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This a kind of a rant slash display of my current feelings to a problem I am trying to solve...opinions welcome I guess.
OK, so I have not been courting anyone for obvious reasons( except the occasional meaningless flirting I sometime do), but I have been altering my behavior to be seen as a better suited mate. I dropped a kind of "sunny" disposition for a more a solemn nature. Instead of walking into class/work with small grin and stupid joke, I walk straight, stand against the wall (if it's a class I just sit in the front), arms crossed, straight face... I might make a few jokes with a small smile but I appear overall emotionless or kind of stern. This is going well for me...I like it...but my friends and family say I am beginning to worry them. In addition to my disposition I also changed my habits, I no longer offer anything for free. Whether it is tutoring or an old novel I do not read anymore, I now demand compensation. I realized that one thing making me so unfit was my lack of greed, a human quality that I must accept, and desire to just put a large portion of my funds toward my friends (small gifts mostly). *At no point was I trying to bribe my way into a relationship, I fully understand that money is just paper and holds no true power*. I have had a few girls on campus kind of hint some small affection toward me, but I just do not get that excited anymore...I am avoiding the girl I originally had feelings for, she stills tries to text me though, but I am not answering; however, I still have that stupid ache in my chest that reminds of my immaturity. I do not blame her for not having affection toward...after hearing counsel from you guys I realized that the old me was a sick despicable waste of flesh when it came to the opposite sex. I mean, I was running around trying to be "sweet", talkative, giving gifts, it was all just immature bull**** . My peers and superiors say that I am now very withdrawn, have a shorter temper, and just a little unfriendly after awhile.
OK, so I have not been courting anyone for obvious reasons( except the occasional meaningless flirting I sometime do), but I have been altering my behavior to be seen as a better suited mate. I dropped a kind of "sunny" disposition for a more a solemn nature. Instead of walking into class/work with small grin and stupid joke, I walk straight, stand against the wall (if it's a class I just sit in the front), arms crossed, straight face... I might make a few jokes with a small smile but I appear overall emotionless or kind of stern. This is going well for me...I like it...but my friends and family say I am beginning to worry them. In addition to my disposition I also changed my habits, I no longer offer anything for free. Whether it is tutoring or an old novel I do not read anymore, I now demand compensation. I realized that one thing making me so unfit was my lack of greed, a human quality that I must accept, and desire to just put a large portion of my funds toward my friends (small gifts mostly). *At no point was I trying to bribe my way into a relationship, I fully understand that money is just paper and holds no true power*. I have had a few girls on campus kind of hint some small affection toward me, but I just do not get that excited anymore...I am avoiding the girl I originally had feelings for, she stills tries to text me though, but I am not answering; however, I still have that stupid ache in my chest that reminds of my immaturity. I do not blame her for not having affection toward...after hearing counsel from you guys I realized that the old me was a sick despicable waste of flesh when it came to the opposite sex. I mean, I was running around trying to be "sweet", talkative, giving gifts, it was all just immature bull**** . My peers and superiors say that I am now very withdrawn, have a shorter temper, and just a little unfriendly after awhile.
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