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That's not how guys think. They think of themselves first. Always. If men love and want to be with a woman he would marry her, the fact that he didn't means he doesn't see me in his future or at the very least has doubts. On top of that bought a house and didn't even include me.
I think it's how men think when more than one confides in me as a friend, about these very feelings when considering asking a gf to move to be with them.
My friends, who just got married after 5 years, said exactly that to me. He wasn't ready to get engaged to his longtime gf of what I think was 3 years, but it was a serious relationship they were having that they wanted to move to marriage when it felt right. Anyway, he said what I told you about feeling responsible and worrying about her feelings and all that, asked her to move, she did. He felt pretty responsible. Flash forward 2 years, they're married.
He'd been engaged in a 10 yr relationship with a shared house that ended badly (on account of the woman having feelings that she wasn't sharing with him!!!! She felt pressure to get married, which he never meant, and would have backed off if she'd COMMUNICATED. Sometimes men are the ones wanting marriage, and a woman doesn't).
The gf now wife, had moved for a guy before, and it went badly. She'd also had several bfs that tried to push her for an engagement in less than a year.
Both of them were cautious, had big deal careers, and reasons to take things slow. They did, they got engaged eventually, and married not too long after the engagement.
Anyway, I also talked to quite a few guys who had moved gfs and families for med school. They do really feel a lot of responsibility.