heech said:
Not to beleager my point, nor am I challenging the life lesson you've gathered from the past two years of your life... I don't know you personally, and I know nothing about your family.
But let me pose a rhetorical question. Is it possible that it's the nagging from the aunt and other Asian adults that kept you focused on your productive med school career? Is it possible that without this nagging, you might not have kept productive and focused over the past two years of your life? That we wouldn't be congratulating you for achieving this major goal in your life?
The category of "Asians", as a whole, represented nearly 20% of those accepted into medical schools in 2004. By way of comparison, according to Census 2000, Asians represented 4% of the United States' total population. That can't be a coincidence; statistically speaking, "ethnicity" is incredibly significant in every measure of economic and academic success.
I don't subscribe to the idea of racial superiority, but I do absolutely believe in cultural and social values. And I for one hope one day you'll give some credit back to the "Asian adults" that have nagged, bothered, supervised, and spanked your ass enough to help you get in a position to succeed.
PLease tell me you are really a parent masquerading as a student on SDN~!
IS IT NECESSARILY A GOOD THING THAT SO MANY ASIAN KIDS END UP SUCCEEDING BECAUSE THEY'VE BEEN UNDER RIGID SUPERVISION THEIR WHOLE LIVES? OK, SO THEY END UP BECOMING DOCTORS/I-BANKERS/WHATEVER, BUT ARE THEY REALLY HAPPY? Are they fully developed adults leading their OWN LIFE or simply carrying out their parents desires?
SO MANY ASIAN KIDS I KNOW HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TRULY INTERESTS THEM, BECAUSE GUESS WHAT, THEY WERE NEVER ALLOWED A CHANCE TO DISCOVER THAT FOR THEMSELVES! AS KIDS, THEY WERE HERDED TO VIOLIN/PIANO/TENNIS LESSONS (BUT ONLY FOR RESUME PADDING, MIND YOU--GOD FORBID YOU ACTUALLY BECOME A MUSIC MAJOR!) AND EXPECTED TO PARTICIPATE IN MATH COUNTS AND SCIENCE BOWL...you should know what i'm talking about.
FInally, by college, the more-independent minded are free to explore some subjects that they never got the chance to in high school, but by then, I believe the subconscious urge (UNnatural and forced) to major in science and go into medicine (if this is indeed, what their parents preached for them to do) is so strong, that unless they fail out of Orgo, they'll end up in medical school.
I am glad that you are so thankful to your nagging asian parents for helping you succeed at the field they chose for you. (Yeah, you know
they chose it). But there are those of us who wonder what we might have become, had we been raised differently. In a way, because of our parents' narrow view of success and emphasis on security, our potential was limited to whatever fields they deemed "worthy."
I hope others respond w/ more coherent posts. YOu make some good points, and I know my response isn't totally relevant to what you were saying, but I am irked that you praise parental supervision so much, when, for most asian kids, it means their parents had WAY too much say in what they'd do for the rest of their lives.
Sorry about the caps, it was a bad choice, but i don't want to go back and change it.