Guys,

Just so you know...this drove me NUTS last year.

Please don't make a big show of opening doors/holding elevators, etc for your female counterparts. This is incredibly annoying.

If you get to a door first, open it, WALK THROUGH and then hold it behind you so that it doesn't drop on the next person. If you are at the head of the pack getting on or off the elevator, again GO THROUGH.

Your female colleages are just that...colleagues. And are perfectly capable of taking care of themsevles. An interview day is a professional event, not a date. Save the door opening for your SO (if she wants that kind of behavior)

I wouldn't be offended if a male opened/held the door for me or if he was gentlemanly enough to allow me to enter an elevator first. And I have held the door, said "after you" to a few males in my life. It is just called being courteous.

man-hating feminism?

holding a door open is POLITE. that's all.

Originally posted by md03
Guys,

Just so you know...this drove me NUTS last year.

Please don't make a big show of opening doors/holding elevators, etc for your female counterparts. This is incredibly annoying.

If you get to a door first, open it, WALK THROUGH and then hold it behind you so that it doesn't drop on the next person. If you are at the head of the pack getting on or off the elevator, again GO THROUGH.

Your female colleages are just that...colleagues. And are perfectly capable of taking care of themsevles. An interview day is a professional event, not a date. Save the door opening for your SO (if she wants that kind of behavior)

I think you should follow the conservative rules of polite society when you are being observed for an interview. You may have someone that has really had it ingrained in them that walking through a door before a female is extremely rude. Never mind what your peers think. You are trying to impress the establishment.

I agree with doc05: we're being polite. I've held open a door for people for years, and I've had one woman, once, stand there like an idiot staring at me waiting for me to let go so she could do it herself. Ya know what? I don't do it because I don't think you can open the door yourself, I do it because it's common friggin' courtesy. Not only that, but you talk to so many women these days who complain that men just don't show "manners" anymore...I can't tell you how many women tell me that they wished they were back in the days when a man would hold the door open, unlock the car door, just show some shivalry. And most studies show that women nowadays still respect this type of stuff. I don't think a man opening a door for a female stranger is anything more than polite. I open doors for EVERYONE, men AND women. I also open them for elderly...and I don't think they feel inferior because of it.

Good for you, DR and doc05! I wish all men behaved like you. I personally would love men to open my doors regardless of place and time, but maybe I am old-fashioned. :)

Women who cannot appreciate your polite manners are probably big time feminists. Don't pay attention to them! ;)

As I go through my daily professional life (and private life, for that matter), I find that men always step ahead as we're walking, pull the door open and let me pass through first. This has been consistent throughout the three states that I've lived in - all in different parts of the country.

I think I know what md'03 means though, about occasions in which men might do it in this odd, exaggerated type of way, almost like calling attention to themselves. Normally it's a very unconcious act on the part of both parties. When a guy seems to be doing it with a pronounced flourish, it makes you feel like a pawn in his little demonstration. Like he's trying to show everyone what a gentleman he is.

Originally posted by md03
Guys,

Just so you know...this drove me NUTS last year.

Please don't make a big show of opening doors/holding elevators, etc for your female counterparts. This is incredibly annoying.

If you get to a door first, open it, WALK THROUGH and then hold it behind you so that it doesn't drop on the next person. If you are at the head of the pack getting on or off the elevator, again GO THROUGH.

Your female colleages are just that...colleagues. And are perfectly capable of taking care of themsevles. An interview day is a professional event, not a date. Save the door opening for your SO (if she wants that kind of behavior)


When I am at a door, I like holding it for everyone until my 5 minutes are up, especially if there are hot chicks around. I get off on the few smiles I get. When I am in the elevator, and I am right at the front, are you SURE its alright to go through? And I always thought of the interview day as a date with all the female interviewees there at the time, am I wrong?



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Originally posted by md03
Guys,

Just so you know...this drove me NUTS last year.

Please don't make a big show of opening doors/holding elevators, etc for your female counterparts. This is incredibly annoying.



Are you from New York?

Guys, please keep doing what you're doing. If I were walking next to or behind you and you just walked through the door without allowing me or any other female in short range tp walk through first, I would think you were really rude. So, please don't change.

I think she's talking about when the whole group of twelve or so comes up on a door. Some bozo up front scurries to get there, then stands there practically bowing, the other men bunching up on each side of the doorway while the two or three women buried in the middle of the pack are forced to step to the front and pass through the door first. That kind of stuff is silly and really appears amateurish, in my opinion. As though they are unused to interacting in a professional environment.

Sure, when you're walking with or just behind a fellow who gets the door for you - that's nice, and pretty much expected behavior, I think. I don't get the impression that this is what annoys her.

after reading this post, i have decided that not only am i NOT going to hold the door for females but i'm gonna SLAM IT SHUT behind me.

how do you like that!?

damn feminists...always stealing our thunder!

I've always gone ahead and held the door open for the group as a whole, not for the women in particular. Now that the gender issues is raised however, I'd have to ask why women doctors don't do the same more often. We are all equal aren't we?

We will continue to hold the door open on interviews for the same reason that we will wear suits and make small talk about the weather-- it is generally accepted polite behavior appropriate for the situation.

...so true. Holding doors open has gotten out of hand. I agree totally with the original poster.

Originally posted by Dr. Zorders
...so true. Holding doors open has gotten out of hand. I agree totally with the original poster.

...absolutely. So have saying "please" and "thank you" as well as saying "good morning" or "Hi" when you make eye contact with someone.