For some reason, in miami every girl i see driving a beetle seems to be pretty damn cute. I don't get it, it's almost guaranteed. And if she happens to be vegan, i don't care as long as she doesn't even THINK of turning me away from my juicy porterhouse steak (well done)
I propose an analogy, and you tell me what you think. You are invited to a party that starts at 8pm and ends at midnight. There will be food and beverages at said party. You choose to arrive at 10:20pm, on an empty stomach. What do you THINK is going to happen? You are going to get leftovers my friend...you are going to have to eat whatever is left out in the open on the tables, the food no one wanted or didn't like, yet lots of partygoers poked at it, prodded at it and maybe even took a taste and threw it back. And it's all cold. If you're ok with leftovers in life, then don't read the rest of my post. That's what you are setting yourself up for. You're going to date and then maybe eventually marry a woman who (in most cases, there are exceptions) didn't meet the threshold for most guys out there. Sure there will be a few great girls here and there who are newly single after being in unhappy relationships with terrible guys, but do you really want to deal with the baggage? The early bird catches the worm. Great girls who make a wonderful catch are a finite resource, especially in today's uber-liberal society.
I agree with everything L2D said (as always, the man oozes wisdom from his pores) haha. If you are a girl, especially a really pretty one, you can kind of afford to sit back and chill a bit. You have a greater chance of being approached by guys and being courted even if you are pretty inactive yourself. Girls have it easier...you can be at the gym, school, bar/club, bookstore, mall, heck even the supermarket buying some milk (in your "ugliest" pair of sweats and an old worn shirt, with no makeup) and you have a pretty decent chance of being approached, talked to, smiled at, etc. by guys as long as you look friendly and approachable enough. Maybe not so if you have on an angry face and look antisocial. But seriously, what i'm getting at here is that women can get away with taking a more passive road and still succeed. If a woman actually puts effort into it and actively starts going out to places that are fun and where lots of single guys abound she is multiplying her chances x10.
Guys don't have it so easy. Unless you happen to be Adonis reincarnated or completely loaded and displaying your wealth as a status symbol everywhere you go, women don't just flock to you. In the latter case you are attracting the WRONG type of woman, similarly to when you wait to become a doctor...since lots of women there will simply see you as a cash source for their expensive tastes. A guy who "sits and waits" and hopes to bump into his next gf randomly while following his daily routine is really setting himself up to fail, and will be alone and prospectless most of the time. You have to actively go out there look. Be aggressive and don't settle. Out of all the girls i've ever dated, only ONE of them pursued me. I chased and conquered all of the others. Had I been passive, I would have been pretty lonely all these years.
Don't get so caught up in your books that you are completely trapped by school. There are OTHER places to date besides your med school class in the future. At the very least get out there and study at barnes and noble or a quiet corner at starbucks instead of your school's lonely and musty library...these places are filled with cute girls. When your friends invite you out for a little fun, unless you have a major final the next morning, take them on the offer. Go fun places. Try something new - take dance lessons. Here in miami, of course because of the influence of latin culture, there are TONS of places to dance salsa...take a couple of lessons and you will be amazed at the quality and sheer number of great girls you can find in these places. They're a gold mine. Be optimistic and charismatic, and confident. Confidence is #1...if you aren't that confident in yourself, fake it at first, and then eventually you will slowly
become confident - that's the #1 tool under your belt, regardless of whether you are a "hunk" or an average looking guy. Confidence is the main part of your game.
You can't sit and wait for the handful of pretty girls you may or may not have in your med school class. Since no one else said it, i'll be the edgy one and take the risk - most of the girls in your class will not be that pretty. take 80 or so girls and put them on a curve - that's more or less what you'll get. There will be lots of girls in the average range, a few (no more than 10) really pretty ones, and several that well, you know what i mean...i'll be nice. I'm a pretty picky guy with fairly strict standards when it comes to relationships and I don't settle. How many of those 10 will already be taken when you start? What about the other single guys in the class? There's bound to be a few of them at least who are better built than you or have more game - they will probably pursue the top girls too. THEN what do you do? Don't do that to yourself.
