SDN Members don't see this ad. (About Ads) Can some non-trads discuss what sorts of questions they've been asked about their personal lives by the interviewers? How many women were asked (either directly or indirectly) whether they'd stop being doctors to make babies? How many tries did it take them to believe your answer? Did you need to reassure the ADCOM that your spouse was going to move with you and/or was supportive? A bit more targeted: is it worth it for me to try and swap gender pronouns, or at least swallow my pronouns, if I'm asked anything like this? If I don't altogether pretend my wife is a man, should I not use the word "wife"? We're legally married and that is what I call her. However, that might be too charged of a word. Do I use partner instead?