Female MD's tend to have unrealistically high standards when it comes to dating

[ShortDoctor]

And I get it. You spent a huge chunk of your life dedicated to the often cruel pursuit of medicine. It's only obvious and logical that you should feel entitled to having the other parts of your life be at their best.

It sucks though because I would like to date another physician, but my height usually excludes me from beginning any potential relationship with them (every bond needs an attraction). Haha doesn't help that a lot of female MD's I know are on the taller side and almost none will budge from their high standards- the further you deviate from the true ideal pretty much dooms your chances.

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[Beargryllz]

I'm gonna be so picky when I become a doctor

I'm already picky, so I can't even imagine how alone I will feel in 5 years

 

[touchpause13]

Do you not know any women shorter than you? Also whose to say you aren't also being picky with wanting to date another physician?

 

[EMDO2018]

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[studentp0x]

They think they become super attractive afterwards when they're still as attractive as they were from day 1.

 

[deleted480308]

it's not your height

 

[EMDO2018]

The average woman is 5'4

 

[schmitta1573]

I have a friend who is Asian (referencing your other post) and only above 5 foot if a low pressure system is moving through the area. In college and before he got married he never had problem with women and getting dates. I had two other friends around 5'5'' who both had no problems. In fact all three did better than me (I'm 5'11'') with women and it all came down to their attitude. And none of these guys had the job advantage you have or will have. I think you need to find some good wingmen and go out and work on your confidence. Try the internet and other places as well, but I would encourage you not to just stick to one method of meeting women or think one is better than the other. They are all different places for you to work on your confidence and social skills, and all having advantages and disadvantages.

 

[Silent Cool]

And I get it. You spent a huge chunk of your life dedicated to the often cruel pursuit of medicine. It's only obvious and logical that you should feel entitled to having the other parts of your life be at their best.

It sucks though because I would like to date another physician, but my height usually excludes me from beginning any potential relationship with them (every bond needs an attraction). Haha doesn't help that a lot of female MD's I know are on the taller side and almost none will budge from their high standards- the further you deviate from the true ideal pretty much dooms your chances.

jussayin'

 

[DokterMom]

Don't suppose you'd consider dating a women with a few extra pounds, eh?

 

[Jumpstartmy5HT]

I began reading your other post, but being 35 pages made it TL;DR.

But I'm curious: were you able to find a date with a woman of average intelligence or whatever already?


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[styphon]

Maybe I hung around the wrong people in medical school - but lots of them did NOT have high standards. Some would date unemployed "bad boys", career walmart workers, small time criminals, etc...

 

[el_duderino]

"High" standards.

 

[jhamaican]

see this thread: http://forums.studentdoctor.net/thr...fe-dating-as-resident-esp-as-a-woman.1079677/

 

[WhtsThFrequency]

see this thread: http://forums.studentdoctor.net/thr...fe-dating-as-resident-esp-as-a-woman.1079677/

Hah. Wow.

Go back to circlejerking in r/theredpill, dude.

 

[EMDO2018]

I wonder if the two physicians household is all its cracked up to be. At least one partner will have to be the one who makes less money, works fewer hours and picks up the kids-cooks dinner. If my wife has more earning potential I wouldn't have any problem being that guy.

 

[EMDO2018]

Maybe I hung around the wrong people in medical school - but lots of them did NOT have high standards. Some would date unemployed "bad boys", career walmart workers, small time criminals, etc...

Atlanta or DC, ?

 

[Mad Jack]

Desperation is unattractive, women can smell it from a mile away. The other thing that they can sense pretty well is when a man has it out for women- bitterness and spite will send them running like you wouldn't believe. You should really deal with your emotional and psychological issues in regard to your self image and how you feel about the opposite sex, because one standard almost all women tend to have is that they want a man that is both confident and emotionally stable.

 

[EMDO2018]

because one standard almost all women tend to have is that they want a man that is both confident and emotionally stable.

Most women are not confident or emotionally stable.

 

[Mad Jack]

Most women are not confident or emotionally stable.

I wouldn't say most. But the ones that aren't want a partner to provide that for them since they don't have it themselves.

 

[touchpause13]

Most women are not confident or emotionally stable.

Disagree. And I don't think those are personal flaws exclusively found in women. I'll give you that a lot of people aren't confident or emotionally stable.

 

[ShortDoctor]

I think my biggest issue is I probably reek of desperation, which might have to do with my lack of confidence at least with dating, relationships, etc.

 

[DokterMom]

I wonder if the two physicians household is all its cracked up to be. At least one partner will have to be the one who makes less money, works fewer hours and picks up the kids-cooks dinner. If my wife has more earning potential I wouldn't have any problem being that guy.

Interesting assumption...

 

[Mad Jack]

I think my biggest issue is I probably reek of desperation, which might have to do with my lack of confidence at least with dating, relationships, etc.

 

[Mad Jack]

I wonder if the two physicians household is all its cracked up to be. At least one partner will have to be the one who makes less money, works fewer hours and picks up the kids-cooks dinner. If my wife has more earning potential I wouldn't have any problem being that guy.

This is what nannies and daycare are for if neither partner wants to take on those responsibilities full time. Most of the physician-physician couples I've met have one that works part time while the other works full-time, however. Usually it's whoever has the higher earning potential that is working full time, while the other partner is working 3-4 12s every 2 weeks. For instance, in the ortho-med couple, the one in IM works half-time, while in the trauma-peds couple, the person in peds is working half-time.

 

[touchpause13]

I want an Au pair.

 

[Mad Jack]

I want an Au pair.

They're pretty awesome from what I hear. It's like a win-win-win. Parents get child care, the foreign caregiver gets a chance to attend a U.S. college and earn some cash, and the kids don't get neglected the hell out of. I was kind of reluctant to consider it (it seemed kind of exploitative to me), until I met a couple girls from Poland and Brazil travelling that had done it for a semester and they loved it. The families still keep in touch with them and they got the opportunity to visit and be educated in the U.S., something they otherwise would have been completely unable to do. If everybody's happy, how the hell can I argue with that?

 

[EMDO2018]

They're pretty awesome from what I hear. It's like a win-win-win. Parents get child care, the foreign caregiver gets a chance to attend a U.S. college and earn some cash, and the kids don't get neglected the hell out of. I was kind of reluctant to consider it (it seemed kind of exploitative to me), until I met a couple girls from Poland and Brazil travelling that had done it for a semester and they loved it. The families still keep in touch with them and they got the opportunity to visit and be educated in the U.S., something they otherwise would have been completely unable to do. If everybody's happy, how the hell can I argue with that?

Having a young hot Braziliann nanny, hmmm........ yes! I doubt most married guys wives would allow this.

 

[Mad Jack]

Having a young hot Braziliann nanny, hmmm........ yes! I doubt most married guys wives would allow this.

Evidently thousands of them a year are okay with it. Boundaries dude.

 

[WhtsThFrequency]

A wife who wouldn't allow it just on the basis of the nanny's physical characteristics is one of three things

a) insecure about her husband's loyalty for no reason and needs figure out what her deal is

b) insecure about her own physical appearance and needs to work on her self-esteem

b) insecure about her husband's loyalty for a good reason and shouldn't have married him in the first place.

 

[ktran17]

Have you tried Tinder? I'm being serious too. If you get matches, it's definitely not your looks.

 

[ShortDoctor]

Have you tried Tinder? I'm being serious to. If you get matches, it's definitely not your looks.

I did a few months back. And I got matched to some women whom I thought were way out of my league. Messaging went well; I specifically did not mention my height after a couple of matches said I was too short when I did. However, it's not like I can hide it on the first date so I never got a second one with the women I went out with.

Not sure if this is a good thing, but currently I'm too busy and invested in my work (residency training, as hellish as it is, can be worthwhile sometimes) that I'm not thinking about dating or romancing much. Yeah yeah I know I should be putting myself out there, but truly liking your work is a good excuse right?

 

[WhtsThFrequency]

I did a few months back. And I got matched to some women whom I thought were way out of my league. Messaging went well; I specifically did not mention my height after a couple of matches said I was too short when I did. However, it's not like I can hide it on the first date so I never got a second one with the women I went out with.

Not sure if this is a good thing, but currently I'm too busy and invested in my work (residency training, as hellish as it is, can be worthwhile sometimes) that I'm not thinking about dating or romancing much. Yeah yeah I know I should be putting myself out there, but truly liking your work is a good excuse right?

Your failure to get a second date is not due to your height. It is due to massive insecurity which no doubt was very apparent throughout the entire date. One of these you can change. The other you cannot.

 

[EMDO2018]

Your failure to get a second date is not due to your height. It is due to massive insecurity which no doubt was very apparent throughout the entire date. One of these you can change. The other you cannot.

Or it was due to his height. Some women are really shallow like that. Most women are shallow when it comes to height.

 

[ktran17]

What about getting setup with a lady from the "motherland"? I constantly get courted by my moms friend back there and I'm just a soon to be d1. Surely a full fledge physician can pull more game on the international level?

 

[Mad Jack]

What about getting setup with a lady from the "motherland"? I constantly get courted by my moms friend back there and I'm just a soon to be d1. Surely a full fledge physician can pull more game on the international level?

It seems he only wants female physicians

He'd probably kill it abroad though.

 

[ktran17]

It seems he only wants female physicians

He'd probably kill it abroad though.

Are FMGs not welcomed ?!

 

[Mad Jack]

Are FMGs not welcomed ?!

If they pass their Steps, maybe they can step into his heart.

 

[touchpause13]

Having a young hot Braziliann nanny, hmmm........ yes! I doubt most married guys wives would allow this.

Life is not a porno. And not everyone gets jealous like that. See WTF's post.

 

[ShortDoctor]

What about getting setup with a lady from the "motherland"? I constantly get courted by my moms friend back there and I'm just a soon to be d1. Surely a full fledge physician can pull more game on the international level?

China judges potential partners by what many call the 4 "H's" A man must have health, home, handsome, and height.

 

[Mad Jack]

China judges potential partners by what many call the 4 "H's" A man must have health, home, handsome, and height.

Dude, you can land a girl in China. Income and career also factor quite heavily in Chinese dating, as does citizenship. the opportunities your children having dual Chinese/US citizenship would allow for are a ridiculous boost in your marriage potential when coupled with the fact that you're a physician and have your **** together. Stop being pessimistic, my god.

 

[Zweihander]

The problem with the "just be confident" act is that a smart and sensible girl -- the kind you actually want in your life if you have any sense yourself -- will see right through it.

The trick is to stop acting. Confidence involves more than just being assertive with women; it means being comfortable in your own skin and not worrying about trying to win people over. A guy who is collected and grounded in his interests, dislikes, and values will naturally deal with girls in a much more engaging manner.

Fix your self image first, don't look for validation from a lady to do that for you. The rest will come in due time.

I do speak from experience on this.

 

[Jumpstartmy5HT]

Dude, you can land a girl in China. Income and career also factor quite heavily in Chinese dating, as does citizenship. the opportunities your children having dual Chinese/US citizenship would allow for are a ridiculous boost in your marriage potential when coupled with the fact that you're a physician and have your **** together. Stop being pessimistic, my god.

One cannot have dual Chinese/American citizenship. The communists do not share. You're either pure Chinese citizen or you're not at all.


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[Mad Jack]

One cannot have dual Chinese/American citizenship. The communists do not share. You're either pure Chinese citizen or you're not at all.


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It's an easy policy to dodge though, largely due to the way the US handles citizenship. If you're born to a US citizen or born on US soil, you're American. So you have a child with an American, wait until they are damn near college age, then apply for a US passport and get their citizenship straightened out so they can go to college in the US. There's actually an entire industry in Saipan that revolves around bringing pregnant women to the US-owned Island for this very reason.

Renouncing US citizenship is also a tricky thing. Most countries, if you swear loyalty to another country during naturalization to another country, you will automatically lose your old citizenship. With the US, it's a very particular process to renounce your citizenship, so many people just swear loyalty to whatever second country they are getting citizenship from and then never go through the official renunciation process, allowing them to have two citizenships in a situation that would normally result in one.

The whole US citizenship thing is a double sword though, as a lot of kids in Hong Kong are finding out. The US taxes global income on all citizens, so a lot of kids that had a US citizen mother that never even went to the United States are finding that, after a career and life in their home country, the IRS wants a piece of their earnings. Good 'ol murrica.

http://mises.org/daily/5666/The-Attack-on-Accidental-Americans

http://abcnews.go.com/News/inside-s...can-born-chinese-babies/blogEntry?id=22455112

 

[Jumpstartmy5HT]

I don't know if there is a significant population with US citizenship who wishes to become Chinese citizens.

But to return to the topic at hand... Most Chinese women are very focused on height. I also don't know if the OP wants to marry a Chinese woman. The culture divide is pretty vast.

I was just in China recently, and some of the common Chinese beliefs are pretty infuriating because they are so stupid. Most of the stupid involved the deeply engrained principles of Traditional Chinese Medicine. I don't know if someone who lives in the US and who is a western medicine doctor can deal with that crap.




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[PharMed2016]

Funny how culture changes. Tall chinese woman back a couple decades use to be less desorable but the trend has now reversed. Haha. Sidetracked*

 

[studentp0x]

And I get it. You spent a huge chunk of your life dedicated to the often cruel pursuit of medicine. It's only obvious and logical that you should feel entitled to having the other parts of your life be at their best.

It sucks though because I would like to date another physician, but my height usually excludes me from beginning any potential relationship with them (every bond needs an attraction). Haha doesn't help that a lot of female MD's I know are on the taller side and almost none will budge from their high standards- the further you deviate from the true ideal pretty much dooms your chances.

Stop worrying so much dude. A relationship will bring you the following:

1) Stress
2) Drama
3) Infidelity
4) Break up/heart break

If you really need to calculate your chances with someone, you can be assured that number 3 and 4 will apply to you at some point.

 

[jakeislove]

Skipped ahead but being a doctor would be a negative for me. She'd need something extra to offset it.

 

[Kahreek]

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[Elizabethx89]

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