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Thanks! Mine ended pretty happily and whatnot so it isn't too much of a "**** my life everything sucks and it never got better" storyI had an advisee who not too long ago who was from an immigrant family, got essentially sold into marriage in her early teen years with a much older man who abused her for 2 or 3 years until she ran away, lived on the streets for a year or two and got her life back in track . She used this story in all of her adversity essays and is attending medical school. If you feel it has something that has challenged you and you have accomplished much despite the hardship, then use. As a physician, you may see patients like this and will have a much better understanding of them then most of us.
No, everywhere it's abuse but in THIS country, we call it out and hold the parents accountable for beating their children. It is not discipline when children end up with internal and external scars... it's abuse.In my culture, it's very normal to be beaten with anything the parent can get their hands on. But we see it as discipline and not abuse, but in America it's called abuse
No, everywhere it's abuse but in THIS country, we call it out and hold the parents accountable for beating their children. It is not discipline when children end up with internal and external scars... it's abuse.
I'm so very sorry your culture thinks thats okay.
I can't imagine how these peds ER docs/peds orthopods/etc deal with that kind of stuff without kicking the parents' asses. Must be very difficult.As a prospective physician in the US, how would deal with a child who came into the ER or your clinic with a parent who explained the he wouldnt hold still while disciplining him and cut him?
Well let's not challenge the OP on whether or not he/she was abused.What do you mean by abuse?
In my culture, it's very normal to be beaten with anything the parent can get their hands on. But we see it as discipline and not abuse, but in America it's called abuse
Bloody nose: abuseMy ex-marine dad gave me some bloody noses, made me black out once by throwing an object at my head, and would almost weekly pack up my clothes in a suitcase and drive me to an orphanage where he threatened to leave me. That borders abusive.
you go all the way to beating a child with an object, and that is straight up abuse. Try beating an adult with a stick, what would happen? You get charged with assault. Of course it is abuse when you do it to a child
This is unquestionably abusive. I'm sorry you had to experience it.My ex-marine dad gave me some bloody noses, made me black out once by throwing an object at my head, and would almost weekly pack up my clothes in a suitcase and drive me to an orphanage where he threatened to leave me.
Abuse doesn't make everyone stronger; different kids have very different innate levels of resilience, and it's important to keep that in mind. Other than that, good points.Abuse makes you stronger. Use it, but don't dwell on it. In your essays be vague about the actual abuse, spending most of the space writing about positive outcomes.
"Because I underwent _____________, I grew these character strengths:_______________ I am a fierce advocate for ______________, I learned ____________, I became interested in survival skills and first aid, I volunteered ______________, I can relate to _____________, this will make me a more compassionate pediatrician or E.R. doctor, I can navigate the legal system, I recognize abused children and do the right thing rather than look the other way.
You get the drift. (Try not to use too many "I" statements though.)
Make the abuse empower your application, not detract from it.
Evoke emotion - but you don't need or desire the adcom's pity.
So not to go into too much detail, but for many of the supplements I find that a question prompt is "have you experienced previous hardships blah blah"
I was physically abused by my father for a time in my life. He used to beat me and whatnot, I'm over it now, helped me become who I am today and I'm glad it happened. Nothing sexual.
Should I talk about this or do you think that could hurt me in the long run for some reason?
Thanks for your help guys!
OP was referring to secondary questions that ask you about a time when you faced adversitySorry to hear this, but does it really explain "why Medicine?" Or "who am I?"
The PS is not meant to be a pissing contest as to who had the worst life.
Sorry to hear this, but does it really explain "why Medicine?" Or "who am I?"
The PS is not meant to be a pissing contest as to who had the worst life.
Bloody nose: abuse
Making you black out: abuse
Threatening you: abuse
For all of us who have been beaten, tortured, strangled to black out, duct taped, left in locked/darkened basements by a parent, Thank you.
To you, I'm so very sorry.
OP was referring to secondary questions that ask you about a time when you faced adversity
Abuse doesn't make everyone stronger; different kids have very different innate levels of resilience, and it's important to keep that in mind. Other than that, good points.
Then I would ask:
Why medicine?
How does this relate to who you are?
If you're not strong enough to deal with your own baggage, what makes you think you are ready to shoulder the hell of medical school?
Why should the adcoms believe you may one day be strong enough to deal the weight of patients' issues?
Try beating an adult with a stick, what would happen? You get charged with assault. Of course it is abuse when you do it to a child