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Here's some background information: My parents came to America in the late 80's and met each other here and had me and my other two siblings. I am the middle child and just finished my freshman year of college.Growing up my parents (mainly my dad) has always been really strict and centered around getting good grades with the intention of going to medical school. My dad was very poor when he came to America and worked his way up in life to become a pharmacist .Since we were children, my siblings and I were told that we would become doctors and if we didn't we would not have a stable career in life. But as I have grown up I have noticed that my parents are always comparing me to other Nigerian children many of whom are becoming doctors or other related careers.I interned at a hospital for four months and never felt moved to go into medicine. After telling my dad this he told me that I was stupid and he would not listen to my reservations. It seems as though my dad is focused on the prestige of being a doctor rather than lifetime happiness that I want.
I really like dentistry but my father doesn't want me to pursue that . I like dentistry because of the favorable hours and I find it interesting in general. When I was younger, we never went to the dentist. Coming from Nigeria, my parents did not know the importance of dental health. The first time I went to the dentist was when I was 12 years old. For some people, going to the dentist is very scary. It was never like that for me. Me and my siblings looked forward to going to the dentist because our teeth were so bad. I had seven baby teeth that needed to be extracted. It was terrible being embarrassed to smile because of how my teeth looked before. After my dentist took out my baby teeth, I gained a lot of confidence. I was happy to smile and enjoyed going back for regular visits. The whole experience opened my eyes to dentistry. I always thought of how great it would be to do the same for someone else. What makes me shy away from medicine is the fact that you can work your butt off with the hopes of getting into a certain specialty and still not match. I couldn't imagine matching into a field you don't like and being stuck doing something you're unhappy with. I also don't like the fact that for most of not all specialties, you are on call. I feel as though the hours you get called to work can be very strenuous and tiresome. With dentistry, you are not on call and whether you choose to specialize or not, you will be a dentist at the end of the day. Personal time is also important to me. After working hard in school, I feel physicians/dentists should be able to enjoy the fruits of their labor. With dentistry the hours are great and I would be allowed time with my family.
Shadowing will help me come to a decision. I have done a lot of research and have not found a medical specialty that interests me (maybe OB/GYN). Out of the specialties in dentistry, I like Oral and Maxillofacial surgery and Orthodontics. I am planning on applying to SMDEP summer internship in the fall. I really feel it will further help me come to a decision about what is best for me.
Part of the problem is the pressure we are in as Nigerian children. Many believe that if you are not a physician, you are a failure. They don't open their eyes to the vast field of healthcare. I dislike how my parents compare me to other African children. They like to show off and it's like a competition comparing who is the "best" Also dentists graduate with a doctorate making them Dr's as well but my dad doesn't care. I finished the fall semester with a 4.0 and and 3.9 in the spring. I'm currently taking classes that are prerequisites for dentistry and medicine since they are the same thing. My question is, what should I do if I'm being forced into medicine? What if my parents do not let me shadow a dentists? Is my situation normal? How do I persuade my parents to let me do what I want?
I really like dentistry but my father doesn't want me to pursue that . I like dentistry because of the favorable hours and I find it interesting in general. When I was younger, we never went to the dentist. Coming from Nigeria, my parents did not know the importance of dental health. The first time I went to the dentist was when I was 12 years old. For some people, going to the dentist is very scary. It was never like that for me. Me and my siblings looked forward to going to the dentist because our teeth were so bad. I had seven baby teeth that needed to be extracted. It was terrible being embarrassed to smile because of how my teeth looked before. After my dentist took out my baby teeth, I gained a lot of confidence. I was happy to smile and enjoyed going back for regular visits. The whole experience opened my eyes to dentistry. I always thought of how great it would be to do the same for someone else. What makes me shy away from medicine is the fact that you can work your butt off with the hopes of getting into a certain specialty and still not match. I couldn't imagine matching into a field you don't like and being stuck doing something you're unhappy with. I also don't like the fact that for most of not all specialties, you are on call. I feel as though the hours you get called to work can be very strenuous and tiresome. With dentistry, you are not on call and whether you choose to specialize or not, you will be a dentist at the end of the day. Personal time is also important to me. After working hard in school, I feel physicians/dentists should be able to enjoy the fruits of their labor. With dentistry the hours are great and I would be allowed time with my family.
Shadowing will help me come to a decision. I have done a lot of research and have not found a medical specialty that interests me (maybe OB/GYN). Out of the specialties in dentistry, I like Oral and Maxillofacial surgery and Orthodontics. I am planning on applying to SMDEP summer internship in the fall. I really feel it will further help me come to a decision about what is best for me.
Part of the problem is the pressure we are in as Nigerian children. Many believe that if you are not a physician, you are a failure. They don't open their eyes to the vast field of healthcare. I dislike how my parents compare me to other African children. They like to show off and it's like a competition comparing who is the "best" Also dentists graduate with a doctorate making them Dr's as well but my dad doesn't care. I finished the fall semester with a 4.0 and and 3.9 in the spring. I'm currently taking classes that are prerequisites for dentistry and medicine since they are the same thing. My question is, what should I do if I'm being forced into medicine? What if my parents do not let me shadow a dentists? Is my situation normal? How do I persuade my parents to let me do what I want?