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I will be matriculating next year and am beginning to be quite worried about how my husband of 6 years will handle my becoming an Dr. Jelousy has never really been an issue with us but lately he has been expressing fear that I will leave him for another doctor, like he isn't good enough because he won't have the MD behind his name?? He's super intelligent and interesting and I have been madly in love with him for over 9 years now, and I keep trying to reassure him of this but it doesn't seem to be easing his fear.
Example: The other day on a flight home from an interview I was randomly seated next to a proff from the med school I had interviewed at and we had this great conversation that lasted the entire flight about the world and science and I was so excited because I had already really like the school and this made me feel like it really would be a great choice as I clicked with both my interviewers and this prof and got a great vibe from all of them. Anyway walking thru the airport to my connecting flight I was talking to my husband on the phone and excitedly told him about this great proffessional connection I had made and how this proff had offered to mentor my research etc, and his first reaction was insecurity and asking me if I was going to leave him?!!? I tried to reassure him that any connection was purely on a proffessional level but he seems really uncomfortable about it. I've tried to explain that there is no way I will be able to got thru my career without interacting with male collegues in any significant way so we need to deal with his fears because I can't avoid situtations like this.
Anyway, I really love my husband and am afraid that if not nipped in the butt this could become a huge issue while I am in med school. Does anyone have any advice of how they've dealt with similar issues or is this just way out of the norm? I'm so confused as his reaction was completely unexpected and I can't figure out how to make him more confident in our relationship as I move to the next level of my career.
Example: The other day on a flight home from an interview I was randomly seated next to a proff from the med school I had interviewed at and we had this great conversation that lasted the entire flight about the world and science and I was so excited because I had already really like the school and this made me feel like it really would be a great choice as I clicked with both my interviewers and this prof and got a great vibe from all of them. Anyway walking thru the airport to my connecting flight I was talking to my husband on the phone and excitedly told him about this great proffessional connection I had made and how this proff had offered to mentor my research etc, and his first reaction was insecurity and asking me if I was going to leave him?!!? I tried to reassure him that any connection was purely on a proffessional level but he seems really uncomfortable about it. I've tried to explain that there is no way I will be able to got thru my career without interacting with male collegues in any significant way so we need to deal with his fears because I can't avoid situtations like this.
Anyway, I really love my husband and am afraid that if not nipped in the butt this could become a huge issue while I am in med school. Does anyone have any advice of how they've dealt with similar issues or is this just way out of the norm? I'm so confused as his reaction was completely unexpected and I can't figure out how to make him more confident in our relationship as I move to the next level of my career.