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The good news is: my marriage is great. The bad news: I want it to stay that way. I want to become a doctor, but achieving that would be ashes in the mouth if it ruined my marriage in the process.
The problem I've been wrestling with is this: it seems to me that if you want to maximize your chances of going to medical school and getting the residency you want, you have to be geographically flexible. This is difficult when you have a partner, and even more so when your partner's career is very location-dependent.
Yet another wrinkle: we live in New York. Everything is ultracompetitive here, why would it be any different for medicine? So, I know there are 16 MD/DO medical schools in the state: but probably subtract SUNY Upstate, Buffalo and Rochester for distance reasons, some in Jersey (although I'm out of state so Rutgers' a no). That leaves maybe Connecticut, Vermont, Pennsylvania depending on our tolerance for distance.
But then even if I get into a school close to home, then I have to fret about geography all over again w/r/t residency.
And then that's not even considering the couple of years of reduced income from completing a postbacc program.
To the extent that I'm undecided about doing a postbacc and shooting for med school, it's for these personal reasons. I don't want to hide this from my spouse, but if I end up deciding not to go down this route, I don't want them to have worried about this for no reason.
Who else has gone through this, with a spouse with a location-dependent, not terribly portable career? What has your experience been?
The problem I've been wrestling with is this: it seems to me that if you want to maximize your chances of going to medical school and getting the residency you want, you have to be geographically flexible. This is difficult when you have a partner, and even more so when your partner's career is very location-dependent.
Yet another wrinkle: we live in New York. Everything is ultracompetitive here, why would it be any different for medicine? So, I know there are 16 MD/DO medical schools in the state: but probably subtract SUNY Upstate, Buffalo and Rochester for distance reasons, some in Jersey (although I'm out of state so Rutgers' a no). That leaves maybe Connecticut, Vermont, Pennsylvania depending on our tolerance for distance.
But then even if I get into a school close to home, then I have to fret about geography all over again w/r/t residency.
And then that's not even considering the couple of years of reduced income from completing a postbacc program.
To the extent that I'm undecided about doing a postbacc and shooting for med school, it's for these personal reasons. I don't want to hide this from my spouse, but if I end up deciding not to go down this route, I don't want them to have worried about this for no reason.
Who else has gone through this, with a spouse with a location-dependent, not terribly portable career? What has your experience been?