I think many bitter comments on these forums come from AF and Navy docs who did HPSP and didn't really know much about the military to begin with
You'd be wrong about that. In my case, I'm a mil-brat, and my family is neck-deep in AD military members, from all branches of service. I knew what I was getting myself into in terms of military life, but the reality of
medicine in the military was NOT something I anticipated.
You do have a point about expectations and culture shock, however... I believe that those who adapt to military medicine best are prior service... and there's a reason why those folks seem to be happier. Their prior service allows them to anticipate the absolutely maddening bureaucracy, and "do it just because I said so" check-box fillers who populate the chain of command. Those people are absolute crazy-makers to high-drive, civilian-trained newbie docs.
I also think it's harder if you do a civilian residency... you're unprepared for the sand-in-the-gears obstructionism you often encounter attempting to get patients cared for in the military system.
For his own sake, I hope the OP reads through this board thoroughly.
If the Military lifestyle turns you off in any degree please stay out.
That seems to be a common sentiment here among the prior-service and USUHS studs. Incidently, I don't blame guys like Fizban for not wanting angry, negative, iconoclastic, or oppositional people working alongside them... it can be corrosive to morale, and often highlights problems that others had persuaded themselves weren't such a big deal. It's fine to have gung-ho buddies, but that attitude runs the risk of creating a hospital full of medical corps Stepford Wives who may be overly compliant and eager to please the chain of command. The latter probably isn't the best thing for patients.
As we used to say when I was on active duty (amongst ourselves, of course): "if you're not pissing somebody off, you're probably not doing anything worthwhile."
In that same vein, you can tell a lot about a person by looking at his enemies. I'd be happy to work alongside a pot-stirring, feisty, combative colleague if he/she was pissing off all the right people... every organization needs those types, whether they realize it or not. The military, unfortunately, has a tendency to step down
hard on such people, often without evaluating whether their underlying point has merit.