Kids? Stop right there. I'm tired of this Peter Pan-syndrome BS.
I believe in personal responsibility. If you have been through undergrad and still don't have the sense to know what you are getting into...I don't know what to tell you. And to frickin whine about it like a child when YOU didn't know what you were getting yourself into is pathetic.
Did you expect that the military would be some sort of Willy Wonka factory tour? There are plenty of aspects of the military that suck...I learn a nuance of that suckiness pretty regularly. But you won't see me whine about it. I'm too busy trying to make the most out of the situation. The same exact people who complain about how unfair their lives are in the military are the same ones who will complain about civilian life...I work with these people.