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Just to make u feel a little better, I only applied to 1 school this cycle (my state school) for similar reason.Thank you everyone for your responses and the kind words. You all have encouraged me! I am currently studying hard for the DAT so I hope you are correct and if I ace it, I will be able to stay in state.
Just to make u feel a little better, I only applied to 1 school this cycle (my state school) for similar reason.
Since I am only applying to one school, I can focus ALL my resources into this school. Attended their summer events, volunteer in their fundraising, even be the patients for the current student. Basically I had show my face around right when the cycle started, the faculty who interviewed me was the same person I talked to in the summer events and he remembers me. It is risky but have its own advantages.
1st round interview offered, 1 Dec acceptance.
3.4 sGPA and oGPA, 21 DAT.
Good luck.
Yes, you are shooting yourself in the foot. Do you still have a chance? I suppose there is always a chance, as hugoomaf demonstrated. How lucky do you feel? How much do you really want this?
Also consider this: dental school will generate strains/require sacrifices from your family that go way beyond possibly having to move away.
Good luck to you.
c/o 2014
Do not make your spouse move and leave their business unless you want to put up with a lifetime of their resentment and eventually probably get divorced. I
As someone who has been married for six years, I think you are smart to stick to your state schools and should stick to your plan.
On the other hand, if the person you love isn't willing to make sacrifices to help you realize your dreams and to help you get where you want to be career-wise, are they really worth being with?
I wound up calling off my engagement a month into dental school, because I realized the guy was completely unsupportive of me. I was commuting and it was difficult for me, so I asked him if we could move in together close to school. He absolutely refused to get an apartment in the city with me, and told me that after the wedding he expected me to move to where he lived at that time (a two hour commute each way, and a longer commute than where I was living at the time).
I chose my career over my relationship, and I don't regret it one bit, because in my case, the relationship would have held me back from achieving what I want to achieve.
If you have the money, it might make sense to apply to a few more schools as well. At a minimum, you may get a couple of interviews under your belt before your "do or die" state school interviews. It also keeps your options open in the event your personal circumstances change in the next year. No one says you have to go if they offer a spot to you. If you get two rejections out of only two applications, it could damage your self confidence, and desire to go around the following year. If, on the other hand, you are accepted to just one out of state school only, it might give you the boost of confidence you need to try again for your in state schools. Don't underestimate how emotionally punishing this process can be on you.
Plan for success at your in-state schools the first time around, but leave your options open. No need to close other doors just yet (IMO).
I don't think so. Think about it. Right now your plan is to apply to two schools, and if neither extend an offer, you plan to apply to only the same two schools the following cycle. I'm suggesting you apply to at least half a dozen schools this cycle. If you are accepted to one of the out of state schools, and decline, I think you have a much more powerful story for the in state adcoms next year. "Yeah, I was accepted to xyz dental school last cycle. It's a great program, but when it came to decision time, I just couldn't envision myself going anywhere but here or (the other in state school). So you guys are the only two schools I applied to this cycle."I have to say, that is some seriously great advice. You're right; circumstances can always change. And I probably would feel pretty awful with only two rejections, and no WL or anything better . Would it be damaging though, if I got into a school out of state that I decided not to attend, and applied to my in-state schools again the following year? Would that make me look bad in the eyes of the adcoms? I feel almost as though they may (wrongly) interpret that as me not being serious about wanting to be a dentist.
I don't think so. Think about it. Right now your plan is to apply to two schools, and if neither extend an offer, you plan to apply to only the same two schools the following cycle. I'm suggesting you apply to at least half a dozen schools this cycle. If you are accepted to one of the out of state schools, and decline, I think you have a much more powerful story for the in state adcoms next year. "Yeah, I was accepted to xyz dental school last cycle. It's a great program, but when it came to decision time, I just couldn't envision myself going anywhere but here or (the other in state school). So you guys are the only two schools I applied to this cycle."
If this dentistry thing does not work out, I'm thinking about a career in advertising (sinister laugh).
Really? Maybe it's just me, but I have to kindly disagree. If I were an adcom, I would question the applicant's intentions and commitment if he/she was accepted to dental school before but did not attend (unless extenuating circumstances occurred during that time). Why bother applying to those schools if you're absolutely sure you won't attend there? Essentially you wasted a lot of resources (your own and the school you chose not to attend) and created a huge dilemma for the state school's adcoms when they look at your application the next cycle. When I was filling out a lot of secondaries, a lot of the schools asked if I were ever accepted to dental school before, and I viewed this as them questioning my commitment to dentistry. (ie. If you really want to become a dentist, why didn't you go to the school you got accepted at last year?) To me, it comes off as being wishy washy. They may start questioning if you will do the same thing to them and end up deciding not to go to their school that year! What state are you in? My advice is to absolutely kill the DAT, get amazing letters of rec, and just apply to the two schools since you say you definitely won't go to any out of state schools.
This.Making demands for admission comes with a price of admission you have to be willing to pay- time, stats, degrees.
Thank you. I don't believe in luck, but I do believe that hard work pays off. To answer your questions "how much do you really want this?" my answer would be A LOT, but I will never but a career above my loved ones. I know I have what it takes to be a dentist, and I believe I can prove myself to my in-state schools, even if it takes a few years. I am hoping that if I continue to work in a dentistry-related field, further my education with a Master's Degree, etc., one or both schools will recognize my passion and my chances will improve in-state.
Thank you for pointing out the strains dental school will place on my family; I do realize this and trust me, it is something I worry about. Do you have experience with this, and if so, can you offer any insight?
I appreciate your response.
I have to say, that is some seriously great advice. You're right; circumstances can always change. And I probably would feel pretty awful with only two rejections, and no WL or anything better . Would it be damaging though, if I got into a school out of state that I decided not to attend, and applied to my in-state schools again the following year? Would that make me look bad in the eyes of the adcoms? I feel almost as though they may (wrongly) interpret that as me not being serious about wanting to be a dentist.
/soapbox With all due respect, you don't know that. How could you, since you've never done it? I hear this from some of my assistants, occasionally, and I thank God I wear a mask when I do. I also remember saying the exact same thing as a pre-dent, and it makes my skin crawl to think I was ever this presumptuous. Word of advice: do not write that in your application, or say it during the interview. /soapbox
I think you may be underestimating how difficult the process is: just being considered for admission; the number of people you have to beat out for that spot; how taxing dental school can be. You're trying to beat out competitors in a race, with an arm tied behind your back: you better be really good. I'm sure you're also aware that every year you spend trying to get into dental school instead of actually going through dental school is one less year you'll be producing as a dentist... that cost can go up in a hurry. That said, you've made your decision, and it's a courageous one.
Lastly, dental school is hard. It's the hardest thing I've ever done. I love what I do now, but honestly, I'm not sure if you could pay me enough to go through the first year again. It entails long hours, high stress, constant exhaustion and your SO will never be able to relate to, or understand what you're going through. Most casual relationships don't survive it. Luckily for me, like you, I was married. Even so, the ride wasn't without bumps.
Bring it on .Making demands for admission comes with a price of admission you have to be willing to pay- time, stats, degrees.
Fair points to be sure, and I had the same questions on my secondary aps as well. There are no obvious answers, and reasonable minds can easily come to different conclusions.
After going through the process this cycle, I have a much better sense of the schools I applied to than I did a year ago when I was putting a list together. At that time, all I really knew were the marketing points on their web sites, their entries in the ADEA Guide, and comments here on SDN, some more accurate than others. A year later, having been inside the schools where I interviewed, and having visited those cities, I have a more informed perspective. In retrospect, it's expecting a lot of a candidate to get their list exactly right before they enter their first ap cycle sausage grinder, and actually visit schools, cities, and current students. The interview process isn't just about getting in, it's also about confirming one's own judgement on an extremely expensive and life altering decision (for me anyway). I hope most adcoms would respect a candidate's change of opinion once they have a fuller context in which to make the decision. I was (perhaps too flippantly) just suggesting that OP could use that greater insight on the back side of a cycle to their advantage in the next cycle if it came to that. Gotta love the variety of opinions you get here. I'm not sure it makes decisions easier though.
Save the bravado until you have taken the DAT. Without the scores, this discussion is moot.Bring it on .
As far as production goes... to be perfectly honest, I could care less about money. I say that not as a spoiled child who has had everything handed to them, but as an adult who has never been without a job since before I could even drive a car. As long as I have a roof over my head and food on the table, that's enough for me. If it takes a few extra years to get it, but I get to do it at home, I'm content knowing I will be paying off loans later in life and not earning as early as I could be.
I'm glad you love your job. People like you are an inspiration for the rest of us. As far as the bumps, I ask again - do you have any advice as far as this goes? Thank you for your post. I appreciate your perspective as somebody who has been through it already.
I am married and only applied my state school this cycle because my husband has a great job here. So I totally understand your situation. I would say what you are proposing is totally doable if you make yourself a very competitive applicant. Good luck!
Thank you for understanding and for your kind words. It is always nice feeling like you're not completely alone in a situation. Good for you following your dreams too! Best of luck to you as well!I really can't offer any specific advice because I am not sure what I would do that in that situation. That's a tough one. I'm a non traditional as well, but I am not married so that obviously makes it easier. I do however own a home, that I am currently trying to sell. I gave up a great career to go back to school full time to take prereqs, and having to decide to sell the home was tough in itself. So I can definitely somewhat understand where you are coming from with regards to having to make sacrifices, and I just wanted to wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.