Box of chocolates?

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  1. medlover247

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    I'm giving my letter writers thank you cards, but a lot of them are professors that I have come to know very well and was wondering if it is appropriate to give them a box of cholocates (which i have already bought).

    And should I give it to them in person?

    Thanks!
     
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  3. nonesuchgirl

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    Yes to in person.

    Chocolates... I assume they're the straight up gift box sort, no pink paper or flowers... then it's okay.
     
  4. AKu2984

    AKu2984 MD to be...

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    I think it's a very nice gesture. I gave my letter writers small gifts as well...and I think you should definitely do it in person.
     
  5. Doc Henry

    Doc Henry blowin' in the wind

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    I totally thought this was going to be a Forrest Gump reference.
     
  6. thoffen

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    You just made me imagine giving my diabetic, 1-footed LOR writer a big box of chocolates. Not trying to make light of diabetes, but even he'd think that was hilarious!
     
  7. medlover247

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    I bought ferrero roche, so I guess i shouldn't wrap them or anything...

    Thanks guys! I was really confused
     
  8. ChubbyChaser

    ChubbyChaser Yummmy

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    Are you asking your LOR writer out on a date?
     
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    No I don't think it's appropriate. Chocolates should be reserved for boyfriends/girlfriends, better give them a thank you card or a starbucks gift card.
     
  10. Pedsbro

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    :laugh::laugh: It'll sure make for a good letter... "I know John/Jane in ways nobody else does..."
     
  11. beachblonde

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    Chocolates can only be enjoyed by those in a relationship, as given to them by their significant other?

    That's just silly. It's not like they're in a heart shaped box with "I love you" written on it.

    OP, chocolates are usually a very nice and safe thank you gift. It's the gesture that counts more than the gift itself, and I'm sure your letter writers will appreciate the gift.
     
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    eh... Iono... food is always a touchy subject for gifts I think. What if they are allergic to peanuts or glutin? or if they are on a no sugar diet?
     
  13. Pedsbro

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    Stick them with an EpiPen:laugh: Lame, I know....:thumbdown:
     
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    EpiPEN Aegis of Immortality

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    In more ways than one, if you catch my drift ;)



    like you can stab them on the arm... the leg...
     
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    :bow:
     
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  17. GoldShadow

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    Mama always said that life is like a box of chocolates; you never know what you're gonna get.
     
  18. EpiPEN

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    I know what you are going get


    a chocolate


    if not, you got jipped
     
  19. LizzyM

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    Give them. Some faculty who get something that they don't eat (or they don't want to be a pig & eat the whole box) will pass them around to other faculty members or share them with staffers. :hardy: It is a sweet gesture, if you'll pardon the pun.
     
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    Give them something off the McDonald's dollar menu
     
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    Oohh I love ferrero rocher...partly the reason for my forum name "rocha.." lol:love:
     
  22. Nanon

    Nanon An urban myth.

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    I gave one of them a nice bottle of wine. Another got tequilla (she likes Petrone), and another one got my home-made oatmeal cookies, because he loves them. I like to spoil people who say nice things about me...:love:

    S.
     
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    Me tooo!!! They are the best. I kind of want to just eat them myself, its soo tempting :p
     
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    When's the most appropriate time to give the thank you gift?

    I've already requested the letter from my letter writers. They haven't written them or submitted them to the reference letter service yet.

    I recently returned from a trip abroad and gave all of them souvenirs. This is unrelated to the LOR, as I brought souvenirs for a lot of other people, too. I'm not sure if this already counts as the thank you gift, or if I should get them something else, later.

    If I also deliver thank you cards, is there any need to give an additional thank you gift after they finish writing and submit the letters? This gift would be specifically for the LOR (I would say "Thank you for writing a LOR, here's a token of my appreciation" or something.)
     
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    After they've written the LOR. The only time I would say it's ok to write the thank you note before they've submitted it is if they're really dragging their feet: "Thanks for offering to write me a letter...if you need anything, please let me know..."

    You don't need to get them a gift. I gave thank you cards for most of my letters, and it was fine. A sincere note is sufficient.
     
  26. muscles

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    I don't really think a gift is necessary; chocolates and alcohol? Personally I don't think its really appropriate...
    I think a personalized thank you letter telling how grateful you are for all their help and how appreciative you are... is sufficient and would be more appreciated than a gift.
     
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    I agree. In the situation where someone has already bought some (relatively) inexpensive bonbons and wants to know if they are OK to give, then yes, it's ok but a well written thank you note at any time is always a good choice.
     

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