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You guys are blowing this way out of proportion...I feel the responses would have been different if I had posted on the rant here thread. I realize I did ask for advice, but I do not have serious problems in my relationship. I will probably want to spend more time with him than doing school work but I know I can't because I am the type of student that has to spend a lot of time studying just to get a B. He is very supportive, so thank goodness. Being distant from each other can be fixed, this does not mean we have bad relationship, it means we need to work on it, as in all relationships, it takes work. I feel like you guys jump to the worst conclusions based on a few paragraphs I wrote.
I did not take SOV's post as a personal attack, I simply responded, agreeing and disagreeing with some of his points. I do however think that every relationship has issues, to say otherwise would be dishonest. So by MooVet saying that my relationship obviously has issues is stating the obvious, especially since I put our issues out there on this forum and am admitting freely to them. I also didn't mean to say I would wait until we are getting a divorce to seek counseling, of course I would go way before that even came into play, I should have never mentioned the D word in any of my posts b/c I just can't even fathom that happening, which I know is unrealistic but also shows me that I am truly happy with who I chose to spend the rest of my life with. My husband has a really hard time opening up to me let alone a stranger (his words not mine) so it is better FOR US that we work this out ourselves.
We have made it through his abusive parents who hated me, him in foster care, a break up, him being gone for 7 months for training, also gone for 8 months to Afghanistan. Now, because he expressed his feelings and we are dealing with them our relationship has issues and we need counseling? Does no one figure stuff out for themselves anymore? I think people give up to easily now, no one wants to put the work in themselves. No one tells you that marriage is work and it never stops, but it's worth it. Don't get me wrong, I am all for counseling, my father has PTSD and was away from our family for 8 years on and off...there are great things about counseling....I just don't believe a bump in the road constitutes such a big step. Now that you know my whole life story...I hope I don't meet anyone in person..jk.
I know you guys are trying to be helpful and I really do appreciate it, but it's also hard for me to express the situation and thus for all of you to grasp it on the internet, which is probably why you are urging us to seek counseling. I get it, I do not want to have to deal with this while I'm in school, but I still have time and as the beginning of school gets closer if I feel its not resolved I have no qualms about going to counseling, even if it's by myself at first. I think it is so great that my school offers this service. I also have a really good support group in my family and friends. I wanted to post on here because I know most of you have been through similar situations.
I did not take SOV's post as a personal attack, I simply responded, agreeing and disagreeing with some of his points. I do however think that every relationship has issues, to say otherwise would be dishonest. So by MooVet saying that my relationship obviously has issues is stating the obvious, especially since I put our issues out there on this forum and am admitting freely to them. I also didn't mean to say I would wait until we are getting a divorce to seek counseling, of course I would go way before that even came into play, I should have never mentioned the D word in any of my posts b/c I just can't even fathom that happening, which I know is unrealistic but also shows me that I am truly happy with who I chose to spend the rest of my life with. My husband has a really hard time opening up to me let alone a stranger (his words not mine) so it is better FOR US that we work this out ourselves.
We have made it through his abusive parents who hated me, him in foster care, a break up, him being gone for 7 months for training, also gone for 8 months to Afghanistan. Now, because he expressed his feelings and we are dealing with them our relationship has issues and we need counseling? Does no one figure stuff out for themselves anymore? I think people give up to easily now, no one wants to put the work in themselves. No one tells you that marriage is work and it never stops, but it's worth it. Don't get me wrong, I am all for counseling, my father has PTSD and was away from our family for 8 years on and off...there are great things about counseling....I just don't believe a bump in the road constitutes such a big step. Now that you know my whole life story...I hope I don't meet anyone in person..jk.
I know you guys are trying to be helpful and I really do appreciate it, but it's also hard for me to express the situation and thus for all of you to grasp it on the internet, which is probably why you are urging us to seek counseling. I get it, I do not want to have to deal with this while I'm in school, but I still have time and as the beginning of school gets closer if I feel its not resolved I have no qualms about going to counseling, even if it's by myself at first. I think it is so great that my school offers this service. I also have a really good support group in my family and friends. I wanted to post on here because I know most of you have been through similar situations.
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