bollywood, nothing tops Johnny Lever and Govinda! Haha, jk. But they are some of the best actors out there. If I had to choose one on the spot right now, I'd say the trophy goes to Salman Khan. Apparently he's a pretty humble guy when the camera is off, and that's why I chose him.

Hottest actress? Kajol or Amrita Rao.

Man, I've been watchin too many indian movies if I can name the actors...I better start doing my school work now.

Later,
Pagal



"Dummy, doctors only save lives, you showed them how to live."
~Munnabhai, M.B.B.S.

I like kajol too I think she's a natural actor ......who is amrita rao ?

I like kajol too I think she's a natural actor ......who is amrita rao ?


Singer really hot :love: or is it Suneeta Rao
I am confused

How about Manoj Vaypayee- talented actor.

Singer really hot :love: or is it Suneeta Rao
I am confused

How about Manoj Vaypayee- talented actor.
manoj vajpayee is a good actor....i remember,,when i was in high school in india he was famous.... some 3-4 yrs ago

I like kajol too I think she's a natural actor ......who is amrita rao ?
amrita roa is a new actress ....she was in IShk vishq,..... in main hoon na too. but no comparision to kajol.

amrita roa is a new actress ....she was in IShk vishq,..... in main hoon na too. but no comparision to kajol.

amrita roa is preety cute....true kajol is one of the best though. Amrita Arora is also preety hot..but she's kind of a slut though, lol. Or at least they always make her out to be in her movies.

LOL, I cant believe people still know who Salil Ankola is. Yea you are right he was a cricketer. Although he had a lot of problem with accuracy, he was pretty fast. He even broke Neil Fairbrothers leg through his pads during the 93 England series. But as usual, BCCI did not really help an upcoming fast bowler. Busted his knee, gave up cricket and used his baby face to become a small time actor. He is supposedly going to be in some movie depicting the life of cricketers on the bench (not selected to play). Since he was one of the most experinced benched player in the game he should have a lot of input.

LOL, I cant believe people still know who Salil Ankola is. Yea you are right he was a cricketer. Although he had a lot of problem with accuracy, he was pretty fast. He even broke Neil Fairbrothers leg through his pads during the 93 England series. But as usual, BCCI did not really help an upcoming fast bowler. Busted his knee, gave up cricket and used his baby face to become a small time actor. He is supposedly going to be in some movie depicting the life of cricketers on the bench (not selected to play). Since he was one of the most experinced benched player in the game he should have a lot of input.
:laugh: :laugh: I used to love watching criicket but didn't see too much of him... but yeah he is a hottie ! :love:

LOL, I cant believe people still know who Salil Ankola is.


People?!?!

Oh BTW!!! Hi Stranger !! :meanie:

I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee cricket esp Indian vs Pak !! guys backstabbing each other :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

and..

shahid afridi :love:
INDIA vs PAKISTAN..Ohh i love those matches. ;)
i remember how in india,,people go crazy for cricket..esp IN vs Pak..once in newspaper it came that in soem city ,,,during india-pak match the electricity went out and u wont believe,people burnt the power station. :(

INDIA vs PAKISTAN..Ohh i love those matches. ;)
i remember how in india,,people go crazy for cricket..esp IN vs Pak..once in newspaper it came that in soem city ,,,during india-pak match the electricity went out and u wont believe,people burnt the power station. :(

immature behavior at best.
We need more sports to cheer for.

Yea India Pak matches were awesome. Since I grew up near Sharjah, I was raised to be a cricket fiend. I haven't able to give up my love for the sport in the past 10years. If it weren't for my parents I might have even pursued it as a career who knows.

My cousin sisters are currently in love with Agit Agarkar, Zaheer Khan and Irfan Pathan. Otho I cant really comment on how good they look, they do have decent games.

wow my finals are over..I cant be happier..

wow my finals are over..I cant be happier..
enjoy gurl :thumbup: mine will start next week,except 1 taht i had today. :(

enjoy gurl :thumbup: mine will start next week,except 1 taht i had today. :(


awww I feel ya! I felt the same way last week and the whole week was the MOSTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT stressful time of my quarter!! I dont know how much coffee i consumed maybe like a 1000 gallon. totally got me zombied!

U ll be done soon! :thumbup: :D

amrita roa is a new actress ....she was in IShk vishq,..... in main hoon na too. but no comparision to kajol.

ohhh i know who that is ..... she is pretty, lets just hope she keeps it simple and doesn't go all slutty like the rest of the girls.

wow my finals are over..I cant be happier..

man lucky you! I hopwe they went well !! Mine start next week.... I should be free after wednesday though.... then its time to go watch oceans twelve :D so many hottties in one movie :love:

enjoy gurl :thumbup: mine will start next week,except 1 taht i had today. :(

good luck !! :luck:

good luck !! :luck:
thanks :) ..good luck to u too.. :thumbup:

good luck Dr Malki and DesiKudi.. :luck:

I almost fell out of my chair when I saw one of the flashing ad's on top of the Indian thread to be "Indianmatrimonials.com".... I tell you this dulha dulhan people never leave us alone.

I almost fell out of my chair when I saw one of the flashing ad's on top of the Indian thread to be "Indianmatrimonials.com".... I tell you this dulha dulhan people never leave us alone.
:laugh: :laugh:

I almost fell out of my chair when I saw one of the flashing ad's on top of the Indian thread to be "Indianmatrimonials.com".... I tell you this dulha dulhan people never leave us alone.

:laugh: :laugh: I guess its a pretty popular site

lols i love to scroll thru the bridal wear websites..the lehengas r sooooooooo beautiful..!and expensive ..but nething for the bride right ? :D

lols i love to scroll thru the bridal wear websites..the lehengas r sooooooooo beautiful..!and expensive ..but nething for the bride right ? :D

dude, you are freaking me out man :scared: . Why is this shaadi stuff so important to us :confused: ?

I think since the day i was born my grandmothers have been keeping an eye out for "nice girls who can speak marathi" whatever that is.

Not to mention that since I got into school my "stock value" has sky rocketed and if I match into the specialty of my choice, i automatically go blue chip. What i find really funny is each week when I call my grandmas they try to find out if there is somone on the horizon, and whats even funnier is they think they are trying to be discreet with their questioning :laugh:

:o Too bad I believe in laow marriage.... my grandmas are going to be crushed :(

I pray to God I never get too old to the point I have to resort to a personals website (i.e. shaadi.com, hindimatrimony.com) to finding a bride....would like to meet a nice chic before I finish undergrad...i'm running out of time. :(

I pray to God I never get too old to the point I have to resort to a personals website (i.e. shaadi.com, hindimatrimony.com) to finding a bride....would like to meet a nice chic before I finish undergrad...i'm running out of time. :(
chip in the chivalary and u will find a dame...all the best.....happy hunting... :luck:

I pray to God I never get too old to the point I have to resort to a personals website (i.e. shaadi.com, hindimatrimony.com) to finding a bride....would like to meet a nice chic before I finish undergrad...i'm running out of time. :(

relax I am in the same situation ;)

:(

lols u guys shud wait until u get into med schol...if u have a gf/bf in undergrad and wat if he she goes to antoher med school? that wuld suck,...tahts the only reason i m holding on ;) lol excuse my typing

lols u guys shud wait until u get into med schol...if u have a gf/bf in undergrad and wat if he she goes to antoher med school? that wuld suck,...tahts the only reason i m holding on ;) lol excuse my typing
true..same reason here ;)

true..same reason here ;)
i guess that's why i waited. but coming from someone in med...this may not be the best. for indians the pool is small to begin with. getting in and being in med school makes your pool shrink further. i hope i don't have to resort to "matrimonial ads" but sheesh the way things look right now...that options can't be off the table.

i guess that's why i waited. but coming from someone in med...this may not be the best. for indians the pool is small to begin with. getting in and being in med school makes your pool shrink further. i hope i don't have to resort to "matrimonial ads" but sheesh the way things look right now...that options can't be off the table.

I agree. I have many friends in med school and they all tell me that med school is not the ideal time to find a guy/girl. A lot of the nice guys are already either in relationships or engaged/ married and the pool is very small. so keep your options open ;)

network. thats the key to life. in the medical profession, as in so many other professions, your ability to network can set you apart. when you are applying for residencies, who you know, and who's support you have can go such a long way. same thing for when you're out practicing, even more so.

it also helps with relationships. if you're single, one of the best things you can do is just continue to meet people. the best way to do that is through networking, through friends. networking with friends is different, you're not going around making small talk and handing out your business card every time you see someone you don't know, but my advice, stay tight with people who are already in relationships or already married, they always have tons of single friends. meeting a girl at a random party or a club or something is possible, but meeting a friend of a friend, or being introduced to someone that you both mutually know, thats a lot easier. plus your friends know you, so they might have an idea of someone you should meet.

arranged marriage in the old sense is largely defunct. its evolved considerably. really, i think what happens is moreso "arranged introductions"
people joke about grandparents or parents looking for girls or guys for their children, or to set them up, but mostly its just to get their kids to meet someone and its really up to the kids to take it from there. its not an arranged marriage by any means, just an introduction.

another great place to meet desis. the big conventions during the summer. i think there's one for pretty much every major state/language.

like JAINA, Bengali Convention, Telugu, Tamil... there are tons. I know many many people who have met girls or guys at these conventions and a couple years later ended up getting married. for the younger crowds, these conventions can be a good time, they always have young adult activities, mixers, parties. plus, pretty much everyone there is from a similar cultural/family background as you. so check those out too.

i need to practice what i preach. sigh.

network. thats the key to life. in the medical profession, as in so many other professions, your ability to network can set you apart. when you are applying for residencies, who you know, and who's support you have can go such a long way. same thing for when you're out practicing, even more so.

it also helps with relationships. if you're single, one of the best things you can do is just continue to meet people. the best way to do that is through networking, through friends. networking with friends is different, you're not going around making small talk and handing out your business card every time you see someone you don't know, but my advice, stay tight with people who are already in relationships or already married, they always have tons of single friends. meeting a girl at a random party or a club or something is possible, but meeting a friend of a friend, or being introduced to someone that you both mutually know, thats a lot easier. plus your friends know you, so they might have an idea of someone you should meet.

arranged marriage in the old sense is largely defunct. its evolved considerably. really, i think what happens is moreso "arranged introductions"
people joke about grandparents or parents looking for girls or guys for their children, or to set them up, but mostly its just to get their kids to meet someone and its really up to the kids to take it from there. its not an arranged marriage by any means, just an introduction.

another great place to meet desis. the big conventions during the summer. i think there's one for pretty much every major state/language.

like JAINA, Bengali Convention, Telugu, Tamil... there are tons. I know many many people who have met girls or guys at these conventions and a couple years later ended up getting married. for the younger crowds, these conventions can be a good time, they always have young adult activities, mixers, parties. plus, pretty much everyone there is from a similar cultural/family background as you. so check those out too.

i need to practice what i preach. sigh.

thanks for the advice dude
Man I hope I don't have to resort to the matrimonial ads

Haha maybe the matrimonial ads aren't so bad...but I think I would resort to my parents trying to hook me up with someone else if I can't find someone on my own steam. :rolleyes:

Don't worry guys lol I think we all still have a few more years before we have to resort to matrimonial websites ;)

But you know how it goes....say if you plan to get married at 25, start looking when you're 21.

But you know how it goes....say if you plan to get married at 25, start looking when you're 21.
:laugh: :laugh: I think when it has to happen it will happen... you could be 21 or 28 ... you can;t plan much

Haha maybe the matrimonial ads aren't so bad...but I think I would resort to my parents trying to hook me up with someone else if I can't find someone on my own steam. :rolleyes:


haha same here.
Lucky me I have a few cousins and relatives here in the States that know a lot of people. But sadly I am not very respected (my own actions led to this/also they are nice but ABCD so "just" nice you know the ones you say "Hi" to and try to stay away from their path as much as possible coz you are not cool enough, although I am as westernized as I could be :( )

Ahh single blues
Help me Krishna :(

why are you guys worried? its a job of every desi parent to find their son a nice beautiful girl, or vice versa for that matter..so relax..hehe

why are you guys worried? its a job of every desi parent to find their son a nice beautiful girl, or vice versa for that matter..so relax..hehe

And, boy, they sure love the job... :laugh:

And, boy, they sure love the job... :laugh:

Screw that...I aint letting my parents find me a gal. lol I'll do a better job finding her myself :idea:

andekhi anjani si..pagli si deewani si..jane wo kaisi ho gi reh....

The guy should be able to do some wing-ding bhangra thats all I care about :p (j/k)

The guy should be able to do some wing-ding bhangra thats all I care about :p (j/k)

shivalrous <--- master of wingding bhangra-ing it

Screw that...I aint letting my parents find me a gal. lol I'll do a better job finding her myself :idea:

andekhi anjani si..pagli si deewani si..jane wo kaisi ho gi reh....


achhi hogi bahut achhi mere yaar :laugh:

achhi hogi bahut achhi mere yaar :laugh:

Haan, sachi sachi... :laugh:

The guy should be able to do some wing-ding bhangra thats all I care about :p
yeah,
i definitley want a guy who can bhangra! that makes a guy so much hotter! :love: :love:

shivalrous <--- master of wingding bhangra-ing it


prove it shiv :p

yeah,
i definitley want a guy who can bhangra! that makes a guy so much hotter! :love: :love:


yep, when a guy dances, it exposes his (naughty + innocent) self. only naughty or only innocent isn't good.

Haan, sachi sachi... :laugh:

I am sacchi mein bacchi :laugh:

me need to learn hindi quickly... :(

I am sacchi mein bacchi :laugh:
Oh Really.....u expect us to believe that !!!!!! :clap:

prove it shiv :p


eh you got me, i can manage a few moves. but i definitely am more of a dandia-raas guy.

eh you got me, i can manage a few moves. but i definitely am more of a dandia-raas guy.


Dandiya :thumbup: 9 nights straight of falguni pathak's dandiya raas in bombay dressed in my fav lehengas/chaniya cholis. Guys look good in those flarry kinda tops, u seen those? Its kinda funny, I'd crack up seeing them wearing those, not anymore though lol.

Who can beat that kinda fun?

Oh Really.....u expect us to believe that !!!!!! :clap:

Lol, I donno I was just rhyming up something dumb. :p :o

Dandiya :thumbup: 9 nights straight of falguni pathak's dandiya raas in bombay dressed in my fav lehengas/chaniya cholis. Guys look good in those flarry kinda tops, u seen those? Its kinda funny, I'd crack up seeing them wearing those, not anymore though lol.

Who can beat that kinda fun?

best time in india ever - diwali, a long time ago. 6 hours of throwing dye filled ballons at strangers, coming home COMPLETELY blue, and not have your family recognize who you are. :thumbup:

what's dandiya?

best time in india ever - diwali, a long time ago. 6 hours of throwing dye filled ballons at strangers, coming home COMPLETELY blue, and not have your family recognize who you are. :thumbup:

what's dandiya?

that's holi my dear friend It is a lot of fun ;)

Screw that...I aint letting my parents find me a gal. lol I'll do a better job finding her myself :idea:

andekhi anjani si..pagli si deewani si..jane wo kaisi ho gi reh....

A childhood friend of mine recently met a guy her parents were raving about for years after secretly sending in her 'biodata'. Theyre now engaged....so corny as it is, I guess it sometimes works.

that's holi my dear friend It is a lot of fun ;)


Holi is the best Indian festival. A couple of years ago, my sister and I invited a lot of our friends over for Holi while our parents were in India....there are still patches of paint stains all over our house.

Holi is the best Indian festival. A couple of years ago, my sister and I invited a lot of our friends over for Holi while our parents were in India....there are still patches of paint stains all over our house.

Oh yah, holi... :o

junebugf, are you in atlanta? grady/marta...i'm from there, heh. went to tech.
you?

best time in india ever - diwali, a long time ago. 6 hours of throwing dye filled ballons at strangers, coming home COMPLETELY blue, and not have your family recognize who you are. :thumbup:

what's dandiya?


hey,that must have been holi and not diwali. :D
Dandiya,is a special indian dance where u r supposed to dance with wooden sticks and not hurt others and smile all at the same time :laugh: .You have to see it to believe it.

Oh yah, holi... :o

junebugf, are you in atlanta? grady/marta...i'm from there, heh. went to tech.
you?

Yeah, I'm in Atlanta. Tech is amazing. I wish I went there....sadly I'm at state. I live on MLK on the other side of the connector, so the view out of my apt is lovely! One more semester though, and then its probably off to Boston U!!!

Yeah, I'm in Atlanta. Tech is amazing. I wish I went there....sadly I'm at state. I live on MLK on the other side of the connector, so the view out of my apt is lovely! One more semester though, and then its probably off to Boston U!!!

BUKWAAS!(spelling?) :laugh: whenever us tech people wanted to party, we'd head over across the street to the gsu dorms and raise hell :D you are one lucky dude.

bu for med school? boston is AWWWEEESSSOOOMMMEEE compared to atlanta. don't bring a car, just so you know :cool: i'm heading BACK to ga, mercer, for med school. heh.