Hello everyone, I'm really needing some insight and second opinions on this manner.
Being a physician has always been a life dream of mine that I have been chasing. When my girlfriend and I first began dating two years ago we had many conversations about what I wanted to do with my future. We spoke multiple times about the demands of dating a physician and the possibilities of me moving out of state for school especially since the schools in my state are highly competitive. She assured me on many occasions that she understood what she was getting into and that if the need came she would move with me because she loves me.
Fast forward to now, my route has changed a bit as I switched from md do schools and have been accepted to a few podiatry schools two of which are temple university and Des moines university. im unsure if I want to attend temple because of the cost of living. I'm also really not a city person as I've come from a rural area myself and quite frankly, the city sort of scares me. At this time I was planning on proposing to her prior to going to school and figured no matter what she would come with me as discussed. ( we both don't believe in living together before marriage.)
Here is the problem, when I was accepted to both programs she told me she would only move with me to temple or a place where she can get a job. The job has to specifically be in fashion because she refuses to work in anything else other than the type of job she currently has (which she hates her current job.) which really limits where I can go to only expensive cities. Furthermore she also said that she will not have a long distance relationship as she doesn't think they will work out. So in other words my choice is limited to temple.
I feel shocked and confused and I truly do not want to go to a big city if I have the choice as I feel I will be stressed not mention the crazy cost of appartments, food, gas, etc in a philly. Is it wrong that I feel she is being very selfish in this as I feel this move is very temporary in the grand scheme of things?
I just don't know what to do any help would be great.
Being a physician has always been a life dream of mine that I have been chasing. When my girlfriend and I first began dating two years ago we had many conversations about what I wanted to do with my future. We spoke multiple times about the demands of dating a physician and the possibilities of me moving out of state for school especially since the schools in my state are highly competitive. She assured me on many occasions that she understood what she was getting into and that if the need came she would move with me because she loves me.
Fast forward to now, my route has changed a bit as I switched from md do schools and have been accepted to a few podiatry schools two of which are temple university and Des moines university. im unsure if I want to attend temple because of the cost of living. I'm also really not a city person as I've come from a rural area myself and quite frankly, the city sort of scares me. At this time I was planning on proposing to her prior to going to school and figured no matter what she would come with me as discussed. ( we both don't believe in living together before marriage.)
Here is the problem, when I was accepted to both programs she told me she would only move with me to temple or a place where she can get a job. The job has to specifically be in fashion because she refuses to work in anything else other than the type of job she currently has (which she hates her current job.) which really limits where I can go to only expensive cities. Furthermore she also said that she will not have a long distance relationship as she doesn't think they will work out. So in other words my choice is limited to temple.
I feel shocked and confused and I truly do not want to go to a big city if I have the choice as I feel I will be stressed not mention the crazy cost of appartments, food, gas, etc in a philly. Is it wrong that I feel she is being very selfish in this as I feel this move is very temporary in the grand scheme of things?
I just don't know what to do any help would be great.