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Hello everyone
how are you? I hope that you are doing well. I was hoping that you could please help me with a problem that I have been facing.
My dental school is not like traditional dental schools. While other dental schools have traditional lectures, my dental school has something called group sessions, where a group of 6 students plus one professor would sit inside a room and discuss a case. The case is usually about a medical/dental patient who comes into see the doctor, and our job as students is to come up with ideas and research topics to better understand the condition and diagnosis of the patient.
We students actually do spend a lot of time in these Group Session, and my problem is that some of the people in PBL are becoming really rude and mean to each other. They are trying to fight to talk over each other - and sometimes, I feel as if my group members are becoming jealous and envious of each other - and it is emotionally draining to have to go through this.
I don't know if I am being too sensitive, but sometimes, I can sense the vibe in the room - from facial expression or tone of voice - there is a lot of tension and competition in the room.
There are some kids in the room who are actually really aggressive - they keep talking and talking and talking really loudly - but if you actually listen to the words that they are saying - they aren't really saying anything at all. Then there are other kids who are softer, and quieter - but when they do speak, they actually come up with good, scientific ideas.
And it gets me really angry when the softer, more quieter kids are getting picked on by the louder kids. Sometimes the louder kids would say things that sound like harmless jokes but are actually really mean insults to the quieter kids.
This whole situation of not having lecture - is really draining and so0o tiring. A part of me is so TIRED of this whole "group session" thing- and I do wish that my dental school was lecture based.
For me personally, I do feel a little bit of negativity - sometimes, when i am trying to speak and do say something intelligent, i feel as if my group members turn on me or quietly get angry at me for speaking. It's hard to explain, but I can feel it.
When school first started, a few months ago, I was getting along with my class mates really really well, and I was really looking forward to building new friendships - I thought the whole competition thing was only for high school and college, and i thought that the competitiveness would end in dental school, but I was so wrong. These groups sessions have made us so jealous of each other - and the constant negativity in the room and jealousy - is draining.
I feel so lonely - I was really looking forward to making good friends in dental school - and within the first few months, I really thought that I had found some cool good friends - but watching people in these Group Sessions bite at each other and at me - it hurts really badly inside - it has made me really sad. It has really made me think that the "friendships" that I had formed in the first few months of dental school were really superficial.
I feel so lonely - sometimes, I think that the only people that I have in my life are my family and God - I feel so lonely sometimes, and I think maybe this loneliness I feel is God's way of calling me to a deeper friendship with Himself. The world cannot satisfy my heart - only God can.
My question is - how do I deal with this whole Group Session thingy? Should I emotionally distance myself from all these people - and try my best to separate myself from my own emotions and feelings? Should I go through dental school trying to ignore my feelings and just do what I have to do?
How do I forget all the nasty, mean comments I've received from my class mates in the Group Session meetings?
Today, we had a 4 hour long group session - and I saw some of my best dental school friends say awful/mean things to me - I don't think that I see them as friends anymore - I'm so tired and hurt. Do you think that with time, I will be able to get over this?
Please keep me in your prayers.
how are you? I hope that you are doing well. I was hoping that you could please help me with a problem that I have been facing.
My dental school is not like traditional dental schools. While other dental schools have traditional lectures, my dental school has something called group sessions, where a group of 6 students plus one professor would sit inside a room and discuss a case. The case is usually about a medical/dental patient who comes into see the doctor, and our job as students is to come up with ideas and research topics to better understand the condition and diagnosis of the patient.
We students actually do spend a lot of time in these Group Session, and my problem is that some of the people in PBL are becoming really rude and mean to each other. They are trying to fight to talk over each other - and sometimes, I feel as if my group members are becoming jealous and envious of each other - and it is emotionally draining to have to go through this.
I don't know if I am being too sensitive, but sometimes, I can sense the vibe in the room - from facial expression or tone of voice - there is a lot of tension and competition in the room.
There are some kids in the room who are actually really aggressive - they keep talking and talking and talking really loudly - but if you actually listen to the words that they are saying - they aren't really saying anything at all. Then there are other kids who are softer, and quieter - but when they do speak, they actually come up with good, scientific ideas.
And it gets me really angry when the softer, more quieter kids are getting picked on by the louder kids. Sometimes the louder kids would say things that sound like harmless jokes but are actually really mean insults to the quieter kids.
This whole situation of not having lecture - is really draining and so0o tiring. A part of me is so TIRED of this whole "group session" thing- and I do wish that my dental school was lecture based.
For me personally, I do feel a little bit of negativity - sometimes, when i am trying to speak and do say something intelligent, i feel as if my group members turn on me or quietly get angry at me for speaking. It's hard to explain, but I can feel it.
When school first started, a few months ago, I was getting along with my class mates really really well, and I was really looking forward to building new friendships - I thought the whole competition thing was only for high school and college, and i thought that the competitiveness would end in dental school, but I was so wrong. These groups sessions have made us so jealous of each other - and the constant negativity in the room and jealousy - is draining.
I feel so lonely - I was really looking forward to making good friends in dental school - and within the first few months, I really thought that I had found some cool good friends - but watching people in these Group Sessions bite at each other and at me - it hurts really badly inside - it has made me really sad. It has really made me think that the "friendships" that I had formed in the first few months of dental school were really superficial.
I feel so lonely - sometimes, I think that the only people that I have in my life are my family and God - I feel so lonely sometimes, and I think maybe this loneliness I feel is God's way of calling me to a deeper friendship with Himself. The world cannot satisfy my heart - only God can.
My question is - how do I deal with this whole Group Session thingy? Should I emotionally distance myself from all these people - and try my best to separate myself from my own emotions and feelings? Should I go through dental school trying to ignore my feelings and just do what I have to do?
How do I forget all the nasty, mean comments I've received from my class mates in the Group Session meetings?
Today, we had a 4 hour long group session - and I saw some of my best dental school friends say awful/mean things to me - I don't think that I see them as friends anymore - I'm so tired and hurt. Do you think that with time, I will be able to get over this?
Please keep me in your prayers.