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I've thought to ask this professor to write me a letter of recommendation because I've done well in the class and have interacted with this professor often. However, I've noticed this professor looking at me perhaps inappropriately - staring often at my chest or further down at my crotch when I'm wearing gym pants as I'm looking away. I've caught them doing this now more times than I can count. So I left one day immediately after lecture - as opposed to staying around to chat as I usually would - and the following day I felt this professor was giving me a little attitude in front of the class. They even tried calling me out as though I wasn't paying attention, though I was actually following along the lecture slides on my computer. Other students turned and were looking at me as I explained this. She started to argue that she hadn't posted the slides but then realized she had. It was a fairly tense moment...I did stay behind a little to chat after the following lectures with another student present. Then today, I mentioned that I couldn't wait to get to the beach once finals were over and they asked if I had been to a particular beach nearby (known to be a nude beach).
I understand it's an awkward question for people reading this. I personally think this professor might be checking me out and I'm ok with ignoring it. However, I've done well in the class (even earned 100 on one midterm) and it is the one professor I've had thus far that is teaching a small class and has been available enough to interact with. I've been wondering if I should get a LoR from them. I also consider the possibility that if it were the case that they were attracted to me, that the letter could go either way. They could take any frustrations out against me like they did that day in lecture. Is this dangerous territory? Or might this inspire them to write an excellent letter on my behalf? Thanks.
I understand it's an awkward question for people reading this. I personally think this professor might be checking me out and I'm ok with ignoring it. However, I've done well in the class (even earned 100 on one midterm) and it is the one professor I've had thus far that is teaching a small class and has been available enough to interact with. I've been wondering if I should get a LoR from them. I also consider the possibility that if it were the case that they were attracted to me, that the letter could go either way. They could take any frustrations out against me like they did that day in lecture. Is this dangerous territory? Or might this inspire them to write an excellent letter on my behalf? Thanks.
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