Originally Posted by smq123
But I'm arguing that there's a difference between saying to someone "Wow, you look really pretty today!" and "Hey, lady, I'm glad that YOU'RE my doctor today!!! [ogles breasts]"
I'm not saying that you shouldn't expect some attention if you take the time to dress nicely. But, apparently, it's asking too much to expect that the people around you observe some basic rules of decency, politeness, and civility.
It's becoming more established in our culture that people don't "ask" to be sexually harrassed or assaulted based on the way that they dress. I think, therefore, that it's pretty fair to say that wearing a sweater that fits well (isn't too low-cut or too tight, but isn't shaped like a bag) doesn't mean that you deserve to have your breasts ogled by a lecherous attending/resident/patient. I'm sorry if that hurts your little morose, crabby soul, but welcome to reality.
Of course there is a difference between someone expressing themselves appropriately or inappropriately, and I never said there wasn't. Just as you bear some blame so does the tactless moron who can't keep his pecker in order.
And nothing has become established in our culture beyond this trend that blabbing feminists think their loud-mouthed, emotionally immature tirades should be considered de facto despite them having nothing that approaches rational explanation for their beliefs.
The fact that you feel bad about being groped isn't reason enough to absolve you of partial responsibility. Dave Chappelle said it best: If you dress like a police officer, don't be surprised when people come up and ask for your assistance.
And your point about not wanting to wear a sweater shaped like a "bag" shows just how image conscious you are. You're a hypocrite if you criticize others for outwardly acknowledging a behavior that you voluntarily champion.