ndfemme, welcome to the forum. I know you probably read a lot of posts before posting yourself. It takes a lot of courage to bare your soul to everyone. I wouldn't worry about your age (much) as you are 12 years younger than me. I'm in the last two years of finishing my pre med degree, something I started 23 years ago. Yes, I'll be 52 when I graduate med school and my teachers will be 20+ years younger than me. (psst..but they also have 20+
less years of life experience too!)
My best advice: RESEARCH.....AND MORE RESEARCH.....medicine isn't something people should (just) to make a lot of money or "just for now" until something better comes along. Being a Physician is a life-long commitment to a professional career. It takes 100s of thousands of dollars for training....but, and I think most importantly, it costs something you can NEVER get back: time. All the combined money of the world can't buy you one second of lost time.
You are going to hear people say "I'm going to be 300k in debt"...blah, blah. It happens, it's something most Physicians have to accept. There are a lot of options for loan repayment/ forgiveness. Serve in the Military, work for the state government, take an slightly less glamours job for a few years in exchange for tuition repayment.....the options are many. So don't worry about the debt.
At 33 you should be glad you aren't still figuring yourself out. Being (slightly) older non-trad has some distinct advantages. You may be able to deal with death and adversity more easily. You are married, one less thing you have to worry about is your relationship status. Your husband needs to be as strong as you for your marriage to last. Understand residency and the commitment BOTH of you will make to both your futures.
Medicine is a lifelong marathon. You cannot see the finish line. Focus on doing the best (next) mile....then go on to the next. Just remember to do your best...and keep going!
Here's something to think about:
For every:
Hopeful pre med student.......a current medical student
Medical student....... a resident...then Chief resident
Chief resident.......Attending
Attending.............seasoned specialist
Seasoned specialist.................expert in his/her field
Expert........... World-class Dr who has done X procedure successfully only a few times.
Medical Pioneer or inventor.
You will know it's time to no longer pursue medicine as a career................when you (think you know everything and)..... stop learning.
Welcome to the most rewarding and challenging career known to human kind.