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Yes, chai_latte, I hear you. I forgot to mention that I made it off a waitlist the 2nd year I applied. The big difference in my interview offers btwn 1st and 2nd time, was that I was more open and honest in my personal statement and shared my reasons on why I felt I had been deficit in the past (just a one-liner about my weaknesses), but the majority of my personal statement highlighted my strengths, and how well-matched my interests were to each program.
After the 2nd round of rejections, then being waitlisted at multiple places (WTF!? I wasn't good enough for outright acceptance?) and offers that I second-guessed (non-funded programs), I had a heart-to-heart with my brother who was actively convincing me to go to Law School (b/c he's a trial attorney and thought I would be good at it also). He asked me if I was being realistic in applying a third time (like, "aren't those programs telling you something pretty obvious?!?") That hurt and was a blow to the ego, but I was like, "Hell, NO! I'm qualified...just did poorly in the interview, made a type-o in a cover letter (wrong program name), there were applicants who were better-received this round, etc. etc. - all my justifications for feeling I was qualified. I also remember feeling like if I don't have anything, I have nothing to lose. Then, I got on the phone, sent emails to training directors, and proactively, politely and professionally put myself out there to say 'I was not accepted this round, but I was impressed with your program and you WILL see me again.'
This type of resilience serves you well because in grad school the evaluation continues year after year with committee approvals, practicum, internship and post-doc placements.
All I can say is decide if you realistically can achieve your goal, don't dwell on time/money spent (they were dress-rehearsals), and push forward. Otherwise, Plan B is always an option (and mine was to apply to an independent training program that would've qualified me to be licensed-masters level psychotherapist in my state with my general psych MA that I already had). But even my Plan B goal convinced me that I really wanted to be clinician...so I was ready to go at it again....then my offer came in May of that year. Freaky anecdote, but encouragement nonetheless.
This is my THIRD time applying. I applied during my undergraduate, did not get in. I wasn't that upset about rejections that time as I had offers from all of the master's programs I applied to. Instead of taking a year of two off, I opted to join one of those master's programs. During that time, I retook the GRE, sought out extra research and teaching opportunities, and reapplied during my second year of masters programs (to 11 programs). I did not get a single interview last year. This year,after graduating in May of 2014, I joined a research team, hired a tutor to raise my GRE scores (and I did), and I gained some clinical experience with my master's. This year out of 19 programs, I got 4 interviews. Two of those interviews resulted in a low-ranked alternate letter. This is why I'm losing hope.