For the record none of those are crimes because they aren't actions. You can be a pedophile without raping a child, you can be gay and celebate (not like I'm trying to put those things on equal footing for the record)
Also I wouldn't necessarily consider fetishism an orientation. Perhaps for some people, but not everyone. It doesn't seem to be nearly as "fixed" as the other two. There seems to be pretty broad spectrum of fetishism from people who dabble occasionally to those who can't achieve sexual pleasure any other way.
Agree to the first part, although yes definitely not correlating any part of the GLBTQI community with paedophilia. I mean people aren't asexual until the moment they have their first sexual encounter, you tend to know what your orientation is even before an action towards that orientation has taken place.
And yes, a lot of people use the term 'fetish' when what they're really describing is a kink.
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I also agree with Birchswing's sentiments regarding stigma towards the study, or treatment, of paedophillia. Do I find the idea of paedophilia (or ephebophilia for that matter) to be utterly abhorrent? Of course I do, but I'd much rather a paedophile, who has not yet acted out on their urges, be able to seek treatment before it reaches the point of a criminal act towards a child taking place.
In regards to paedophilia, as well as it most likely being a fixed orientation for a small percentage of the population, I also wonder if there's some sort of delusional component to it, at least among a certain segment. I remember watching a documentary some years back, where they followed a group of paedophiles who had at least some history of offending, to varying degrees, and the tenacity to which they held onto the belief that the children they loved were capable of not only consenting to physical content, but also loving them back was bewildering to say the least. There was one scene where a self confessed 'proud paedophile' approached a group of boys, aged between 10 and 12, sitting on bikes outside a local deli, and proceeded to have what was actually a very innocent, non sexual conversation with them, but as soon as he'd walked away he was listing all the ways the boys had been 'covertly signalling him' as willing sex partners. To me that seems to go beyond just a simple orientation of attraction and/or sexuality.