Just curious, how many women here are planning on getting prenups or got a prenup in the interest of protecting their assets (as opposed to Hubbie's)?

51 views and no responses? I guess I'm the only who thinks about this. Actually it's more because my mom is convinced that some slacker is going to think I'm his cash cow and demand alimony in the future if things don't work out.

Usually it's the women that have all the issues with prenups... not the men.

Nah, I'm didn't get a prenup. I got married when I had more debts than assets (even more true today). So what would be the point?

Me either... but it'll be 9 yrs in a few weeks, and we owe more now than we did when we were young and foolish! The whole prenup thing seems odd to me though, like you've got a contingency plan for getting out. It seems strange to be making plans for the divorce when you're planning the wedding.

Some people think marriage licenses should require renewal after 5 years. To avoid all the crap that comes with divorce. :laugh:

First off, I'm not a woman, but this thread caught my eye.

Prenups are a form of insurance. Buying any type of insurance is making plans for the unexpected/undesired. Isn't buying homeowner's insurance making a contingency plan for your home burning down? Isn't life insurance making contingency plans for your own death? (when you should be focusing on living your life.)

Not all marriages work out, and the laws are set up to make things difficult and miserable for both parties (but especially for the party with more assets.) There is no need, in an already emotionally difficult divorce, that people need to get put through a legal and financial ringer that often ends up costing both parties lots of money in legal fees. I see prenups as "legal and financial ringer due to divorce" insurance. <shrug>

Nah, I'm didn't get a prenup. I got married when I had more debts than assets (even more true today). So what would be the point?
ditto.

No way I could get married with a prenup. I know that they make rational sense... but then again I don't pretend to be rational anyway :)

HELL YA I'm getting a prenup especially since my current 'boyfriend' has a massive debt and expensive spending habits. Yes the prenup will be iron clad LOL!

From what I hear they don't mean a thing after you've been married for X amount of years.

The only reason why celebrities and rich folk get away with "prenups" is because they can bury you in litigation. I was under the impression that neither state nor federal law recognizes prenuptial agreements.

Um, you might want to contact either an attorney or someone who has some idea about prenups, because that couldn't be further from the truth. Neither statement is correct. Some people put that in their prenups, though that the prenup becomes void after X number of years of marraige, and actually they're recognized in every state in this country.

:laugh: I think the prenup will be more beneficial for my husband rather than me since he has $0 school loans prior to us getting married and I have a significant amount so now what's his is mine and what's mine is his :meanie:

You have a 50% chance of getting a divorce these days. If you are a dcotor and you do get a divorce, you have a 90% chance of loosing financialy(especially if you are male). Good preneups will not only depend on the state where the marriage took place, but the state where the divorce is filed. If you can get a "good prenup" then go for it IMO. The best innsurance is however to either marry rich or just marry the right person.

:laugh: I think the prenup will be more beneficial for my husband rather than me since he has $0 school loans prior to us getting married and I have a significant amount so now what's his is mine and what's mine is his :meanie:

This is what scares the crap out of most males prior to marriage.

Seeing my parents go through five divorces between them, I'm definitely drafting-up some plans in the form of a prenup. I don't want to end up paying alimony to a husband that I supported for a short time, or losing my favorite books/property in a lawyers' auction. I guess I'm jaded, but better safe than sorry.

Just to clarify somethings 1st..

I am a man, next... I suggested a prenup with my fiance... just to "protect" her interests. At the same time, reassure her that I do not intend to get into a divorce, and if we do, then I shall be punished...

I guess the terms of a prenup is really entirely up to your preferences. Whatever you deem fit as a legal binding contract.

JMHO.

I will have a prenup because I've had two boyfriends years ago who went psycho and tried to take money out of my personal savings account from a small inheritance, my belongings, etc.

Man, you can know someone pretty damn well, but you never know exactly how psycho they can get when they get broken up with. :(