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It may be that he feels like you're making all of these big life decisions without really considering what he wants or considering what it will do to you're relationship. It sounds like that isn't the case, but guys often feel left out (in my experience). I'd sit down and have a talk and focus on his feelings and not yours. If he's still being a dickwad, then dump him. It's not worth wasting your time with a guy that doesn't support you. It wouldn't last anyway.
Seems like the guy has some legitimate concerns, especially if it's in the context of a long term, mutual relationship.
If you're planning on, or at least considering marriage, debt load is something for him to think about, especially since he'll be entangled in it.
I think we're all so used to being single minded about this pursuit, and it's hard to wrap our heads around how these decisions may impact others. If I were on the other side of the argument, I'd be wondering how "supporting your goals" had turned into "I will move anywhere, and do anything with no functional input."
If it's a real, mutual relationship, then the decisions should be made mutually.