It's hard to say either or because I am 100% in love with the kids i have and I do try and be the best mother I can be. I am not a bad mother, i know my statement from my original post may seem like i am awful, but i am not. I think what it really means is that my goals and outlook in life is one of a person who has kids really late in life, or not at all. I would rather be traveling and or working on my carer goals than to be picking up kids from school at 3 pm and running snacks for the football teams and setting up play dates. That stuff just isn't for me. i do it, but it's just not for me.
The second kid was a contraceptive mistake by me. I kept going back and forth about having an abortion but ultimately, i waited until it waste late to have one so i can have that excuse. But my kids are definitely my world, and what sucks is that i always have to be explaining that to people because in people's eyes you are either a good mother, or you're a career woman.