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Hey everyone!
So I am getting married about a month before graduating from med school, and this one issue is literally causing me 75% of my wedding worries. I have asked all of my friends and family members, spent hours searching online, and still can't decide what to do. I would appreciate any feedback at all- especially from your personal experience. I read through the "Ladies, will you change your last name after marriage?" thread but am hoping to get some advice more specific to my situation.
I can't decide whether or not to take my fiance's last name. I have a simple but unique monosyllabic surname that I like very much. I am also the last person in my family with the name- I am an only child and my father has only sisters. My fiance's last name is boring and common- it is one of the top 3 last names in the US. I really do like the idea of our entire family (including future kids) having the same last name but I just don't like his. To make it even more complicated, he is in my med school class and thus if we work at the same hospital at any point, we could both be Dr. X (along with about a million other people since it's such a common last name.) He wants me to do whatever makes me happy, although he won't take my last time (I tried to convince him- haha!)
Here are the ideas I have thought about, and the problems with all of them:
1) Keep my last name, name future children with his last name (pro: I love my name. Con: wouldn't be the "X" family, children would have a different last name than me.)
2) Keep my last name, name future children with his last name and with my surname as a middle name (Pros: we only want 2 kids, and my surnameis actually a popular unisex first name, so it would work. Con: they would have my surname in their name, but it still wouldnt be their surname).
3) Give children my last name (Cons: No one would think they were his children)- not going to do this one.
4) Hyphenate my name, hyphenate children's last name: 3 syllables total (Cons: don't particularly care for hyphenated names, don't want to do that to my future children)
5) Hyphenate my name, give children his last name: (Pros: I could keep my name and also incorporate his and have it in common with kids. Cons: I hear that hyphenated names ALWAYS get messed up)
Please help!!! I can't decide what to do and I'm really frustrated since there's no ideal option. Thank you!
So I am getting married about a month before graduating from med school, and this one issue is literally causing me 75% of my wedding worries. I have asked all of my friends and family members, spent hours searching online, and still can't decide what to do. I would appreciate any feedback at all- especially from your personal experience. I read through the "Ladies, will you change your last name after marriage?" thread but am hoping to get some advice more specific to my situation.
I can't decide whether or not to take my fiance's last name. I have a simple but unique monosyllabic surname that I like very much. I am also the last person in my family with the name- I am an only child and my father has only sisters. My fiance's last name is boring and common- it is one of the top 3 last names in the US. I really do like the idea of our entire family (including future kids) having the same last name but I just don't like his. To make it even more complicated, he is in my med school class and thus if we work at the same hospital at any point, we could both be Dr. X (along with about a million other people since it's such a common last name.) He wants me to do whatever makes me happy, although he won't take my last time (I tried to convince him- haha!)
Here are the ideas I have thought about, and the problems with all of them:
1) Keep my last name, name future children with his last name (pro: I love my name. Con: wouldn't be the "X" family, children would have a different last name than me.)
2) Keep my last name, name future children with his last name and with my surname as a middle name (Pros: we only want 2 kids, and my surnameis actually a popular unisex first name, so it would work. Con: they would have my surname in their name, but it still wouldnt be their surname).
3) Give children my last name (Cons: No one would think they were his children)- not going to do this one.
4) Hyphenate my name, hyphenate children's last name: 3 syllables total (Cons: don't particularly care for hyphenated names, don't want to do that to my future children)
5) Hyphenate my name, give children his last name: (Pros: I could keep my name and also incorporate his and have it in common with kids. Cons: I hear that hyphenated names ALWAYS get messed up)
Please help!!! I can't decide what to do and I'm really frustrated since there's no ideal option. Thank you!