Anyone who says "money shouldn't come between you and your private school" is naive.
I had trouble deciding between two great schools (one private, one state), a difference of $30k/yr in the tuition alone. An excel spreadsheet really put things in perspective when I looked at how I would go about paying back a loan of $200 000.
If you have no choice, that's understandable, but if you have to choose between a state and expensive private, sit down and calculate how much interest your loan will compound during school and residency. Then factor in how much it will cost to travel to residency interviews (which could easily approach $10k, another loan possibly?). As someone who wants to go into primary care, I realized how insane it would be to owe $200k- Yes, I'd pay it all back, but I would be well into my forties by that time. During residency, the monthly payments on a 10 year loan of $200k approach 75%+ of your take home residency salary (NOT FUN!) 🙁
I don't like that feeling of being up to my chin in debt (to the OP, I can see how you feel).