Originally Posted by Mass Effect
Are you a pharm student? If so, I can see why you think what you do, but in all honesty, I think you're wrong. The fact is that while DMU is one of the best DO schools out there, life in general is just easier as an MD. We're talking about four years versus the rest of her working life. I mean, really, if it's as serious as the OP says it is, it should be able to survive four years -- not even, considering that fourth year, you can do electives/sub-I's together. And what's third year like at DMU? Do you get to rotate at hospitals around the country? Maybe you could rotate close enough to her that it isn't a long drive.
I'm going to agree with the first poster. Even if she's madly, deeply in love with you, to the point that you do get married prior to starting med school, you can't convince her to go DO when her heart isn't in it. She doesn't like OMT, doesn't want to take two boards (and if she applies to competitive places, she's going to have to as a DO), and likes MSU better. You need to let her chart her own career path. Despite what people here tell you, long distance relationships CAN work. They don't often, but they can if the couple already has the foundation is truly in love.
I'm a pharm student for 2 more weeks, then I'll be a DO student. I agree that long distance relationships certainly can work, my wife and I were in one for a while before we got married, and the distance between DMU and MSU is much less than we had. However, we were both looking for any way possible to sacrifice to make it possible for us to be in the same place. If we had been in the same situation as the OP and his girlfriend, either one of us would have made the sacrifice without even thinking about it.
My point is that if she really is "madly, deeply in love" (which is really very superficial.. committment is what is important) with the OP, then he won't have to do any convincing at all (nor should he try). If that's the case, she won't want to be separated and in a long distance relationship. Of course, a lot of that has to do with maturity level and the stage of life she is in, and whether or not she's ready to settle down or still wants her "freedom." To the OP: I'm not saying you should give up on the relationship, just that you should be careful to be aware of the signs that she may not be as committed to the relationship as you are, let her make this decision, and be prepared for things to not go as you'd like. I'm not sure which posters are married or not, but I can tell you that those who have been successfully married for a good many years, especially with kids, will likely share my views and those who haven't will likely disagree.