Sexual past matters for women, but not men

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http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...men-play-field-without-worry-study-finds.html





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This is all very reasonable too. We use someone's work experience in order to judge their employment potential. We use someone's GPA/MCAT/standardized test scores to judge their academic abilities. We use someone's payment history to judge someone's credit worthiness. We use someone's criminal record against them when it comes to work/professional school.
So why is it that we can't use someone's sexual history to judge them? Guys who do so are often labeled as being insecure, when they are being wise and intelligent.
So now the numbers support it too. Although personally I thought it would be even for women and men but it appears to be that this is largely important for women only.

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I think that statistic is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Tis basically lead time bias.
This might be exactly what you're saying, but the statistic leaves me asking a lot of questions. Are the women who are not in "stable" marriages unmarried? Or is there some metric for "unstable" marriages? An unmarried woman in her 30s having had more sexual partners compared to a woman in her 30s who has been married for 5+ years is not only not surprising, it doesn't mean anything close to OP's interpretation.
 
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Oh dear god not this again
 
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Sooo women who have been married since they were at least 25 have less sexual partners than people who are unmarried in their 30s.

No **** sherlock
 
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Ok so reading the article.... do guys really suck that bad at sex or what?

Of the women who had never had sex with anyone else half of them were not satisfied! Half! You don't even know what's out there and you think what you have sucks.
It went down the more partners you had. Sooo basically what I'm seeing is that married dudes really need to step up their dick game
 
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Just read the actual article, which doesn't seem to match up with the legends on the chart at all, so now I'm confused :confused:
The article and graph are two different sources. There's more sources on this exact topic as well.
I think anyone who disagrees with using someone's sexual past should also disagree with using things like credit history in society since apparently the past means nothing.
If someone opened her legs up to everyone for years, what suddenly makes her partner think that she's going to stop doing that for the rest of her life to everyone else? It's obvious that common sense is being struck down by feminism.
 
The article and graph are two different sources. There's more sources on this exact topic as well.
I think anyone who disagrees with using someone's sexual past should also disagree with using things like credit history in society since apparently the past means nothing.
If someone opened her legs up to everyone for years, what suddenly makes her partner think that she's going to stop doing that for the rest of her life to everyone else? Tis obvious that common sense is being struck down by feminism.
Wowwwwwww
 
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If there is anyone lacking common sense it's those who argue for puritanical nonsense such as women's sexual behavior making a difference while men's doesn't.

Why would the same act make a difference in one gender and not the other it doesn't make sense

Even if it does, did you even read your link? What is your explanation? If women are less sexually satisfied with their husband after more experience, why are their husbands so crappy in bed? On average it takes a woman like 20 minutes to orgasm, while guys are more in the 5 minute range. Maybe if guys were more considerate in bed they would have better marriages. That's not feminisms fault, that's the fault of laziness
 
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The article and graph are two different sources. There's more sources on this exact topic as well.
I think anyone who disagrees with using someone's sexual past should also disagree with using things like credit history in society since apparently the past means nothing.
If someone opened her legs up to everyone for years, what suddenly makes her partner think that she's going to stop doing that for the rest of her life to everyone else? Tis obvious that common sense is being struck down by feminism.
There is a lot that goes into whether one cheats or not, and whether their marriage will be happy or not. It's pretty clear that infidelity makes marriages unhappy (feel free to google all you like on that one, there's literally thousands of research papers on the effects of infidelity on marriage- it is among the worst things that can happen in a relationship, falling just behind losing a child in its effects). Therefore, if a successful marriage should be a person's primary goal when looking for a partner, then women should select men that are the least likely to engage in infidelity. Men with more sexual partners are both more likely to cheat and more likely to report dissatisfaction in marriage. Attractive men, men in high-ranking positions, ones that live in cities, and ones that cohabitate are more likely to engage in infidelity. Furthermore, high income couples are found to be more happy than those with low incomes. Therefore women should clearly select for men who have as few sexual partners as possible, are successful but not high ranking and live in outside of major cities, are average looking, and make more money than the female. Any guy with more than a few sexual partners, a position of power, not enough money, a guy that wants to cohabitate with her prior to marriage, etc etc should be removed from the running as husband material.

Seriously, you can't use one thing such as "number of partners prior to marriage" as an indicator of marital satisfaction. There's so much else that goes into it. Maybe the ones that had more partners got married later and had stressful careers, while the ones with only two or less partners got married earlier and were stay-at-home moms that had few other stressors in their life. Maybe there is a strong religious or social component that also affects happiness in the women with less sexual partners. Maybe the majority of the lower partner cohort was younger, on average, and thus had less time to reach a state of dissatisfaction. Maybe the group with a large number of partners was a smaller cohort, and thus could not be said to be representative of the general population, and maybe those that were in samples large enough to be statistically significant with less sexual partners had not yet reached a duration of marriage at which unhappiness results.

I'm very familiar with this study- there were only 418 participants that got married throughout the entire study, and the average duration of marriage was not that long at its conclusion, as the study was only conducted for five years. The oldest marriages studied are likely only 4 years in duration, and most of them significantly less. The ones that are longer in duration are more likely to be the ones in which the woman is older (and likely probably has more sexual partners), as women are more likely to marry in their late 20s and early 30s than in their late teens and early 20s. Thus these relationships are probably longer in duration than those of the ones with fewer partners, and less likely to be happy, as it is time that wears on a marriage more often than what past you bring with you.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/21/more-sexual-partners-unhappy-marriage_n_5698440.html
http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/journals/3214800.html
http://nationalmarriageproject.org/reports/
 
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Lol how the hell are you going to determine whether or not the marriage is stable if you've only been together for a few years? Sans any major problems you are still in a the newlywed phase
 
If there is anyone lacking common sense Tis those who argue for puritanical nonsense such as women's sexual behavior making a difference while men's doesn't.

Why would the same act make a difference in one gender and not the other it doesn't make sense

Even if it does, did you even read your link? What is your explanation? If women are less sexually satisfied with their husband after more experience, why are their husbands so crappy in bed? On average it takes a woman like 20 minutes to orgasm, while guys are more in the 5 minute range. Maybe if guys were more considerate in bed they would have better marriages. That's not feminisms fault, that's the fault of laziness
How long a guy takes to finish depends mostly on how much porn he watches and how much masturbation he does. A lot of guys will last like 2 hours or wont even be able to finish at all if using a condom.
Remember that most guys don't get laid all that much in their life and aren't that experienced.
Also men and women are wired differently and it makes sense that one gender can not be as damaged when it comes time to bond with someone.
 
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Also men and women are wired differently and it makes sense that one gender can not be as damaged when it comes time to bond with someone.

Do you have any proof of this?

I don't know any evidence of women being "damaged" by consensual sex.
 
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What does "wired differently" even mean?
 
There is a lot that goes into whether one cheats or not, and whether their marriage will be happy or not. Tis pretty clear that infidelity makes marriages unhappy (feel free to google all you like on that one, there's literally thousands of research papers on the effects of infidelity on marriage- Tis among the worst things that can happen in a relationship, falling just behind losing a child in its effects). Therefore, if a successful marriage should be a person's primary goal when looking for a partner, then women should select men that are the least likely to engage in infidelity. Men with more sexual partners are both more likely to cheat and more likely to report dissatisfaction in marriage. Attractive men, men in high-ranking positions, ones that live in cities, and ones that cohabitate are more likely to engage in infidelity. Furthermore, high income couples are found to be more happy than those with low incomes. Therefore women should clearly select for men who have as few sexual partners as possible, are successful but not high ranking and live in outside of major cities, are average looking, and make more money than the female. Any guy with more than a few sexual partners, a position of power, not enough money, a guy that wants to cohabitate with her prior to marriage, etc etc should be removed from the running as husband material.

Seriously, you can't use one thing such as "number of partners prior to marriage" as an indicator of marital satisfaction. There's so much else that goes into it. Maybe the ones that had more partners got married later and had stressful careers, while the ones with only two or less partners got married earlier and were stay-at-home moms that had few other stressors in their life. Maybe there is a strong religious or social component that also affects happiness in the women with less sexual partners. Maybe the majority of the lower partner cohort was younger, on average, and thus had less time to reach a state of dissatisfaction. Maybe the group with a large number of partners was a smaller cohort, and thus could not be said to be representative of the general population, and maybe those that were in samples large enough to be statistically significant with less sexual partners had not yet reached a duration of marriage at which unhappiness results.

I'm very familiar with this study- there were only 418 participants that got married throughout the entire study, and the average duration of marriage was not that long at its conclusion, as the study was only conducted for five years. The oldest marriages studied are likely only 4 years in duration, and most of them significantly less. The ones that are longer in duration are more likely to be the ones in which the woman is older (and likely probably has more sexual partners), as women are more likely to marry in their late 20s and early 30s than in their late teens and early 20s. Thus these relationships are probably longer in duration than those of the ones with fewer partners, and less likely to be happy, as Tis time that wears on a marriage more often than what past you bring with you.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/21/more-sexual-partners-unhappy-marriage_n_5698440.html
http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/journals/3214800.html
http://nationalmarriageproject.org/reports/
End of the day a 30 year old woman will never feel the same way for anyone that she did for her first boyfriend in high school. She just decides to settle with someone after sleeping around in her prime years.

 
End of the day a 30 year old woman will never feel the same way for anyone that she did for her first boyfriend in high school. She just decides to settle with someone after sleeping around in her prime years.


You've clearly never experienced real love if you think that the way people feel about their first crushes in high school is how you want a woman to feel about you in an adult marriage. It's actually laughable for you to imply that that sort of childish relationship is a good thing.

As to how women feel in regard to their first love, the general consensus after you're done with grad school is usually something between indifference and laughing at their prior naiveté, save for a few rare exceptions.

I do get a real kick out of the painfully insecure posts made by MGTOW and TRP guys. I get it, they know that they're physically, sexually, or emotionally inadequate and that they probably don't measure up to their hypothetical (and it is always hypothetical, because I've never met a guy in these circles that wasn't single) girlfriend's hypothetical phantom past lovers. They can't love a woman that makes them insecure, because they're so caught up wallowing in their insecurities that they fail to connect on any real level. So instead they flip it around and say that it is women that are incapable of love. That's cool I guess, it certainly makes the playing field great for guys that aren't worried about their looks/penis size/height/sexual abilities/personality/career/social skills. Because when you know you've got everything a woman needs in a partner and you can satisfy her sexually, there's no need to be insecure or to worry about how you'll keep her around.

The great thing about a movement of sad manchildren that have basically made themselves radioactive to the opposite sex is that it is pretty self-limiting in nature :laugh:
 
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I already posted more than 1 study. http://socialpathology.blogspot.ca/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html
You've posted nothing against it and simply disagree because it goes against your beliefs.
I posted a thorough explanation of why the findings aren't statistically or methodologically sound. You've got nothing but your own beliefs and a statistically insignificant study of marriages that are less than five years old and only contained a single data collection point.
 
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Oh, and in regard to Teachman's study- the participants were from a different generation than the cohort that is marrying and cohabitating today. His study was also methodologically flawed in the sense that he drew conclusions using assumptions he extrapolated from population surveys, not from direct observations or study of couples that had cohabitated and later divorced. He painted with broad and largely flawed brush strokes concocting a name for himself with a study that was neither thorough nor conclusive.
 
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I already posted more than 1 study. http://socialpathology.blogspot.ca/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html
You've posted nothing against it and simply disagree because it goes against your beliefs.
Everyone in this thread except for you has poked so many holes in your study and article that it's a siv at this point.

It's your topic, the burden of proof lies with you and you haven't provided any true evidence except for your feels. It's obvious you lack the personal experience with women to come up with a more valid hypothesis.
 
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You've clearly never experienced real love if you think that the way people feel about their first crushes in high school is how you want a woman to feel about you in an adult marriage. Tis actually laughable for you to imply that that sort of childish relationship is a good thing.

As to how women feel in regard to their first love, the general consensus after you're done with grad school is usually something between indifference and laughing at their prior naiveté, save for a few rare exceptions.

I do get a real kick out of the painfully insecure posts made by MGTOW and TRP guys. I get it, they know that they're physically, sexually, or emotionally inadequate and that they probably don't measure up to their hypothetical (and Tis always hypothetical, because I've never met a guy in these circles that wasn't single) girlfriend's hypothetical phantom past lovers. They can't love a woman that makes them insecure, because they're so caught up wallowing in their insecurities that they fail to connect on any real level. So instead they flip it around and say that Tis women that are incapable of love. That's cool I guess, it certainly makes the playing field great for guys that aren't worried about their looks/penis size/height/sexual abilities/personality/career/social skills. Because when you know you've got everything a woman needs in a partner and you can satisfy her sexually, there's no need to be insecure or to worry about how you'll keep her around.

The great thing about a movement of sad manchildren that have basically made themselves radioactive to the opposite sex is that Tis pretty self-limiting in nature :laugh:
You're over thinking this. Love is just a chemical reaction. It's like when opiate users know that they will never feel their first high ever again, no matter what they use.
If you really want to lie to yourself and think that you'll meet a 30 year old woman who's slept around that will love and cherish you until you're 90 years old, then go right ahead. But in the back of your mind I'm sure that you know it's a lie.
 
I posted a thorough explanation of why the findings aren't statistically or methodologically sound. You've got nothing but your own beliefs and a statistically insignificant study of marriages that are less than five years old and only contained a single data collection point.
Studies aside you think that a person's sexual past does not matter? In reality though I'd judge a man in the same context. I wouldn't advise my female friends/daughter/female cousin to go ahead and marry a guy that's slept around with tons of girls. The few good girls I've known cut off contact with guys they really liked after they found out about their past. Very good decisions by them.
 
You're over thinking this. Love is just a chemical reaction. Tis like when opiate users know that they will never feel their first high ever again, no matter what they use.
If you really want to lie to yourself and think that you'll meet a 30 year old woman who's slept around that will love and cherish you until you're 90 years old, then go right ahead. But in the back of your mind I'm sure that you know Tis a lie.
Is this a joke?

Did you ever even date in high school?
Thinking back to the first girl I loved.... I don't hold any ill will towards her as a person, but would I ever want to be with her again?
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Studies aside you think that a person's sexual past does not matter? In reality though I'd judge a man in the same context. I wouldn't advise my female friends/daughter/female cousin to go ahead and marry a guy that's slept around with tons of girls. The few good girls I've known cut off contact with guys they really liked after they found out about their past. Very good decisions by them.

I would be iffy on getting involved with a virgin, but other than that no, I don't really care about someone's sexual past as long as they are STI free
 
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Everyone in this thread except for you has poked so many holes in your study and article that Tis a siv at this point.

Tis your topic, the burden of proof lies with you and you haven't provided any true evidence except for your feels. Tis obvious you lack the personal experience with women to come up with a more valid hypothesis.
Most men twice my age don't even have half my experience with women. Otherwise this topic wouldn't even interest me. The reality is that any wise person who isn't brainwashed by feminism knows that a person' sexual past is extremely important.
 
Is this a joke?

Did you ever even date in high school?
Thinking back to the first girl I loved.... I don't hold any ill will towards her as a person, but would I ever want to be with her again?
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If you're curious about me, then yes every relationship since then has gone downhill in terms of how strong the feelings were.
 
Most men twice my age don't even have half my experience with women. Otherwise this topic wouldn't even interest me. The reality is that any wise person who isn't brainwashed by feminism knows that a person' sexual past is extremely important.

Yawn. I'm so impressed.....

Why would a person's sexual past be extremely important? Unless you are *that* bad in bed that you think everyone else out there is offering a better product so to speak, there is no reason to worry. All of your logic just reeks of insecurity. Right clearly I'm brainwashed by feminism since I want women to have the ability to make their own decisions.
 
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If you're curious about me, then yes every relationship since then has gone downhill in terms of how strong the feelings were.
So that's it. You're just hung up on your first love and that's why you have a mountain sized level of butthurt.
Damn, at least be original.
 
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You've clearly never experienced real love if you think that the way people feel about their first crushes in high school is how you want a woman to feel about you in an adult marriage. Tis actually laughable for you to imply that that sort of childish relationship is a good thing.

As to how women feel in regard to their first love, the general consensus after you're done with grad school is usually something between indifference and laughing at their prior naiveté, save for a few rare exceptions.

I do get a real kick out of the painfully insecure posts made by MGTOW and TRP guys. I get it, they know that they're physically, sexually, or emotionally inadequate and that they probably don't measure up to their hypothetical (and Tis always hypothetical, because I've never met a guy in these circles that wasn't single) girlfriend's hypothetical phantom past lovers. They can't love a woman that makes them insecure, because they're so caught up wallowing in their insecurities that they fail to connect on any real level. So instead they flip it around and say that Tis women that are incapable of love. That's cool I guess, it certainly makes the playing field great for guys that aren't worried about their looks/penis size/height/sexual abilities/personality/career/social skills. Because when you know you've got everything a woman needs in a partner and you can satisfy her sexually, there's no need to be insecure or to worry about how you'll keep her around.

The great thing about a movement of sad manchildren that have basically made themselves radioactive to the opposite sex is that Tis pretty self-limiting in nature :laugh:
I just have to quote this to tell you how much I love this
 
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Yawn. I'm so impressed.....

Why would a person's sexual past be extremely important? Unless you are *that* bad in bed that you think everyone else out there is offering a better product so to speak, there is no reason to worry. All of your logic just reeks of insecurity. Right clearly I'm brainwashed by feminism since I want women to have the ability to make their own decisions.
Why is a person's credit history important? They may have missed payments before (just like someone loved to sleep around before) but how do you know they'll keep missing payments? Just give them whatever loan they want.
Why is someone always being late important? They may have done it before but hey if you question if then clearly you're insecure as an employer to think that they'll be late to your place of work.

I think people should be able to make their own decisions. If they want to be late and unreliable, then so be it! Employers should never judge anyone based on their past or what is on their resume.
 
So that's it. You're just hung up on your first love and that's why you have a mountain sized level of butthurt.
Damn, at least be original.
I'm not, I just know that it'll never feel the same. It's like kids who have the best time ever playing some stupid game. Or elementary school kids playing video games and loving it but not caring much as they age. This applies to every aspect in life.
 
Why is a person's credit history important? They may have missed payments before (just like someone loved to sleep around before) but how do you know they'll keep missing payments? Just give them whatever loan they want.
Why is someone always being late important? They may have done it before but hey if you question if then clearly you're insecure as an employer to think that they'll be late to your place of work.
Are you really that cynical?

Your analogy is fundamentally flawed. My credit card bill doesn't really change. It's the same thing every time. My credit card bill isn't dysfunctional, it can't yell at me, it can't make me love it, it can't make me hate it. It's an object. People aren't objects. Relationships aren't transactions.
 
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Are you really that cynical?

Your analogy is fundamentally flawed. My credit card bill doesn't really change. Tis the same thing every time. My credit card bill isn't dysfunctional, it can't yell at me, it can't make me love it, it can't make me hate it. Tis an object. People aren't objects. Relationships aren't transactions.
That's an extremely poor response. You just made zero sense.
Would you let someone with a criminal record (a big one) into medical school? Would you lend 20k to someone who has been bankrupt before? If not then why would you trust someone who was promiscuous before to suddenly be faithful to you? We use the past to judge everything but only in western society is it deemed wrong by feminists to judge a woman's sexual past. In fact a lot of feminists would judge men ironically.
 
I'm not, I just know that it'll never feel the same. Tis like kids who have the best time ever playing some stupid game. Or elementary school kids playing video games and loving it but not caring much as they age. This applies to every aspect in life.
Why would you want love to feel the same?

That's what I don't get. First loves are... interesting, but they aren't sustainable. They are intense but fleeting. I have no interest for that type of love as an adult. I'd rather have a partner that I can grow with, that I respect, that I can see as a good parent, not some PYT that I just want to fuk. I think as you get older, your love develops more depth, it's stronger, it's intense on a different level. I'll take that kind of love every day of the week
 
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That's an extremely poor response.
Would you let someone with a criminal record (a big one) into medical school? Would you lend 20k to someone who has been bankrupt before? If not then why would you trust someone who was promiscuous before to suddenly be faithful to you?
Because I don't see promiscuity as a negative trait. Actually I think it's kinda hot. If you've had a good number of partners you've probably learned some fun stuff.
 
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If you're curious about me, then yes every relationship since then has gone downhill in terms of how strong the feelings were.
That intense feeling isn't real love though. It's lust, infatuation, and so intense it almost hurts, but it isn't love. Love is something entirely different that you don't know until it hits you one day that, ****, I never want this person to know pain, I want to be there with them to hall and back if need be, I want to see their great victories and comfort them in their darkest defeats. Young love is intense, but usually selfish, reckless, and undefined. You don't want to be there through thick and thin, to cherish your partner till you're old and gray, to comfort them in their darkest times and celebrate your triumphs together. As a teen, you just want that feeling to not go away, because it's your first time feeling it and you don't want it to ever go away. It isn't about them, or the collective "us" of the relationship, it's about a kid not wanting to live without this new good feeling ever again. And that's why the sort of love teens experience seldom lasts- it is built on a foundation of selfishness when it comes down to it, not one of caring, trust, and sacrifice. Love is very much about what you are willing to give, while that high school rush is all about what you get.

That's why, way down the road, all those old relationships look so insignificant in hindsight. It's because they were insignificant, and the person on the other end of them usually didn't mean a damn thing to begin with.
 
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Because I don't see promiscuity as a negative trait. Actually I think Tis kinda hot. If you've had a good number of partners you've probably learned some fun stuff.
If you've been a drug dealer in the past you're probably going to make a very street smart doctor.

Promiscuity goes against loyalty, sorry.
 
If you've been a drug dealer in the past you're probably going to make a very street smart doctor.

Promiscuity goes against loyalty, sorry.
Why would it go against loyalty?

How can you be disloyal if you aren't claiming to be loyal to anyone? That doesn't make any sense
 
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That intense feeling isn't real love though. Tis lust, infatuation, and so intense it almost hurts, but it isn't love. Love is something entirely different that you don't know until it hits you one day that, ****, I never want this person to know pain, I want to be there with them to hall and back if need be, I want to see their great victories and comfort them in their darkest defeats. Young love is intense, but usually selfish, reckless, and undefined. You don't want to be there through thick and thin, to cherish your partner till you're old and gray, to comfort them in their darkest times and celebrate your triumphs together. As a teen, you just want that feeling to not go away, because Tis your first time feeling it and you don't want it to ever go away. It isn't about them, or the collective "us" of the relationship, Tis about a kid not wanting to live without this new good feeling ever again. And that's why the sort of love teens experience seldom lasts- Tis built on a foundation of selfishness when it comes down to it, not one of caring, trust, and sacrifice. Love is very much about what you are willing to give, while that high school rush is all about what you get.

That's why, way down the road, all those old relationships look so insignificant in hindsight. Tis because they were insignificant, and the person on the other end of them usually didn't mean a damn thing to begin with.
And that's why many old couples got together during young age.
Sorry man sounds like you're chasing something that you likely won't have. Just be careful, you may feel that way but the odds of her feelings that way towards a man (after the last 27 guys) is low.
 
Why would it go against loyalty?

How can you be disloyal if you aren't claiming to be loyal to anyone? That doesn't make any sense
If a woman had no problem opening her legs up to different guys in the past, then she wont have any problem doing it down the road again even when married or in a relationship.

#womanlogic

You're either trying to play your way out of this since your logic makes zero sense or you're just trolling me.
 
If a woman had no problem opening her legs up to different guys in the past, then she wont have any problem doing it down the road again.

#womanlogic

You're either trying to play your way out of this since your logic makes zero sense or you're just trolling me.
That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
I'm actually completely serious right now. I can't believe you actually think that other people agree with your sick and twisted views.

Why would having sex with people while you aren't in a relationship mean anything when you are in a committed relationship? You are comparing apples and oranges
 
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That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
I'm actually completely serious right now. I can't believe you actually think that other people agree with your sick and twisted views.

Why would having sex with people while you aren't in a relationship mean anything when you are in a committed relationship? You are comparing apples and oranges
The vast majority of the world population agrees on using someone's past to judge them.
For the 5th time, we use someone's past for EVERYTHING to judge them. To not do so when it comes to relationships is called being a plain idiot. Guys don't do it then complain when they found out that they're texting their gf while she's in some dude's bed.

Also there's a bit of a difference in sleeping around (hook ups), having sex with the same person, exclusively in relationships, or only in marriages. The last one is the rarest but the 2nd last option describes the type of girls that guys should strive for if their goal is a quality relationship.
 
The vast majority of the world population agrees on using someone's past to judge them.
For the 5th time, we use someone's past for EVERYTHING to judge them. To not do so when it comes to relationships is called being a plain idiot. Guys don't do it then complain when they found out that they're texting their gf while she's in some dude's bed.

Also there's a bit of a difference in sleeping around (hook ups), having sex with the same person, exclusively in relationships, or only in marriages. The last one is the rarest but the 2nd last option describes the type of girls that guys should strive for if their goal is a quality relationship.
That's what I'm saying

There is a difference between being in a relationship and not being in a relationship. Why would you use someone's behavior while they weren't in a relationship to judge how they will behave in a relationship? That's stupid
 
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And that's why many old couples got together during young age.
Sorry man sounds like you're chasing something that you likely won't have. Just be careful, you may feel that way but the odds of her feelings that way towards a man (after the last 27 guys) is low.
I'm in a happy and successful long term relationship. I've got what I want and am very much in love. I've literally never asked my gf how many partners she had had, because I just don't care. Could be two, could be two hundred, I wouldn't give a damn either way. I know we're happy together, that we get along like the best of friends, and that we have a great time when our relationship goes more horizontal than vertical.

I certainly don't love her any less or find sex any less satisfying because of my past experiences, nor do I lament my past lovers. Why, then, would I believe women to feel inherently different in the same situation? Unless you're a misogynist that believes men and women are so fundamentally different as to be completely alien to one another emotionally, there really isn't any reason to.
 
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If a woman had no problem opening her legs up to different guys in the past, then she wont have any problem doing it down the road again even when married or in a relationship.

#womanlogic

You're either trying to play your way out of this since your logic makes zero sense or you're just trolling me.
So you're implying that, as a guy, because I had several sexual partners prior to my current gf, I've just morphed into some uncaring adulterous monster that can't feel a damn thing and has no respect for the boundaries of a relationship? :laugh: :lol::laugh::rofl:

Guys, I banged too many girls and lost my ability to to think with anything above my waist, haaaaalp!
 
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That's what I'm saying

There is a difference between being in a relationship and not being in a relationship. Why would you use someone's behavior while they weren't in a relationship to judge how they will behave in a relationship? That's stupid
You can apply that to every aspect in life. Just switch one factor around and boom. Fact remains that we all judge people based on their past. Someone's character doesn't suddenly change when in a relationship. If they lie to their friends and parents a lot, they will lie to their bf/gf.
Someone who desires sex with many people will continue to desire that even when in a relationship. Someone who has sex outside of a relationship won't have any problem doing that eventually even when in a relationship.

It's all about someone's character. You wouldn't trust a bankrupt individual with your money or a convicted pedophile to watch your kids.
 
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