SDN Members don't see this ad. About the ads. My wife is in her 3rd year of med school. She's seriously considering becoming a neurological surgeon, but we both really want kids. We'll obviously have to wait until she's practicing, but even then, would it be possible for her/us to handle the stress of kids with her incredibly demanding job? (I work regular hours at a much less demanding job, but I wouldn't be able to be a stay-at-home-dad.) We're worried about the stress on our marriage, and our kids never getting to see her. Is there any way this could work?