I had a weird experience during interview weekend last week and thought I'd share since it might(?) help people in the future.
(I'm a student in a clinical PhD scientist-practitioner program.)
We hosted 2 social events where everyone could mingle casually. The people interviewing for my lab just hung out with each other both times and completely ignored the students in the lab they were trying to get into. From what I could tell, they were sharing stories about all the interviews they've been on and how many they have left to go.
A few reactions:
1. If I'm going out of my way to engage you in a conversation and you just ignore me... I'm going to feel weird. It only follows that if you make me feel weird, I'm going to have a hard time seeing how you could ever in a million years be a great addition to the lab. If you're so busy complaining to everyone about how tired you are of interviewing, how will you get to know what our program is about? I'll assume you aren't that interested and I'll be sure to let your POI know.
Just remember - all those current students standing around you (that you're ignoring) went through the same exact interview process and were just as exhausted and yet somehow, we managed to show our interest in the program.
2. If you got an invite to interview, it means you're impressive on paper - but at a certain point, due to the ceiling effect, you all look similar, which is why the interview weekend is key - you get to show us who you are in real life so we can get a sense of what you'd be like to work with. What I'm saying is: the thing that's going to separate you from the competition isn't the fact that you got a 1500 on your GRE's and someone else got a 1480. You're all smart and we know this (because we're smart too). What we don't know is what inspires you, what you do in your free time, what makes you who you are. If I ask you why you want to go into X area of psych and you tell me "It's all so fascinating," I'm going to walk away without having a sense of what makes you special. In fact, I'm going to think you aren't that special, but rather just a smart person without a clue.
10 out of 10 times, I'd rather work with the 1480 GRE person who shows some personality and thoughtfulness rather than the 1500 person who seemed to be devoid of a personality.
3. If a student is hosting you, we definitely want to hear from you beforehand. It puts us at ease. We're letting you into our homes and we like to know who we're hosting instead of feeling like a total stranger is using us for a few days and then leaving. It would be nice to get a 'thank you' email afterwards, too.
We aren't your POI, but I think we still deserve some sort of recognition for going out of our way to shuttle you around, make sure you get your beauty rest before the interview, and reminding you to grab your toothpaste when you pack up.
Stuff to think about.