Acherona said:
Why don't you stay home 50% of the time and take care of 50% of your DNA? I hope some day men are embarrassed to publicly state what you have above.
Have you ever heard a woman say she doesn't want to date a man who "puts on airs". Give me a break. Where did you get this sexist outdated phrase, some Jane Austen novel? "From a respectable but by no means wealthy family, Mrs. X had developed a repuation in mansfield park for conversing with gentlewomen, wearing the finest dresses, and putting on airs unbecoming of her station..."
I am truly saddened by the ridiculous views expressed in this thread by my future male colleagues. I can only hope some were not made in all seriousness.
In the following study -- which maybe ucsb101 should check out -- it is claimed that beautiful people are more intelligent (link to pdf article):
http://www.lse.ac.uk/collections/methodologyInstitute/pdf/SKanazawa/I2004.pdf
haha, props on the quote. You must really hate that guy.
But seriously, all guys who want their wife to take a primary role in child rearing are not stuck in past unevolved sexist animals. I love this quote: "My only stipulation for my future husband is that he must get neutered.". Come on, that is femnazi. Only stipulation? Man, that is harsh. Especially because a marriage like that is gonna last, i dunno, 3 years tops. She can't take BC like the rest of the world?
I think marriage is all about give and take, not complete equality. Because men and women ARE different, and not equal. A man and woman deserve the same rights, but one should not conclude they are exactly the same. Sure, SOME women are as strong as SOME men, and SOME men are as good caregivers as SOME women, but I think biology has lent some hand in who we are.
I guess some women don't want a man that they will "need" and depend on, just a partner to compliment their lives. Alot of people are doing this, long term dating thing, without marriage and children. Thats fine. If you can manage to get married doing somtehing like this, that great too.
But those of us who still want to get married, and raise kids, and have a nice happy family, we're not all *****s. I mean, what's the point of having money if you're only spending it on yourself? What are you going to do with your free time? Being married at a reasonably young age, eventually having kids, and building a life around a family is something lots of people want to do. Some of us, gasp, look forward to it. (at least the married part...i am only 22, sheesh).
And if a man wants his wife to stay home, i am sure she will know this before the marriage. Perhaps she has more fun raising kids than worrying about having a job? No man should be ashamed of having a wife stay home. And if a man wants to do the same for his wife, more power to him. However, this case seems to be more rare, as I doubt many women are looking for a man like that. I am sure some are, and there are plenty of people who are more than willing to be househusbands.
But you won't find them in med school. And i dunno, this sex role reversal stuff is all cool in theory, but i don't see it much. I basically see that its basically the alpha male that the women are attracted to. When I see guys who insist YOU pay for the date get the girl, I'll grab my ankles and scream "uncle no!".
want to get personal?: I've helped my share of women relieve some frustration about dating a "loser". Basically, its the same story: he's boring, not cool, not funny, not fun, not motivated, not put together...leads them to seek luvin' elsewhere. I, sadly and reluctantly comply (i was a *****...what can i say). And the girls that like, they like me for those reasons too.
I am not looking for a bimbo. I want a super sexy smart, intellectual, funny, cool chick to date and hopefully marry. I want her to be equal with me as far as career stuff, if she can do better more power to her...but she'd better have some old fashioned wife/ mothering capability too. I don't need her scrubbing floors or baking pies, but I am a man expect to be treated as such. Of course, you don't have to like it, but I think most guys who are high achievers are like this. Hopefully, i hope i can find a woman that fits my needs, and you can find a person that fits urs.