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I don't know if this story is gonna help at all but I'm gonna share it because I hope it does. It was my senior year of undergrad and in one class we were placed into groups that we sat and worked with all semester. We did mid semester evaluations of everyone and I got some not so perfect reviews from a partner, not terrible, just room for improvement.
At first I just wanted to blame it on the team member being a male and expecting everyone to listen to him. That was my first reaction, I was 22, I thought I'd already learned as much as I could about being nice as I could. But I thought about it and realized I was wrong, I changed my ways and spoke less and listened more. I still spoke a bunch! But I listened. The end of semester review came and I had improved in every catagory.
I never would have realized it without those reviews. Its good to be introspective but sometimes you really just need to ask and have a heart to heart. No one I've ever met has been perfect, we can all improve more and more, but we need input to realize it. So realize that all of these things that are happening in your world is just life's way of giving you input that it's time to really nestle in and ask questions of other's and be honest with yourself. I've been there.
At first I just wanted to blame it on the team member being a male and expecting everyone to listen to him. That was my first reaction, I was 22, I thought I'd already learned as much as I could about being nice as I could. But I thought about it and realized I was wrong, I changed my ways and spoke less and listened more. I still spoke a bunch! But I listened. The end of semester review came and I had improved in every catagory.
I never would have realized it without those reviews. Its good to be introspective but sometimes you really just need to ask and have a heart to heart. No one I've ever met has been perfect, we can all improve more and more, but we need input to realize it. So realize that all of these things that are happening in your world is just life's way of giving you input that it's time to really nestle in and ask questions of other's and be honest with yourself. I've been there.