Originally Posted by dermocrat88
I agree there must be order in the household and I would hate for my bf/fiance/husband to be a punk. He needs to have a backbone and know when to stand up for himself.
Yes most women do want a man who can guide her but it's hard to find a keen listener, lol.
Honestly, I love leggo since Chris Brown's video, "Look at me now". I guess that shish is cray ain't it Jay!
Man, nothing beats NY and I lived in Atlanta for three years because of school. Fried Chicken Wed and Fried Fish Fridays with the baked potatoes and stuff. I swear I could have gotten a heart attack messing with the Southern food. I will keep my Jamaican food anyday.
The south was cool but it's too slow for someone like me. I have to attend a NE medical school, lol.
Ahh, precious jewels you just dropped. That's EXACTLY what I've been waiting to hear. You CAN'T be a weak leader, and society has been good at grooming weak black men lately. See, back in the 50's and 70's, this convo wouldn't have even dropped because black men were a different type of caliber, but now, with so many single homes, with the skinny jean epidemic, and with the pushing of weak black figures by the media....well....you get my drift.
It's hard to become a powerful black men if there is none to pattern yourself from.
You can't have a weak man defending the home, and defending the relationship. JAF actually helped my argument out by mentioning those scriptures. A wife is supposed to be so important to her husband that he'll lay down his life to save hers. Now that's DEEP, and I don't think any WEAK man can do that. Even more, he's patterning himself after the same Jesus who wrecked shop in the synagogue after seeing how others had disrespected it. Think about that.....
In the same breath, there can be only one head, but also, if the husband is a servant leader, then he'll make sure his wife is taken care of.
See, if you have your man's back, and he's a true leader, yeah, he'll make sure you're taken care of...and that includes listening, even when he doesn't want to. Been there, done that lol.
And, I'll actually be in the NE this fall, so I shall see why you so admire that part of the country lol. I'll bring my screw music and swishahouse mixes with me.....