Originally Posted by a runner
It's really her decision and it sounds like she's leaning towards MSU. If she values the relationship enough and wants it to work out, she will choose DMU. That's not to say it can't work out if you are separated for 4 years, I'm just saying that if she's really committed to the relationship as much as it sounds like you are, then it would be a no brainer for her.
It's really not an issue about which school is "best" for her. As far as specialties go, EM and anesthesia are DO friendly and she shouldn't have much problem matching ACGME if she works hard. Sure there's definitely disadvantages of DMU compared to MSU, but she'd be just fine at DMU with her career. The fact that she's even thinking about it (and leaning towards MSU at that) makes this a relationship issue more than a "what is the best school for her to be at" kind of question. If I had been in the same situation as her with my wife before we were married, it would have been a no brainer... "you mean I can be around the person I love AND go to medical school???" There would have been no other options in my mind...
Are you a pharm student? If so, I can see why you think what you do, but in all honesty, I think you're wrong. The fact is that while DMU is one of the best DO schools out there, life in general is just easier as an MD. We're talking about four years versus the rest of her working life. I mean, really, if it's as serious as the OP says it is, it should be able to survive four years -- not even, considering that fourth year, you can do electives/sub-I's together. And what's third year like at DMU? Do you get to rotate at hospitals around the country? Maybe you could rotate close enough to her that it isn't a long drive.
I'm going to agree with the first poster. Even if she's madly, deeply in love with you, to the point that you do get married prior to starting med school, you can't convince her to go DO when her heart isn't in it. She doesn't like OMT, doesn't want to take two boards (and if she applies to competitive places, she's going to have to as a DO), and likes MSU better. You need to let her chart her own career path. Despite what people here tell you, long distance relationships CAN work. They don't often, but they can if the couple already has the foundation is truly in love.