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Lol, I'm aware. I don't think anyone, regardless of gender, just chills with a bunch of leather and booklets shoved down their underwearIt's different for girls.
Lol, I'm aware. I don't think anyone, regardless of gender, just chills with a bunch of leather and booklets shoved down their underwearIt's different for girls.
To glazedonut and sb - I was responding to Not a Serial Killer and Monster Cat who brought up sexual assault. If you're just generally uncomfortable in the presence of the opposite gender for cultural reasons that's w/e to me, its saying youre afraid your med student will rape you as a reason to hesitate that I thought was ridiculous
I made the assumption about the culture thing based on ops parents, no idea if that's actually a factorTo glazedonut and sb - I was responding to Not a Serial Killer and Monster Cat who brought up sexual assault. If you're just generally uncomfortable in the presence of the opposite gender for cultural reasons that's w/e to me, its saying youre afraid your med student will rape you as a reason to hesitate that I thought was ridiculous
Agree to disagree about whether a med student on record as hosting you is likely enough to do anything that you should worry about it.Something that makes you feel really uncomfortable?
Agree to disagree about whether a med student on record as hosting you is likely enough to do anything that you should worry about it.
I accept your terms.
A person is allowed to feel uncomfortable for whatever damn reason they please, you don't get to decide that for them. How that equates to being cheap, a princess, or "connected to her parents via umbilical cord" is a completely nonsensical deduction. Get a clue.
A person is allowed to feel uncomfortable for whatever reason. People are also allowed to have opinions on whether or not they think that they're being unhealthily neurotic for worrying about being hosted in an opposite gendered person's home for a night.A person is allowed to feel uncomfortable for whatever damn reason they please, you don't get to decide that for them. How that equates to being cheap, a princess, or "connected to her parents via umbilical cord" is a completely nonsensical deduction. Get a clue.
I agree that there is a non-zero chance of being physically assaulted. But you can't really go through life worrying about that. There are freak accidents where people are run over on the sidewalk. That doesn't mean that most people who walk on sidewalks are likely going to be hit. In fact, the vast majority of people are fine. But crazier things have happened.Fair enough, though I probably wouldn't go as far as calling spending a night with a random stranger who can easily physically outbody you "unhealthily neurotic." Is it likely to happen? Probably not. Is it a valid concern? Well, the world is a cruel place and crazier things have certainly happened.
Haha! I actually had this happen to me, which is why I was curious about the situation. I'm not sure how the girl (and her female roommate) felt, but it wasn't weird at all. I had an air mattress, some pillows, a blanket, and she got me to the school on time. She also gave me a few interview tips. That's really all you need.Im just trying to imagine this the other way around. A guy staying at a female students house, I wonder how the guy would feel
Yeah I figured guys in general would be okay with staying with girls, I know I would be!Haha! I actually had this happen to me, which is why I was curious about the situation. I'm not sure how the girl (and her female roommate) felt, but it wasn't weird at all. I had an air mattress, some pillows, a blanket, and she got me to the school on time. She also gave me a few interview tips. That's really all you need.
Ugh. As someone with conservative, strict South Asian parents, the amount of judgement I see on this thread is disgusting to me. Some people may not personally have an issue with staying with a person of the opposite gender, but they may actually want to take the opinions of their parents into account! Imagine that! Your parents feed you, clothe you, provide for you- your mother carries you inside of her for 9 months. Respecting their wishes doesn't mean that you're a codependent, neurotic idiot who's "still attached at the umbilical cord." Hell, I'm an extremely independent person, I see my parents maybe 3-4 times a year, and their input is still very important to me. If I can easily avoid doing something that clashes with their values, why not try?
For the record, the judgement I see from both sides is disgusting. This is why every person in the world needs to live in another country for at least 6 months.
Individualists: "It's soooo pathetic how some kids are still attached by the umbilical cord!!!!!"
Collectivists: "It's soooo despicable how white people just let their parents rot in nursing homes after all they've done for them!!!!"
How about you just do you, and don't mock people online because they don't fit into your narrow worldview?
Obviously you're a guy
Please, I'm a girl who has actually been assaulted and I think they were spot-on. That's not to say that we're automatically right or anything, just that your generalization here is just as inappropriate and inaccurate as you keep accusing everyone else to be.Obviously you're a guy
Right, because finding their stance illogical while maintaining that they have every right to their feelings even without specific justification is absolutely heinous of me, totally on the same level as that hyperbolic postThis is why I told that one person to google cultural sensitivity... Idk how people like this are allowed in professional careers
Please, I'm a girl who has actually been assaulted and I think they were spot-on. That's not to say that we're automatically right or anything, just that your generalization here is just as inappropriate and inaccurate as you keep accusing everyone else to be.
Seriously, how do you run around calling people out on cultural sensitivity and then dismiss someone's perspective as "you wouldn't understand, cuz you're a guy" ?
Right, because finding their stance illogical while maintaining that they have every right to their feelings even without specific justification is absolutely heinous of me, totally on the same level as that hyperbolic post
And for the record, not only have I lived in tons of different socioeconomic classes, parts of the country, and family setups, I've also travelled abroad, translated in hospitals, and am headed to go live in a different country for 6mo before med school specifically because I recognized how much cultural and language barriers can have a negative impact on healthcare experiences and outcomes here and I want to be able to provide better care to those populations.
But sure, because I have my own perspective and shared it on an online discussion thread, where I have no professional responsibility to OP and should feel free to discuss the actual topic, I'm an entitled @$$ despite specifically noting that they didn't need to justify their stance, just decide what to do.
Ugh. As someone with conservative, strict South Asian parents, the amount of judgement I see on this thread is disgusting to me. Some people may not personally have an issue with staying with a person of the opposite gender, but they may actually want to take the opinions of their parents into account! Imagine that! Your parents feed you, clothe you, provide for you- your mother carries you inside of her for 9 months. Respecting their wishes doesn't mean that you're a codependent, neurotic idiot who's "still attached at the umbilical cord." Hell, I'm an extremely independent person, I see my parents maybe 3-4 times a year, and their input is still very important to me. If I can easily avoid doing something that clashes with their values, why not try?
OP's parents would never have find out about this situation if she hadn't told them. And yes, it is quite ridiculous to be claiming that you are making X decision only out of respect for your parents, who are nowhere in sight and who would never find out about it. Should I not be gay because it might require my grandparents to (gasp) challenge their beliefs? What kind of nonsense logic is that? Doing stupid, provocative things like wearing revealing clothing in front of them is one thing. But neither OP, nor anyone else, should have to walk on eggshells or apologize for simply living their life.Ugh. As someone with conservative, strict South Asian parents, the amount of judgement I see on this thread is disgusting to me. Some people may not personally have an issue with staying with a person of the opposite gender, but they may actually want to take the opinions of their parents into account! Imagine that! Your parents feed you, clothe you, provide for you- your mother carries you inside of her for 9 months. Respecting their wishes doesn't mean that you're a codependent, neurotic idiot who's "still attached at the umbilical cord." Hell, I'm an extremely independent person, I see my parents maybe 3-4 times a year, and their input is still very important to me. If I can easily avoid doing something that clashes with their values, why not try?
Never!!! I have spent all day carefully hacking their IP in a dark room with a screen casting green light upon my face, so that I could hijack a government satellite to trace their physical location. Tonight, ninjas shall sneak into their room and confirm their hosting appointment, CCing their parents on the message for maximum impact!I think we all have valid points honestly. How about we let op do whatever the f she feels is the right decision after this long thread
Oh aye, but people know that answer before asking, so if they're posting they're kind of requesting overcomplication, no?Leave it to SDN to take a simple call or dont call question into a moralistic debate .. This site makes me wonder if i am way too simple to mingle with med students .. Its either call or dont.. Its up to you ..
Perks of growing up on a island I guess ? Life is much more simple
We're all intellectually curious; comes with the territory. I'm just obnoxiousLeave it to SDN to take a simple call or dont call question into a moralistic debate .. This site makes me wonder if i am way too simple to mingle with med students .. Its either call or dont.. Its up to you ..
Perks of growing up on a island I guess ? Life is much more simple
No we are all bored and neurotically waiting for updates on applications/interviewsWe're all intellectually curious; comes with the territory. I'm just obnoxious
A person is allowed to feel uncomfortable for whatever damn reason they please, you don't get to decide that for them. How that equates to being cheap, a princess, or "connected to her parents via umbilical cord" is a completely nonsensical deduction. Get a clue.
Ugh. As someone with conservative, strict South Asian parents, the amount of judgement I see on this thread is disgusting to me. Some people may not personally have an issue with staying with a person of the opposite gender, but they may actually want to take the opinions of their parents into account! Imagine that! Your parents feed you, clothe you, provide for you- your mother carries you inside of her for 9 months. Respecting their wishes doesn't mean that you're a codependent, neurotic idiot who's "still attached at the umbilical cord." Hell, I'm an extremely independent person, I see my parents maybe 3-4 times a year, and their input is still very important to me. If I can easily avoid doing something that clashes with their values, why not try?
For the record, the judgement I see from both sides is disgusting. This is why every person in the world needs to live in another country for at least 6 months.
Individualists: "It's soooo pathetic how some kids are still attached by the umbilical cord!!!!!"
Collectivists: "It's soooo despicable how white people just let their parents rot in nursing homes after all they've done for them!!!!"
How about you just do you, and don't mock people online because they don't fit into your narrow worldview?
Oh man! I used a perfectly acceptable spelling of a word with Swype on mobile after being up for 36 consecutive hours! I'm so stupid! **** off."I'm judging you for judging someone, you need to stop judging people! My opinion is that your opinion is invalid! Look at me I'm so inclusive and worldly!"
Maybe I would take you seriously if you knew how to spell judgment properly.
By all means, continue being a bigot! Just try not to get any kids arrested for bringing homemade clocks to school, m'kay?
I get the joke but chaperoning is a well established medical practiceAre you going to see male patients alone or will you need the buddy system?
I get the joke but chaperoning is a well established medical practice
If I went to a doctor or NP who was uncomfortable seeing me in an exam room alone, I would immediately transfer my care elsewhere.