Glad this thread is still somewhat active in 2013...
I have the opposite problem from the OP. I'm a non-doc dating a future doc and beginning to think that I'm in for a bad time.
Completely agree with the poster below:
1. She's a brutal nagger. She also has this insufferable tendency to nag about things that she herself does chronically. We've not been dating for so long that I'd expect nagging either - she has to have set a record for how quickly the nagging has set in. (We're also distance, so you'd think she'd really have better things to talk about as well.)
2. She totally has a "my money is my money and his money is our money" attitude. She gets grumpy when I think of finances, but when its her money she'll get super tight.
3. She thinks that her busy career is an absolutely justifiable and acceptable sacrifice. My busy hours (worse hours and very unpredictable) however, are apparently 'inhuman' and 'non-sustainable' and I 'can't do that in the long run'. Further, I get asked 'don't I want to see my family'? (This is laughable considering her ideal path.)
4. Even saying this, she has little sympathy for a long day (not that I'm looking for it) if its me. If its her brother though (who works like 6am-8pm AT THE LONGEST) she spends so much time worrying about him. (He doesn't do anything particularly stressful.)
This is without getting into the fact that she claims to want kids, but is 35 now, graduating med school in another year, and wants to do a surgical residency. She'll be freaking menopausal before she's even done. Not to mention a surgeon is not exactly available to raise kids, let alone do much in the way of cooking or cleaning.
So yes, extremely self-centered, demanding, and irrational. I'd say to find a traditional girl like the poster below, but I have no idea where you'd find that these days.
Yes, I would have agreed with your two points when I was musing about this in theory. I now know from personal experience that an MD doesn't guarantee these things or some of the other benefits you might expect from having a wife who is also a doctor. My experience:
Physician wife means she's stressed out more at work, more likely to be demanding self-centered and affection seeking at home
She may cognitively realize that anything she is experiencing, you're going through in your own work but her needs are still her needs, while u as a man are likely to just suck it up and compartmentalize your own stress
Money? Would have thought a fellow female physician with nearly exactly the same salary would be less likely to demand uneven spending in her favor according to laws of chivalry.... Wrong! Have you ever heard "my money is my money and his money is our money"?
You really are better off finding a traditional girl who doesn't make much. Youre going to pay anyway, at least this way your wife might actually help or do her fair share of household work while you make the big money outside the home and she is likely to see your career as a priority and treat you right.