Radiologist so no, not a real doctor...several forms of contraception (pill, condoms) are pretty effective. Ovulation gives you a 12-24 hour window for fertilization per cycle. Guess my originally point was that the concept of "totally" unplanned pregnancies is BS, particularly when it involves (presumably) two physicians. For starters, try not to ejaculate directly inside your partner...
So I guess you don't know that the w/d method is not that reliable of a method of contraception?
Plus it's way better for both partners if you do, usually
Condoms break, Plan B isn't 100%, so who knows how their contraception managed to fail
Maybe, gasp, with the stresses of residency someone forgot to take their pills? Maybe they got loaded, like blackout drunk and forgot they weren't supposed to do it and did it anyway, and didn't even know they did, haha
Maybe she's gone into a fugue state off/on, or has multiple personality disorder and doesn't know one of the other personalities really wanted a baby and has been f*ing with the BC, taking a needle to the condoms, taking abx to decrease pill effectiveness?
Maybe she's on progesterone only pills 2/2 a previous unprovoked DVT making estrogen contraindicated, and in my ob rotation they told us you have like a 2 hr window to take that **** daily or it no work very good
Even with an IUD you can get pregnant, now I don't know for sure but I think the IUD can be removed and the pregnancy continued under certain circumstances, and who's to say there weren't contraindications to IUD in OP? Some uterii just won't keep them, they keep cramping them right out, and both types of IUD hormonal or not can have side effects
(maybe it's becoming apparent what field I'm in? that was a pretty zebra-tastic ddx on unplanned pregnancy)
I'd like to also state that as a couple making $80+k/yr you can easily afford childcare. By the time the baby is 2 you'll be makinig $400k+ or one of you can totally stay at home while your family makes $200k+. This is not remotely a hopeless situation. You can absolutely have this child and raise them well.
In the interest of putting my money where my mouth is, if after seeking counseling (and you should) you decide you simply aren't willing to raise a child...contact me and we can discuss setting up an adoption.
Yeah you can afford child care, which is who will be raising your child for you while you both work 80 hr/wk.
Not trying to be mean. Do what you gotta. But seriously you will not see much of this kid in residency and this is going to be a lot of work
I planned on NOT having a baby during residency for that reason, but I guess you're beyond that advice now, but you clearly wanted people's thoughts on what doing this might look like
I can't offer personal experience on raising kids in residency
I know a few people that quit residency because having a baby during residency was too much
And others that had preggo probs that made them leave
and dying during pregnancy or delivery is a possibility, in which case you wouldn't finish residency
also though, that if you abort you may regret that forever for a lot of reasons
I think I would come to hate medicine if I felt like that was what I did it for
I also know of residents that made this work, but usually they weren't in the same year, or they were in less harsh more baby friendly residencies
Anyone I know that did the baby thing in residency had to learn to be FAST with work, although that doesn't always mean coming home sooner, depends on the program
it makes sense to ask other residents their thoughts on this, we are familiar with the workplace
