Originally posted by LilyMD
Everyone thinks I'm absolutely insane for wanting to go to med school.
Everyone always thinks they can run your life better than you can. This is regardless of whether they appear to be running their life very well or not...
Originally posted by LilyMD
I should mention that I have am currently in a career that pays very nicely,
People seem to be especially suspicious of any change that involves loss-of-income or status. By giving up your current well-paid career (law??) and going into medicine you will be abandoning that which we are all told to aspire to, and breaking the cookie-cutter life-pathway we have all been led to follow. Instinctively it will seem wrong to them no matter what you say. On some levels it probably seems 'wrong' to you too.
Originally posted by LilyMD
however, I hate every second of my 80 hour workweek.
In which case you need to change whether that is to medicine or to something else, but you shouldn't go through life hating every second of every minute of every hour of every day of every week of an 80 hour week for months, years, decades of your life. That's a lot of hated seconds
In which case the first question "should I change" is answered, and all you really need to ask people who tell you medicine is wrong is "so what should I do?" Clearly in this instance staying doing what you are doing is not an acceptable answer. At least posed this way maybe they will consider whether they think you should just not make a change (in which case they are wrong...) or whether, for some reason, they just think medicine is a bad idea (in which case who knows, as I don't know you..). But if it's the latter they need to explain why.
Originally posted by LilyMD
Most med students and residents say "don't do it." They say they would not do it over again, but when I ask them what they would do, they can't really come up with anything.
Most med students and residents went there straight from school and think the only hard thing is medicine. They have a completely different life-experience from you. If they hate it that much, and yet are still doing it then (a) they made bad career choices for themselves and (b) are following through regardless. (see points one and two above!). In which case should you be listening to them? Maybe they should be listening to *you* and changing what *they* are doing!
Originally posted by LilyMD
I heard a theory that residents/med students love to complain. They say smart people always complain. I don't see how that makes sense. Why would people just love to complain?
Don't you enjoy a good moan/rant once in a while just to get things out of your system? I know I do
However, if it's excessive then they are probably just unhappy people. Some people are happy regardless, some are miserable no-matter-what.
Originally posted by LilyMD
Now, the practicing doctors are different - they said it's hard, we get sued, but do it if you love it. It's kind of hard to know if you love it before you're there (even with clinical experience/EC).
That's true of everything. So matter what change you choose to make you will never know until you take that leap of faith. The problem with medicine is not in the not knowing but the additional school debts if you find out you were wrong.
Originally posted by LilyMD
I thought I would love my first career and I even had some exposure to it before. I know no one can tell you what to do with your life. But these warnings/doubts echo in my head bc people tried to dissuade from my first career path and I didn't listen. I ignored them bc I thought I would be different. I thought that they went into for the wrong reasons and that's why they're dissatisfied. And here I am, two years into it and hating it , discouraging young hopefuls where I once stood from taking that path. Does anyone have any insight into this phenomenon? How do you deal with the discouragement/negativity? I want to heed the advice of those who have been there, but I also want to make the right decision for me.
Well thats the problem. If you were more certain it wouldn't matter what other people say. As you're clearly *already* older what is one more year going to make a difference? I would seriously consider getting a job say in a clinical research trial or some other intimate health-care setting with a doctor to get a closer look at what day-to-day life can be like. Of course lifestyle, duties etc vary dependent on your end goal - rural vs urban, academic vs private, primary care vs specialty etc, but you only really have a couple of choices - decide medicine is right and go for it now, decide you are unsure and are willing to committ some time to investigate medicine more before making the committment to 4 more years med school, etc etc, or change and just do something else entirely...but as everyone else makes no better jb of their own lives I wouldn't worry too much about what they think of what you are doing with yours...and I would certainly beware the nay-sayers who just look at what they perceive you to have (money, security, status) and not what you want (not to hate your daily life...)
I doubt that helped but hey, I tried