Hello, Im a gay male in the LA area and Im applying to more than 10 dental schools and I am hoping to get into one of them. I actually have not dated before at all and really worked hard in undergrad to get into a good Dental School.
I really hope I find someone nice in Dental School, that is actually on my mind. I want to meet a nice Iranian or white guy in Dental School and get married. I also want a private practice and want to be able to live comfortably financially and do the things that I always wanted to do.
Whenever I go to UCLA or USC Dental School, I see so many good looking guys I wish I could know better and develop friendships with. I wish I were in Dental School already so that I could make friends and find a future husband.
Your desire to find a partner and make friends in dental school is understandable and commendable but here is what I have to tell you from my personal experience. If you end up in a small dental school (class less than 60), your odds of finding friends and/or partner are slightly above zero. Most dental students are young (under 25) so even if they are gay, they will not come out of the closet. And because gays are a minority, a small class size will almost guarantee that youll end up being the only one, which is tolerable for a while until you start yearning for a connection of any sort with another gay man.
As far as making friends, that will also be extremely difficult, especially if you are looking for male friends, if you end up in a small school. Most dental students are very decent and kind people but in a small class, the likelihood of finding compatible people is very slim. For instance, my classmates are wonderful people and I am not in the closet and I am not flamboyant by any shape, demeanor, or form. They are very supportive and understanding. I am lucky to have them as classmates. However, I realize that the ONLY thing I have in common with them is the pursuit of a DDS. Nothing more!!! They listen to different music (they like hip hop and stuff that plays in radio station while I like enigma, roxette, abba, annie lennox, and stuff that is
.. well
.gay)
I like scuba diving but the guys like pool, basketball and soccer
I laugh at many things while the guys try to laugh less and act very serious
they drink beer and when I grabbed my Smirnoff-apple flavor, they started teasing me (jokingly off course but it still made feel
kinda out of place..), in the first party, I asked the bartender for a Malibu coconut rum and she gave me a very funny look. In fact, I only realized that I am different here in dental school; I only realized recently that men are not expected to have sweet drinks. These things seem trivial but after a while they start getting to you. What I am trying to say is that in a small school setting, you might be rather disadvantaged, especially if you do not have a local network of friends. Sometimes I just need to talk to another gay guy about anything, be it the weather or academics.
As far as the good-looking guys you saw at UCLA, I dont know but I can tell you about the guys at my school. The guys in my class are either married (a few of them are fathers) or coupled. Also, bear in mind that if the guys are good-looking and young, dont expect them to be out of the closet even if they are gay. Maybe LA is different. I dont know. I wish you good luck.
Most importantly: follow pdizzles advice: apply to UCSF and consider it very seriously. Stay away from small schools or schools in far-flung suburban areas. You might end up in a place where if the music is not hip hop, its gay and where it the drink is not beer, its gay. Do not be surprised if one of your male classmates uses the word gay as a synonym for the term annoying.
Your safest way is to make good friends over the summer before school so that you wont rely on dental school to find someone or friends. It would be great if you can date during that summer so that you can have a shoulder to lean on when the rigors of dental school get to you. Most of my classmates have someone. I dont, and it sucks.
Again, good luck
I hope you have more skills than me HA HA HA HA And if you happen to be the one i have to turn back str8 welll.....
