Thank you for the wonderful examples right here in this thread.
Let me point out some of the more bizarre and sad examples of how your claims of logic and reason are anything but:
- "Most of the "overwhelmed students" that come here aren't looking for a good example on how to behave, they are looking for graduate and career advice."
-So if you perceive they aren't looking for a good example, then professionalism be damned? Do I have to say anything more about why this is misguided, unprofessional, and generally lame defensive move?
- "Kindness is the act of helping others in a respectful way. It does not mean validation of all choices or all behaviors. You dont even necessarily have to have much empathy or sympathy to be "kind." Kind does not have to be warm and fuzzy. Some of the gruffest Priests and Brothers I ever had in school were also the most "kind.""
-Yes, kindness is helping others in a respectful way. I'm making the claim that you are NOT being respectful. No, you don't have to validate other people's life choices, but you also don't have to be generally invalidating either.You know the old saying about a spoonful of sugar. Is your life goal really to be the wise old curmudgeon? That's the best example of kindness and compassion you can muster? Sad.
- "Interaction online and in a therapy room are as similar as playing a racing game and having to drive a school bus in NYC traffic. The former is clearly not done in a professional context, while the latter has a great deal more involved (e.g. licensure, an established relationship, etc)."
- Another misguided argument for abandoning professionalism when it seems convenient to you. You're on a psychology board, please act like it.
-"Case in point, Albert Ellis. Gruff, swore like a sailor, blunt, helped countless people personally and with his REBT/RET."
-So is this what you're claiming to do on this site? You're applying Ellis' ideas to career counseling, or did you just rummage through your memory to find the rare example of a successful, unpleasant therapist?
I don't see reasoning here, I see a lot of defensiveness, rationalization, and poor excuses for poor behavior. Your inability to present yourselves as professionals to each other and to future psychologists disheartening. I'm sure the majority of students will be able to glean the information they need from caustic style of delivery, but I'm guessing they are also receiving meta-messages about you and about the profession of psychology from that style. Perhaps they're learning that psychology or at least psychologists tend to be cold, matter-of-fact individuals who lack some basic social skills in delivering much needed guidance.
I'm inviting you to get your act together in how you deliver your helpful information.