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So I've been a lurker on here for a while but never thought I would need some advice and it turns out I really do! I'm a physical therapist and I share a flat with my cousin who is currently a vascular surgeon trainee but he has been dating a colleague of mine for the past two months who is a vile creature. She is a nurse and works on the same neuro ward as I do so she got to know my cousin and she has been playing him for a long time now. Bearing in mind they have only been dating two months (I thought it was just a fling at first) but she constantly borrows money from him; has him buy her gifts; complains to him when he works overtime and has even got him to change his shifts a few times to spend time with her. She has also cheated on him and when I told him, she completely denied it and he believes her...I have tried to respect their relationship but when I see what she is doing to him, I can't handle it and I am not the only one who has observed this. It is bad enough that he has become her personal bank but it's his career that I am most worried about as already he has actually missed out on a few beneficial work opportunities because of her. The thing is, he is an intelligent guy on many levels and if this was someone else, he would be thinking the same things as me but I guess since he is the one involved, it is difficult for him to see it. I talked to him about it but he thinks I am just over reacting which I am not as his friends brought up the issue with him as well but he does not believe it. I don't want us to fall out because of the girlfriend as I can tolerate her but not her antics and I just can't bare the thought of him ruining what he has spent years working on. Why does romance turn us all into idiots at times!? Do I continue trying to convince him or do I just have to leave it ?