SDN Members don't see this ad. About the ads. Hello freshair and all the gals that have been "burned" by men, From one gal to another, please take this advice to heart... When I was younger (not that I am THAT old- I am nearing 30), I used to feel vengeful when I saw injustice (or was treated injustly). As I got older, I observed the nature of life, became wise, and came to learn that there is no need to feel vengeful nor deliver your "form" of justice because there is a "higher power"...what comes around goes around. It's also called karma...in some form or another, justice will be delivered. If it doesn't happen during someone's lifetime, it will happen in the afterlife- on "judgement day" . I vehemently believe in this with all my heart! I am not saying that you should wish ill on your ex-fiance. All I am saying is be passive- forget it, move on and let life deliver it's form of justice. If in your heart you know you are leading a sincere life, even if none other is aware but God, don't worry...sometimes I feel alone and think people don't know who I truly am but I don't worry for I know that on "judgement day" , everything will be revealed. I have no doubts about it. It's an unshakable faith which I can't explain. You shouldn't feel bad about "injustices" for you can't hide such things from God. God knows your heart and mind...and sometimes as hard as it is to believe, even if no other human being sees the truth that lies within your heart and mind, just remember you are not alone. (Aside, I am eventually going to become a "woman of God". The greatest dream I have is that when I die , I will be canonized a saint like Mother Teresa ) . On a personal note, those that have "messed with me" have met bad demises ( a few ex-pals that were cruel to me as well as some ex-boyfriends)...especially my last ex-boyfriend. I won't get into the details of it but he burned me (he was a typical Don Juan/womanizer) pretty badly . Oddly enough , it is exactly that year,the worse year of my life (because of other events too) when I was so devastated that I had a religious experience and recovered my unshakable faith in God . I regained my dignity and later when the playboy wanted to resume the relationship (when he was a complete emotional wreck and didn't have any idea what he wanted to do career wise) I played "cold turkey" (in other words you pretend like the guy never lived and that he is dead) - I neither returned his calls nor responded to his emails...tough luck. By nature, I am a forgiving person and am not cruel, but once someone plays with fire, I play back with fire (but in a subtle form)! When people gossip viciously/injustly about me or are cruel or injust with me, they are often shocked when they get no reaction from me. It is when you are vengeful that your "enemies" get what they want. When it comes to me, they have no idea who they are dealing with. When it comes to me, expect the unexpected! They think I am stupid . A lot of people underestimate me...they have no idea about how my mind is wired. I pretend that I am "oblivious" but I am a very keen observer. I simply don't react. They have no idea that I believe in a "higher form of justice" and that I vehemently believe that God will serve the sentence. And a lot of these so called "enemies" come to respect me. There is definitely a lot that people don't know about me This is very unlike the way I was when I was a teenager ( I had quite the temper and used to talk back)...but I have grown up for the better. I think God has forgiven me for those outbursts...it was the only self defense mechanism I knew. And another smart piece of advice which my mom gave to me...when you "invest" in your education /career, you usually see the benefits/results. However, when you "invest" in men you are playing Russian roulette- even if you do everything right, some men don't give the expected "results". If you remember this, you will never be heartbroken. It has saved my sanity, believe me. You were too good for that fella- it's his loss, not yours. Don't cry crocodile tears! The only true valid time to cry and mourn is for your own loss of faith in yourself, in God , and the goodness of humanity but not over one measly dishonest and heartless man! And if you do lose hope and cry, find yourself a quiet little place (whether in a religious temple or in the woods/by a pond/by the ocean-in the arms of Mother Nature-where the first human beings of the Earth prayed) and pray...and pour your heart out to God...you are not alone. It is only when you are alone with your own thoughts, that the Divine One will come to you. Religious experiences and finding God is a solitary activity. And oddly enough, it is when you are alone with God that you find the greatest strength.