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Hi guys, I am new to SDN but a longtime lurker. It is nice to meet you all. Over the course of this application cycle, this website has been a huge help to me and I would like to thank all the adcom members along with the other posters for all your help. I am very appreciative of all the great advice I've received from this site.
I know SDN is not a place for a soap box but I do have a potentially huge problem that I would really appreciate your feedbacks on.
So there is this guy, lets call him Chad (not his real name) that I have known since we were freshmen in college. Senior year, Chad and I had a huge falling out and stopped being friends. He was basically a scumbag (verbally abused his gf, did heavy drugs, was an extremely unreliable and temperamental, etc.) So we kinda just moved on with our lives and cut each other out. Unfortunately, we couldn't completely cut each other out, and Chad still remained an acquaintance in my life because we were both pre-med bio majors so I would occasionally see him in the classes I took for our major requirements. Over the course of the past year or so, we still spoke but really only out of convenience. It was one of those situations where you talk to each other, but its very superficial and deep down you both know you aren't really friends and all of your conversations are merely formalities.
Anyway, fast forward to today. There is a big pre-med conference at UC Davis that we flew out to (I go to a UC in SoCal). I see Chad there, and naturally we kind of just small-talk because we don't know anyone else there. At some point, I ask to use Chad's phone because mine died, and I needed to call my dad. He gave me his phone and I made the call, but not before a text message popped up from someone and I saw my name in the subject line. Please dont hate me for the invasion of privacy here, but curiosity got the best of me, and I clicked on the conversation. It was between Chad and his gf, and to paraphrase the message, it said something along the lines of "lol I'm gonna make sure KB 24 MVP never sets foot into med school."
My heart sank, my adrenaline rushed, and I started to get tunnel vision. Not because he said that (tbh I expected nothing less from the guy), but because I'm wondering if it is really possible for him to follow through on that promise he made. Earlier that day, he asked me "hey where have you gotten your interviews to if you don't mind me asking?" It seemed like a fairly innocent question at the time, so I replied "I'm interviewing at USC and UCI."
But now I really regret saying anything. He knows my email address, AAMC ID, and student ID number (we go to the same school, they really aren't that hard to get ahold if if you try hard enough), and now I am absolutely TERRIFIED that he will do something to sabotage my application. I'm scared that he will try to somehow contact the admissions USC and UC Irvine and try to concoct some sort of lie about me and try to ruin my chances at these schools. I have worked SO hard to get to this point and just thinking about this is making me want to throw up.
If he did contact these schools, would I have any way to know? Would they hold the words of a stranger against me? What can I do to protect myself?
Really sorry for the wall of text here but I feel a mix of fear, anger, and hopelessness. If anyone can say anything that would perhaps assuage these feelings, I would be extremely appreciative.
Best,
I know SDN is not a place for a soap box but I do have a potentially huge problem that I would really appreciate your feedbacks on.
So there is this guy, lets call him Chad (not his real name) that I have known since we were freshmen in college. Senior year, Chad and I had a huge falling out and stopped being friends. He was basically a scumbag (verbally abused his gf, did heavy drugs, was an extremely unreliable and temperamental, etc.) So we kinda just moved on with our lives and cut each other out. Unfortunately, we couldn't completely cut each other out, and Chad still remained an acquaintance in my life because we were both pre-med bio majors so I would occasionally see him in the classes I took for our major requirements. Over the course of the past year or so, we still spoke but really only out of convenience. It was one of those situations where you talk to each other, but its very superficial and deep down you both know you aren't really friends and all of your conversations are merely formalities.
Anyway, fast forward to today. There is a big pre-med conference at UC Davis that we flew out to (I go to a UC in SoCal). I see Chad there, and naturally we kind of just small-talk because we don't know anyone else there. At some point, I ask to use Chad's phone because mine died, and I needed to call my dad. He gave me his phone and I made the call, but not before a text message popped up from someone and I saw my name in the subject line. Please dont hate me for the invasion of privacy here, but curiosity got the best of me, and I clicked on the conversation. It was between Chad and his gf, and to paraphrase the message, it said something along the lines of "lol I'm gonna make sure KB 24 MVP never sets foot into med school."
My heart sank, my adrenaline rushed, and I started to get tunnel vision. Not because he said that (tbh I expected nothing less from the guy), but because I'm wondering if it is really possible for him to follow through on that promise he made. Earlier that day, he asked me "hey where have you gotten your interviews to if you don't mind me asking?" It seemed like a fairly innocent question at the time, so I replied "I'm interviewing at USC and UCI."
But now I really regret saying anything. He knows my email address, AAMC ID, and student ID number (we go to the same school, they really aren't that hard to get ahold if if you try hard enough), and now I am absolutely TERRIFIED that he will do something to sabotage my application. I'm scared that he will try to somehow contact the admissions USC and UC Irvine and try to concoct some sort of lie about me and try to ruin my chances at these schools. I have worked SO hard to get to this point and just thinking about this is making me want to throw up.
If he did contact these schools, would I have any way to know? Would they hold the words of a stranger against me? What can I do to protect myself?
Really sorry for the wall of text here but I feel a mix of fear, anger, and hopelessness. If anyone can say anything that would perhaps assuage these feelings, I would be extremely appreciative.
Best,
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