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What would you do if your advisor/ professor friended you on facebook? I'm thinking putting this person on a limited profile. How would you address it? I feel like I'm back in ethics class...
What would you do if your advisor/ professor friended you on facebook? I'm thinking putting this person on a limited profile. How would you address it? I feel like I'm back in ethics class...
The bigger issue here is the questionable professionalism of this professor. I am sure it is against school policy for professors/advisors to do this. I would make sure someone in a position of power is aware of the situation and that you plan to accept the invitation; you are in a position with a significant power differential and it is risky to not accept.
The bigger issue here is the questionable professionalism of this professor. I am sure it is against school policy for professors/advisors to do this. I would make sure someone in a position of power is aware of the situation and that you plan to accept the invitation; you are in a position with a significant power differential and it is risky to not accept.
Ha, that would drive me crazy! The strangest things for me is seeing the "likes" of some professors. I find out that there are PhD's who seem so serious joining "When I was younger I would record my favorite songs off the radio onto tape". Awesome.
I find it bizarre that a professor / advisor would consider friending a current student or supervisee appropriate.
As a personal rule, I consider it appropriate to friend someone after they are no longer my student, or a student at my institution (even if I'm no longer supervising or teaching them). But definitely not during.
My take on this is to go the conservative route--don't friend anyone you're currently supervising/teaching. As you've said, it gives a peak into potentially very private aspects of both the supervisor and supervisee's lives, and can quickly blur professional boundaries.
I'll chime in here from the faculty side. First, I never send students friend requests. It puts them in an awkward position. Next, I never accept friend requests from undergraduate students. I get them all the time. I reject them, and send them a message stating that I will gladly accept their request when they're done with school. Graduate students are a little different. I view them as junior colleagues, so I'm okay accepting requests from them. I tell all graduate students up front that I will not send them a friend request (for the reason above), but that I am willing to accept their request if they want to send me one. I also make it clear that I do not care one way or the other if we are FB friends, and that if they are my FB friend they should be prepared to see some fairly liberal things that they would not otherwise see from me in the classroom/lab. If they don't want to see these things they should not friend me. Also, if they don't want me commenting on their racist/sexist/bigoted (yeah I've seen it) comments, they should hide them from me, not post them, or perhaps not send the request in the first place (of course, bigotry doesn't look like bigotry from the inside). On a side note, I'm clinical and also get them from patients, which I refuse to accept and which we talk about in session. I am FB friends with some graduate students that I supervise. It has never been an issue. I was FB friends with several of my supervisors in grad school and it wasn't an issue. Bottom line is clearly established boundaries I think.
The bigger issue here is the questionable professionalism of this professor. I am sure it is against school policy for professors/advisors to do this. I would make sure someone in a position of power is aware of the situation and that you plan to accept the invitation; you are in a position with a significant power differential and it is risky to not accept.
Eh, based on that thread, I don't think that's necessarily the case. That thread started out "yeah, drink with faculty!" but ended as "no, don't drink with faculty!" Plus, FB can tell you a lot about someone regularly and isn't just a one-off thing, like a party.Interesting that a social media site connection between students and faculty is considered by some to be so taboo but a cocktail party is not.
I wasn't saying that there was a consensus on either of the perspectives, and was just wondering if the anti Facebook people are the same as the anti cocktail party people. I also agree with your logic that connecting on Facebook is more personal than meeting in a public setting and I treat it the same way.Eh, based on that thread, I don't think that's necessarily the case. That thread started out "yeah, drink with faculty!" but ended as "no, don't drink with faculty!" Plus, FB can tell you a lot about someone regularly and isn't just a one-off thing, like a party.
I wasn't saying that there was a consensus on either of the perspectives, and was just wondering if the anti Facebook people are the same as the anti cocktail party people. I also agree with your logic that connecting on Facebook is more personal than meeting in a public setting and I treat it the same way.
Wow this is a good conversation! Since I just transferred to a different undergrad college, I have friended some of my professors from that college on facebook but that's all. I do not message them or contact them unless I either need they opinion on something or just want to update them on what I have been up to at my new college. My fellow classmates there is a whole another ball game. I regularly interact with them through facebook groups (in which my old college's marketing department made a class of 2018 facebook page) and by chatting with them. I try to keep it professional with my professors and personal with my friends (which is also why I made a LinkedIn account [which is awesome!!] to keep in contact with my current professors or any mentors or people I meet in the field)
Well at the time I was at a small Christian university and everyone had they professors on facebook
I personally would not accept that request. Too few degrees of separation. I'm usually weary of accepting any requests from folks under 21 yo b/c I sometimes like to comment on or 'like' my FB friends' adult-content posts. And if I had a younger audience I would feel it was inappropriate. After all, it is social media, and can be fun.On a variation of this theme, my professor's teenage kid sent me a FB friend request. Not sure how to respond to that.