Wrong. You know what a LOR means in the context of medical school applications, and you're defending a rather reprehensible act committed by one pre-med against another.
Furthermore, *he* knew just how damaging this could be to her ability to become a doctor. Could you imagine someone doing this to you? You can defend this until you're blue in the face, but no one deserves to be betrayed in this way. His letter might have cost the young lady
$5,000 and a year in wasted time and money applying in this cycle. Not to mention the grief that comes from the pressure you put on yourself (as well as that from family, friends, advisors, and well-wishers).
And because he did it anonymously - because he didn't have the guts to tell her he hated her and wanted to keep her from acheiving her dreams - she might never know this was what kept her out of m.s. that year.
This is what you're defending.
He took it upon himself to ruin her chances to get into medical school.
And he did.
Let that sink in a little.
That's what you're defending.
Everyone on this site knows how difficult getting in already is.
Everyone knows how tight the goalposts are.
As if the average pre-med didn't have enough obstacles to overcome in the process without a LOR - a fellow pre-med, at that - with a chip on his shoulder.
That's...
mean.
He singlehandedly ******ed her life for a year.
This year, he will be going to medical school, and she will not. Because he had the opportunity to destroy her application, and he did.
Bravo. And he's proud of himself, too. No regrets. He resented her, and he kept her out of med school because he didn't like her.
That's what you're sticking up for, Conqueror.
Because, as we all know, your performance as an EMT has everything to do with the kind of doctor you're likely to become. And, yes, fellow-pre-meds
who aren't doctors are perfectly capable of deciding which of their fellow pre-meds would, and wouldn't make good doctors.
So, of course, if you can't fire the "twit" (his words), and you can't confront her (no balls), the thing to do, obviously, is to write her the nastiest LOR possible without her knowledge. Twist the knife, deep as you can.
...some of that 'bedside manner', from a future physician. Good stuff.
This is the kind of backstabbing that gives pre-meds a bad name. The bottom line is, telling someone you're going to do something positive for them and turning around and using it as a chance to get back at the person is wormy. Sewer rat and feces wormy. Using an LOR to do your best to keep someone from fulfilling his or her life's goals simply because you held a grudge against the person...it's about the worst thing one pre-med can do to another.
I think I'm done with this.
However, I take comfort in Praetorian's words. There
is justice in the world. And someday, it's going to come down on you (not you, Conqueror) for what you did to her.
/rant, /indignation, /attack mode, /ot.