Hello All, I am an MPH dating an MS3. I'm 23. I finished my undergrad in 2003 and took a year off to do research before starting the MPH. During the year off I met my current boyfriend. I met him during his 2nd year, watched him go through boards, and am now am seeing him go through rotations. I can say he is the love of my life and the man I want to be with for a long long time. Little by little I'm learning, though, that just because he's a med student and super stressed out (especially this week) doesn't mean that I have to be stressed out with him. RIGHT?? What a concept!!! My first day of class is this Friday... and aside from salsa dancing on Sunday with my sister and a brake change on Saturday morning, I have no other set plan for the weekend. And I live in sunny L.A.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My bf's weekend is packed with a residency conference, visiting his family, etc., but for SOME reason, the whole week I've felt like my weekend is packed, too. BUT IT'S NOT! I go to sleep at night wondering about other ways I could find more info about residency for him and ways I could make his MBA vs. MPH decision easier. However, it just dawned on me that I picked my own career and that I should worry more about my own endeavors rather than living bicariously through him. The reason I never went to med school was because of the lifestyle. I'm very much family oriented and I want to be a great mom and wife when I get older (while also having a 9-5 job that can help poor and bring me professional and intellectual satisfaction). However, sometimes I feel like the whole "med school" thing and his issues are a greater priority to me than my own career. I need to stop and live my own life while still being his best friend and acting as a source of love and support for him. WOW! I feel myself growing as I write. Perhaps it's OK to watch THE PRICE IS RIGHT tomorrow morning without feeling any stress. Perhaps it is okay to sleep early or to have nights to myself sometimes. Maybe this would even enhance the relationship, no? Like, I'd feel less of a heaviness to my heart when I sleep at night. Ove the months, I've neglected my guitar or my salsa dancing...perhaps I should pick that up again. Tomorrow is my first full day off after a year of working...so I'm going lap swimming no matter what! YEY! I know I'm going off on tangents, but this is all midnight rambling in stream of consciousness. I'f you've read this far, thank you. Thank you ALL for sharing your thoughts in this forum and for helping me see the med student life in a different way. I have a question (which may need a whole new thread)...but just out of curiosity, why am I getting really interested in engagement rings all of a sudden? And when is it okay to think about marriage? According to my mom. sister, and boyfriend, now is a terrible time because I'm too young (23). However, a small part of me is feeling a calling toward engaged life and toward moving in with the "one." I haven't really talked about this in detail with anyone. I'd feel too guilty that I'm doing the "wrong" thing. Any advice would help.