hmmm...most likely from my parents.
They use to tell me. Don't get a boyfriend in high school b/c when you start college (college is more important than anything else in life!) you will not have time for him. Don't get a boyfriend until you have finish high school at least. They tell me perfect grades mean more than anything else on earth too...so it's best to concentrate on that and don't worry about boyfriends or relationships b/c they are a waste of time FOR RIGHT NOW. They are good to pursue AFTER school is completely over. So all my life while I am in school I did not want to pursue a serious boyfriend b/c of college. I do spend A LOT of time with schoolwork to make my grades (that's how I get good grades....I am not really that smart! lol...)! I also know it is crazy to have children while in school....I am SURE it's
not EASY! So I was always recommended not to do that. I always thought I was SMART for putting these things in delay while I pursue my education and get good grades and research etc. But now that I look at people around me that have a bunch of friends, husband, children etc. I wish I have those things!
5 years ago if I heard someone tell me this girl didn't go to college, she married her boyfriend and had children! I would think what a WASTE of life! Now, I am like well, maybe they are living comfortably and have a great life! (beats studying on a Saturday for sure!
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Here is the moment that YOU are waiting for (I know we had some disagreements on this forum before about grades and when to have children!
) okay, I admit now grades are not very important at all. I have perfect grades, but they really are not that important. What is important is having a great husband and a child of your own and a bunch of friends that care about you and a job that you love. (OMG I can't believe I just said that...just 3 years old you would NEVER hear me say or think that!
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Here is another thing I agree with you on. Connections is whats most important! Grades are nothing compare to personal connections and those with personal connections will be the ones that land jobs in the future! that I agree with 100% (however, personal connections can be hard to come by...)
Some people do not have to delay their lifes if they know how to wisely manage their time. I guess I am not a very efficient studier OR I am just not good at picking out whats important to make a C or B. I always study everything to make an A so I always spend a lot of time studying. For the people that know how to study enough to make a C or B and how to pick out info to get an C or B or better yet if you don't need to study to get an A...then you don't have to put your life on hold! I however had put my life on hold for school all these years and it really is boring to say the least.
Congrats on being with your husband for so long! That's great! I rather have that then what I have now! I just want to start my life now and get out of school!